Has romance died?

Has Romance died in our day and age? All the fairtales that are told to children seem to be misleading because there are sooooo many divorces . Is romance important in a relationship or is it just simply over looked?

We are all not made form the same cookie cutter , so of coarse there are still hopeless romantics and there are those who pull cheap tricks just to swoon someone for their own personal use and then they go right out the door .

For me I am in a relationship for 2 yrs now and my bf is not very romantic and I have heard all these stories that he mentions about his "x's" and what he did for them and blah blah blah but it hurts to know that I wont be getting that special treatment , or at least that one moment that is filled with joy and tears just because he thought of me and thought he'd make my any ordinary day seem soo much better just because . I don't know I guess I am a little romantic and he's not even close to being romantic, but is asking for a little consideration and thoughtfulness to much to ask? But then again we are all made form a different mold and sometimes time will tell...

So I'm asking what was the most romantic experience in your life?

doesn't necessarily = romance

Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning

It can lead up to it or be part of it. Romance doesnt have to be complicated and sometimes the simplest things can be more then enough .

ANYWAYS... whats your most romantic moment ?

Standing near the bridge, near the water, and both my date and I staring at each others reflections in the water...and then smiling...I put my fingertips on her image of her lips that I saw reflected on the water...she smiled....and thats when we both knew...
Its as if time had stopped...an eternity...

Evelina,

Your BF....sounds very insecure/immature...to be mentioning his past X's...
He should make you feel secure, and wanted, and precious as if you were the only
woman in the world...he should cherish you....and respect your feelings....
In essence he should love you....

is that love?

Sounds very romantic to me.

Its a start....

romantic? yes, i agree but is it love? he mentioned love in his post as that might be a must to romance.

Romance leads to Love....but if you are romantic...are you not somewhat infatuated or close to being in Love?

With a perfect start like that your romance is certain to continue getting better.

yes, it definitely may. ah, in love or infatuated. yes, that too.

and i wasn't insinuating that true love and romance can't enhance each other but they may be somewhat seperate too.. i find "in love" and "love" not exactly the same.


definitely. may love blossom. na zdrowie. :D

I think most men, should approach a woman, if he is interested, as if she were the only woman in the world left.....if not he has no business going on a casual date...I believe it creates unrealistic expectations...and if he is doing it for that reason, then his motives are not, in the highest respect, ideal....
Love and romance, bring life and excitement, when with the right person..
It makes you glad to be alive....and its inspiring...
We have too many wars and violence and need more love in our lives....whether sincere or romantic, or the start of something beautiful to lead to true love.....

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength,
While loving someone deeply gives you courage.

OMG! Is plk123 actually showing compassion for another human being? Pinch me, I'm must be dreaming. Who kidnapped the REAL plk123??? LOL!

;) :)

I don't believe romance has died - It is simply a matter of being with someone one that you are truly inspired at your heart to be with.

the problem with romance is that some women have read all these books, seen movies and such and have in their head romance should be like a story book.
they have high expectations of what should be romance and not.

you just answered your own question.
its a fairy tail and thats why its misleading.


no, not really, atleast not always



above is that story book attitude. when a man does above and one day is not in the mood to court the women 5 years after they have been together, the women will start to freak out and ask why isnt he doing it anymore.
my point is that you build up expectations that one day you wont live up to.

totally disagree with above statement. you should start a relationship off casual and see where it goes. this way there is zero expectations and if something more comes of it, its quite the pleasant surprise.

That doesn't sound like a romance to me. More like desperation? A drive to perpetuate the species? ;)

See thats the thing he does love me , he's just not romantic , I always joke that he is as romantic as a cactus . LOL

Now romance doesn't always lead to love, but it's a start , you can't be wooing someone and expect to catch them fall for you , every one has free will.

Dating is like trying on a pair of shoes, they may look pretty in the window but once you try them on they don't fit , so you try another pair until you find the perfect fit.

IF you dont have the stamina get out of the kitchen...stop playing little boy games and grow up and act like a man...is it casual sex or showing off the macho immature ******** that most BOYS have......Y0U are probably too young to recognize what Love is....what your pants growing....Or has your Ego has been deflated in the past?....Most men think of love as Sex...
True romance is appreciation and Poetic....

A man does not make love to a million women but loves a woman in a million ways...
thats all, Ask or read about all the great lovers....

if he loves you that should be enough.

Sometimes you just need that reasurance that you are special and appreciated

if you need to read books and such, thats your problem.


im 37 and divorced. who knows what love is nowadays.



every persons ego has been knocked down at one point or another, its all part of the game. instead of reading books, go play it.


go write some poems, see how far that gets you in modern times.

if you need to be reassured something is either not right with your thoughts on the relationship(insecure) or the relationship isnt as strong as you think.

Yes well things are oon th up and up right now so we shall see how long it lasts and this thread has comepletely gone in the wrong directions lol ..... Thanks but lol ... time to refocus....


What are you most romantic moments ? Or what was the most romantic thing you have ever done for someone?