I have met a wonderful Polish woman, but she has a 9 yrs old daughter

I Have met.
A Wonderful Woman..
Polish of course :) Or this would be the wrong Forum Lol.

Im very nervous..
She has a 9 yr old daughter.
I Dont know if any of you have daughters a simalar age..
It has been a long time.. and im not sure of the things they like..
I want her to be friends.

I Plan to be myself.. :))))))) But it would be nice to be able to connect.
If you understand my meaning. :)
Any hints or help would be.. Mind blowing.. :))
Yes i can cook a Lil.
I cant paint.. but i love trying..
And Fun.. is in my nature. :)

Thanks :))

Hi Firestorm.....

I have a daughter (she is eight) and she loves having stories read to her, she loves to paint, to catch bugs in jars then look on the computer to see what kind of bug, she loves horses, animals in general, making cookies and playing games.

Kids love attention. Just having an adult listen to them and take interest is a really big deal! So even if you just sit on the floor and let her explain to you everything about toys or school whatever....you will be a hero. You will be fine :) Don't be nervous! Kids are normal people.....only shorter. :)

Dont worry so much abuot what her daughter is gonna think...focus on the woman. Cuz you can be friends with a 9yr old all you want, wont make a difference if she gives u the boot cuz you started actin funny.

In general...having the mindset of 'being yourself' is not such a great way to think.

yes, im a fan of truly BEING yourself...but to verballly say this sentence shows theres a whole lot of other meanings behind it...like she should 'respect me for who i am'.

And things like that.

Sure, she will "respect" you, but i dont think any guy really wants ONLY 'respect' from a woman. If you really want it to be a natural and lasting relationship...i suggest you start to learn more abuot what women REALLY want. Its so funny that this subject keeps coming up....

http://www.polishforums.com/girl_wants-9_9759_32.html#msg169081

Really, im here to help u...so dont take offense to anything.

You need help!....you obviously have issues with respecting women, did your mum dress you up as a girl and lock you in a cupboard or sth

No, im just not a p-ussy ass like most male adults these days...cant even call them men

I think it's great that you want to be involved with the daughter!!!!
Just as the beggining get her some gift like trendy doll (they will direct you the right way in toys'r' us).
Any board games will make it too (its going to be fun for both of you).
Aquarium trip, zoo trip and you are all set!
Good luck!

Thats typical coming from a yank from da hood!!!...no respect for women and its a shame, your not being real at all, whats real about you?...you talk of woman like they are a piece of meat....tut tut tut....

P.S. just remember who carried you for nine months, gave birth to you, fed your sorry ass till you can fend for yourself....fix up, thats all...peace

and how does it work for you?

run run run !

Listen NateNobody..
I'd rather ask my Cat than take anything you have to say seriously.
I read your other post.. ( What women want )
I Got Spammed by the author of the book you took your quotes from.
He was crap too.

I Asked for constructive sudgestions.
Not the bloated self oppinionated ramblings of an of a self obsessive. Control freak.
Of course her daughter is Important.
She's part of the Family i want to be with.

And i dont think it would be good for her to have a stranger step into her world and start putting his stamp on it.
I Want her to except me.. Not regret my intrusion into her life.
Besides, If she hates me. Do you think her mom will risk allienating her own daughter to be with me.?

Dont bother answering.. Its ( NO )
Go away and scratch your Records.. Twirl your crack pipe. And polish your bling.
What you know about women and relationships can be printed on a pinhead in Bold 3inch capitals.


Thanks Shopgirl. And sylablaw :))
I do know she likes games and stories. Cool ideas :)))
I Know she likes Dolls. ( She has a pot one )
I'm actually looking forward to it. :)))

The fact that you feel this way is enough in it's self. just be yourself with her and you'll be fine. :)

firestorm..

I have to say,, this is funny.. thanks for chuckle before I have to go to work..

I think you will be fine :) you seem to have good sense.. Best wishes.

the best post in a long time!

Hi

I have a daughter and son. My daughter is 8 years old and they have met my Polish boyfriend who is much younger than me. They get on well as he is a very nice down to earth person. Just be yourself and listen to what she has to say. If she is playing get involved in it if she wants you to. Find out what she likes at the moment and do an activity related to it with her mum.

A golden rule is, that when you are together DONT be all over her mum and ignore her. My daughter gets jealous when my bfriend hugs me as he is very loving and she comes over and says "My Mummy" I think it is a good thing for them to see that I am with a caring loving person, but sometimes when I am geting lots of love, they think that I am being taken away from them. My daughter more so than my son who is older.

If the two of you have a good relationship, her daughter will see it. She will like the fact her mum is happy. Take is slow. It will be a gradual process. Everything will be fine. Good luck

firestorm: were you 9 at one time? think back, think about the ways you were.. the nlisten to the ladies above and you'll be fine.. kids may bite.. but that's more of a love thing then anything. don't be skeert. :D

I too have met a wonderful 27 year old Polish girl. Sex is good, she is a good cook, and I believe I love her.She however is still married, though separated with an 8 year old son in Poland.

