having an affair with a Polish man (but he has a wife and a child)

i wish i lived in your world

we all make our own little worlds....it depends on our acts now and our nature (which is reflected from our past), on how the future of this world will be.

LoneStranger ... read my post again as well. If you find a part Im saying that you are wrong .... I will bend down on my knee...
What I said is (your response is one more example) that you are hot-headed rash... so I just suggest to take it more easy...
Am I better ? not at all.
One more time IF you read my post carefully you will see that I am looking in the same direction as you.
Anyway I take this lesson ... next time will express myself more clear I PROMISE I WILL TRY TO WRITE WITH CAPITAL LETTERS.

And cool down pal...I look at life through my previous experiance so I believe you do as well .... For me people do not have bad intention all the time ....
Did you ever try yoga ?

and by the way ... Im talking only about you LS and myself .... it does not even touch mobile.

you seem to see what I was talking about (see above). Now try to understand and use it as well
Have fun Lone Stranger, so do I

You are the first person to say me that ... and I do practice some yoga and simple forms of meditation at day break every dawn.

No my friend...none of my posts were intended to hurt any feelings. They were only my strong opinions which I posted here. It is a forum, where you and me....both express ourselves... and be happy about it.

You dont need to write in All Caps.... i understand you in the normal method too ..

mobile,

Why did you post this topic ?

I see someone who has doubts about their relationship and no matter how hard you try you are well aware of the wife back home in Poland. You know in your heart of hearts that you invited him into your bed and you also know that one day he will go home. He's not going to get a divorce until he does. As a man, I will tell you that he is using you. As much as you are using him. There really is no point to your post at all unless you want help. So, What is really bothering you ? Do you feel guilty ?

LoneStranger ... give me a five

forgetmenots: 5

i love your thinking Lone hun ... we are born then we die ... what you do inbetween is upto you --- its my little motto

We do make are own way in life with guidance from factors and forces but inevitably it is we as individuals that make the decisions and choices in our lives and have to live with them

We all make our own reality - it depends on what you want your reality to be, that's the deep moral question!!!!!

i dont know why i posted this topic but in mt opinion you have no right to say he will not leave his wife for me... why do you think that? i am very nice and we like each other a lot so how the hell can u say that

wrowclaw that was to you.... and i also think most people on this forum would do exactly the same as me just dont want to admit it

Not trying to give you a hard time at all. As for your age, I asked because usually in life, we grow out of self-centered satisfaction and consider the consequences of our actions where everyone (ie: wife, child) is concerned. That's what growing up entails, hence the reason I asked your age. To me, you sound very young, naive, and inexperienced. As for your lover, well he's a guy, and sometimes they never outgrow the self-centerdness ---to be fair, some women don't either.


Did you honestly think anyone was going to tell you it was a good idea? Maybe you hoped someone else on here has had a similar experience that turned out in their favor, but I think the odds are against you. Just being honest. I hope for your sake, things do work out for you----I don't wish heartbreak on anyone. But as I said before, what usually goes around,comes around, so be careful for what you wish for---you just might get it.

mobile,

I have everything I need right here. I might flirt and I might be tempted, but I'm not stupid enough to screw up my marriage.

How do I know ? Because I'm old enough to have seen it in others.

There is more to a relationship than sex. And it's not so easy to face up to a divorce.

well it depends what u want out of life, if i find someone i like and want i will go for it whatever

And that's it. You are thinking of yourself and not his family.

Picture the day he says to his daughter 'I'm getting divorced, don't bother to phone'

Do you really think it is that easy to take a man ?

It will take a lot longer than two months before he risks everything to marry you.

yes i agree and no he wont say im getting divorced dont phone to his daughter. he will obviusly explain.. i am thinking of myself and why shouldnt i? he is also thinking of himself and if they were happily married and rock solid then this wouldnt be happening would it? i think what we have together is worth the risk on both parts

Wow...this thread is getting looong.

yeah too long.... life is for living and im not gonna live to regret what might have been... i say go with your heart

If you two are rock solid then don't you think he should at least tell his wife. At least that way she will be free to do as she wishes. She will also be able to make plans for her daughter, who is the innocent party in all of this.

My bet is that he won't tell her.

Yet

when it's too late

But you aren't ready to marry him, are you? I feel a little sorry for the guy as he might think your relationship is stronger than his marriage but in fact you may just look for a short-term relationship.

At least he's a good shag though.......

I think you both are thinking with more than just the heart---at least he is

i didnt say we are rock solid. i said he and wife arent rock solid.. as i said beforelife is for living and im not gonna live to regret what might have been... i am going with my heart.. and i dont think now is the right time to tell anyone its too soon

i dont know yet its too soon to tell but yes i like him a lot

someone who actually thinks like me!!!

OK, I understand. But can you tell me how you are going to find out if he is the one you'd like to marry? In order to get to know him well you'd have to spend with him a lot more time and a lot of different situations than you are right now. People don't usually know much about themselves after spending dinners or weekends with each other. You'd have to go be with more real situations with him in order to really get to know him. But since he's married you won't probably get a chance to experience that.

yes he is married but lives about five mins away from me and his wife in poland, we see each other about four or five times a week different situations.. we have very different backgrounds and thats what i need to find out before i ask him to seriously leave his wife to be with me