having an affair with a Polish man (but he has a wife and a child)

At least for the sake of your conscience I don't encourage you to "ask him to leave his wife". You may regret it later in life.

i wouldnt do that not yet anyway. he also doesnt trust me fully yet he always says when we talk about it what if i change my mind and then he is alone!!

I understand what you said.

I'll write no more on this subject. But please stay with the forum so we can get your thoughts on other topics. This thread has gone a long way and I'm glad to see there has been no shouting.

o.k sweet theres no way i am gonna say my thoughts on other forums this was definetly enough!!

"i said he and wife arent rock solid.."

I don't know any marriage that is 100% rock solid. But the difference between you and his wife is that they were blessed on their marriage day and that is likely to steer them out of divorce.

well said Ranj

no, speak for youself, you are the one who is sleeping with a married man, not me or many other people. You are looking for justification of what you have done, but deep inside you know it's WRONG.
You seem to feel insecure in that realtionship, that's why you have posted it.

yes ok its wrong but it feels good so i dont care

You are 29 - is that your first real relationship that "feels good"?

so finish off the discussion, otherwise I will think that you you a bit more than an attention seeker

i didnt ask what you think! why do you keep on this forunm then is your life that boring darling

no but why stop if it feels good and none of us want to end it would you stop?

bacause I met some nice people here and perhaps according to your standars my life is boring, however I would not have an affair with a married guy(because my life is boring)
Life is boring at times and some people are OK with it, including me. Than again - it a matter of perception
You don't have to get personal here -you are the one who has a problem, not me

Yes. I wouldn't want to be a homewrecker. It's not moral.

i am not the homewrecker he is!

In such cases the best thing is not to even start. But since you already started... Let me give you a piece of good advice. I once was in love with a girl (she was single I was single too). I knew her for several months but then we had to part and lived 200 miles away from each other. We could only see once a couple of months. During the first 2-4 months I was in a big pain as I couldn't stand it that I couldn't see her more often. But after that I realized she wasn't so special and there were many different and equally great girls right around the corner.

So - as a test - tell him you won't see him sooner than in a month. IF your feelings are still strong, I guess there's nothing we could help you with. But maybe during this month or so you'll realize what you do to him and his family and the "feel-good" feeling will turn to somebody else.

hehe

Next you'll be telling us you're the victim How the evil, nasty, dulcet toned, handsome, chisel jawed Polish Casanova came bounding into your life on his white steed, sweeping you off your feet and into your bed, all the while you were whimpering your protestations. "No, no think of your wife and child."
He whispered "Ah hush and fie, you can't fight destiny" and before you knew it, he had fell for you. It was never meant to be, but now he wants you more than anything in this world.

Until he goes home that is.

Please spare us

your very funny, only time will tell

o.k i will try that i have stopped for two weeks and still felt the same

ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!

The both of you are.

I use to have friends who did this. I've see the turmoil it causes first hand....

Hmm. So then, he'll just keep cheating on his wife until he finds someone worth leaving her for? What a man! Ha. It's surprising he's able to perform in bed at all. No backbone. No balls. No fun. Better run...

your right might just do that!!!

You Jezebel !!

so what happened in the end?

oh its such a hard life!!

All of them told the girls whatever they had to in order to give it to them the way their wives wouldn't. One guy told his girl that he loved her , was leaving his wife, and planned to move in with her. All of them had no intentions of leaving their wives and dumped their girlfriends when things go too complicated.

As far as my first hand experience goes, I filed for divorce against my cheaing wife. She thought things were greener on the other side. The catch is that her boy never planned on leaving his wife. In fact when I spoke to his wife, she thought their relationship was as good as it got and never thought it could happen to her. 4 broken hearts, 2 families now divorcing, and 2 kids that will now have to grow up splitting time between parents.

My life is almost ready to be back on track with a lot to look foward to. I couldn't have written it any better

You know what you're doing is wrong. If you didn't, you wouldn't have posted your circumstances here. If the man really wants you, tell him to get lost and come back when he has his divorce papers. I will think twice before I marry again. I would like another child and for my daughter a sibling, but not right now... I'd date someone for at least a year before taking a relationship further. She'd also have to understand that my daughter comes before her...unless we had children. Then the kids come before her.

you know what i think your right im gonna say that to him today and see how it goes or probably doesnt go.. thankyou

Mobile sorry to tell you but nothing will come out of it...nothing at least for you...he is using you for fun ( i guess that is ok since you have fun too). He will not divorce his wife. He came to UK to make money. Dream on ...

maybe maybe not.. yes he is here to make money and what are you saying he cant fall in love with an english woman? like this kinda thing has never happened before!!!