She will NOT consider seeking a divorce, as he husband has threatened to take custody of her son. She is worried that as she is in UK andonly sees son 2/3 times a year, a Court may uphold her husbands wishes.

She fell pregant, I was stupid, but the complications meant thay she would not contemplate having the child,, for fear that she would be branded as a ***** in her village , and fear of loosing her so,

I am 57 and she is only 27, so a child to me would have been a serious change in lifestyle, but deep inside I regret our joint decision to have an abortion.

would you stp bragging about your sexlife with a 27 yr old! its so tasteless! you can give people advice about their situation, but nobody wants to know whats going on in your bedroom.

I would suggest being very careful and on your toes. The girl of nine will be very close to her mother (and understandably) as that is all she knows. Now, you are entering in to her life and that is seen by her as a big threat. The daughter will do all in her power to try and push you two apart by stealing all your things and money. Poles do this a lot and are very successful at stealing other people's property. Stay way and look elsewhere is my advice. Mind you. as they say, love is always blind.

and she wasn't worried when she left Poland? haha it's pretty sad I must say when such old horses are looking for fun in the UK or wherever else having a family in another country.

they successfully stole yours, so im sure you know what youre talking about



yeah and in this case she got herself a horse 30 years her senior! way to go, a sugar daddy ha ha

They've obviously stolen your brain


Also, just because she feels threatened by you doesn't mean she will steal your possessions. We're not gypsies

That's heavy. Sorry to hear about your situation.

a girl who is 9 years old? its amazing that you say all these things being yourself a man married to a Polish woman and with a Polish daughter. do you keep all your valuable possesions locked in a safe, so they dont run off with them? i wish your family read your posts here one day and see what a vile, arrogant, ignorant, RACIST and paranoid little man you are. i wish that one day you will find yourself all alone with noone who cares about you, because they all left you cos of your paranoia and insecurities. that is just what you deserve.

Well said JustysiaS. I thought the same. Pathetic guy really... What have his wife done to him so bad, that he thinks about her this way?
I think he's doing this on purpouse, so I would just say... nie karmić trolla ;)

And edditwop... I read about your girlfriend in every topic here... It's really boring now. I don't really know what's that girl doing with you, if she loves her son so much... Probably her husband doesn't even know they are separated and would be very suprised hearing about it ;) Maybe you don't know but in Poland taking a child from the mother is almost impossible. Even if she was somewhat crazy and a bad mother and he was the best father in the world, the judge would still probably give the child to her... And what would the people in her village talk about if they are already separated? You giving any money to her? Helping her in some ways? Giving her place to live or what?

I thinks it's wrong to claim a whole ethnicity of women or region are out to get men and steal their money. If you had/have or a sister or a mother and still tell people these things its shameful and unforgivable.

Firestorm i wish you luck but you should be careful. I lost my father when i was 12... i was three years older than her daughter but i think here situation might be similar. I mean, i have had very negative attitude to every man who my mother met. She have found "new friend" too fast for me, i didn't notice when she began flirt with him. I was feeling terrible, because i simply couldn't accept him, in my mind i had only me and my mother, nobody else. I have made many shaming and painful things which i shouldn't do. It lasted pretty long time... Now i know it's her life and i don't mind what she is doing, although i know about their love letters etc, what still makes me a bit sick. I hope your situation will be different and both girls will accept you, but remember about it.

Well said. Are these not very much the same words as I was using in an above thread? I was making almost the same point above, but sadly, as is the usual case on this Forum, I have been misunderstood and wrongly misunderstood.

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww! if i read right, you said the daughter will try split them up an steal the guys belongings, cos that is what Polish people do. cut the bullsh*t about being hurt ans misunderstood. and what the hell is 'i have been misunderstood and wrongly and understood' bit all about?

yeah very well said, my father didn't pass away but him and my mother split up, at first i was very weary of 'new friends' or 'replacement dad/mum' HOwever with age comes maturety, so you eventually realise that your mother and father are not replacable, whetehr or not your mum and dad have a new partner or even if you loose either parent during your life, they are your 'mum & dad' nothing will ever change that.

As for your situation firestorm, i would let your lady friend make all the decisions about introductions, meetings etc etc, i think it could be handled really well if time is taken and a lot of thought given to the childs point of view. I think you will be find and even if the relationship with the ladies child dosen't start of well she will need time to get used to you and in the future it will improve.

I wish you all the best with your new 'lady friend'

cheers

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Please note the identical words that i had written earlier...'in my mind I had only me and my mother, nobody else...' enough said as I had written earlier. True or false?