Has romance died?

Several months ago, I really fancied someone. She is in her mid 30s and it was her birthday. She had told me that it was a joke among her and her mom and her friends that every birthday was her '29th birthday'. Well just prior to her birthday, she was having a rough time of sorts, and was really blaming herself for much of the misfortune. We are so often our toughest critics, and she was no different. So for her birthday I had written a list called 29 Things I Find Remarkable About You(since 29 was the magic number). But I not only presented that list, but it was important for me to read it to her.

I not only listed each quality, but gave examples of when she displayed those qualities around me. It was just important to me that she knew this wasn't some list of words I looked up, but it was remarkable qualities she had proven true.

As far as romance being 'dead' -- I don't think it is -- I just think it's hard to find a romantic. Which I feel at the core is someone who never takes another for granted. It's very easy to get into a routine for feel so comfortable with someone that you forget how important to you they are. For me, a romance isn't necessarily about fairy tales, or something in a novel -- it's just about *mutual* appreciation for having that special someone in your life. If you truly have that, then all of that 'fairy tale' stuff just comes about naturally.

[i]you r very sensual, i think you are very much the romantic, ay?....and romance has not died. i believe it is connected with intimacy as well, the silent touch, soft stare. its a wave of feelings that you dont forget. it takes me through my day, til i see my sweet again.

That is very true. That is very sweet what you did for your special friend.

Well In 3 days it will be our 2 yr anniversary , and I have been working on this gift for a little while, so It has been 24 months together , I have carefully writen out my heart felt quotes on sheets of paper slightly smaller then an index card and decorated each one with flancy paper quilling and coligraphy (bc well I'm artistic and the fru fur fancy stuff comes naturally to me ) , placing each one in an individual envelope which I have decorated a fancy silver and gold seal on each one with a pink heart in the center , tied groups of 6 at the top and bottum with delocate sheer red ribbon and at the bottum of each bundle is a box in red with a huge pink bow with 1 item or items in each 4 boxes explaining a specific moment we have shared and how I hope to keep sharing these moments threw the next yr(S). Now the 4th box has a gold antique fancy key which I have had engraved with a I love you in his language and on the other side in mine and a letter describing how I have felt threw the 2 yrs and how much our love has grown . there will be 2 heart shaped balloons one a little higher then the other tied on the top of each bundle of envelopes holding them up in a row with the boxes as the weights at the bottums, it looks very lovely ( martha stewart eat your heart out lol) . Sooo I can't wait to give it to him .This is the most romantic thing I have done for someone and hopefully it will have a great outcome.

oh my... you are sooo in love, as I. my sweet is romantic when need be, but his memory is awful... he forgets my birth date, special days, our 2 yrs...etc.. So im just saying, dont be disappointed. There must be tons of other reasons to love him so.
sweet dreams.

Yes there are but it's a nice little sentimental gift and yes this one remembers everything ... And thats the point I'm not expecting anything from him just a smile , that make everything worth it . I just thought I would do something no one has done for him , and it's just a nice way to show that I remember all those moments we shared and ya they are special. Who doesn't want to get something heart felt from their special someone?

so how did the anniversary go?

I was perfect, better then I could have possibly imagined. I came out of class and went to my class and ym car was filled with rose . Then when I stoped over his house everything went smoothly and I couldn't even ask for anything more.

I once rode a pushbike 20 miles in the rain to put some flowers on the doorstep of a lady...is that romantic....?

That's really sweet. Did you leave the flowers there and pedal back, or did she let you in?

it is romantic....some guys don't even know where to buy flowers...

You got to be a it rational and adult when talking about romance - don't make things so mystical and unreal and intangible - they are not like that


b realistic. be kind and humane and like people and understand we are all very similar

Feminism thinks that romance is overblown and exaggerated = it servrs to differentiate men from women . and that this serves to enslave women and give men a hard time too. flowers, chivalry, mysteriousness.

They have a good point .

Let's be rational and look at what what is going on here .

Great to want a person and get your needs met , have fun and companionship and lust and attachment (this is Ok , and very human ), but don't pretend "romance" drops out of the sky and is like something on the movies Jane Austen , ..... everyone must be aprince, a hero , or rich or beautiful or perfect etc etc ....girls are girls and boys are boys, but boys are tough and girls are girlie and have to spend all their time prettying themselves (for men's pleasure) ,

women have these extraordinary things that are so irrational, deep and mysterious called emotions (which men don't have of course ) ( Ha, ha , ha , ha )

We are actually very similar - that doesn't take a huge intelligence to understand now does it ?

Let's get real, get educated and get equal a bit more ?

We are all the same underneath , not some fairy tale princess who needs a prince to fight the dragon, Women can do the same things and feel the same as men - and broadly speaking they do .

gender difference needs to be taken with a pinch of salt - romance needs to be understood for what it is - very often an overblown myth which depends on being mysterious and neurotic

Don't lets use romance as a term for some medieval and old-fashioned concept of keeping men as being so so so different from men. They are not. And we are not