Hell why not (attractive, intelligent female, Newcastle/Durham area)

Well this looks like a new sub-section of the forum so I thought why not. I'm recently single, attractive and intelligent and live in County Durham, so if there's any cute single Polish guys in the Newcastle/Durham area would like to drop me a line with a view to sharing a coffee or beer then heck, go on...

Oh my god, just looked at my new post this morning and it sounds a little desperate, oops, it's not meant to... would be nice to meet someone locally who spoke Polish as I am trying to learn it and well, if that someone happened to be a guy then great.. but I retract any potential shred of Saturday night spent alone in front of my PC after getting shot of horrid ex desperation in the grey morning light :0)

Sounds just fine.

Aw, thanks :0)

good luck sunflower hunnie :)

goodness gracious me, they've added more to this sad part of the forums. not only was it bad enough watching and reading groveling sad singles looking for polish girls etc, we now have it split into different sections, for heaven's sake what is the world coming too!!!

This falls right into the hands of the sad people who are just looking for 'polish men' or 'poish women' with these new areas. I wouldn't say anything or anybody else's opinions are boring or should not be on the site, that would be wrong, i enjoy debating, talking and responding to people, however coming across sad, desperate individuals who think that looking for love over a forum is a good and normal way to find love have just had fuel given to them for their fire.

I'm going to be honest and i'm fed up of reading this 'CRAP' i have no better words to explain this because that is exactly what it is!!!! i love these forums and mostly everybody on it whether i agree or disagree with them.

I've got an idea why not have 'men looking for blonde polish girls' and 'men looking for brunette polish girls' although i'm sure admin are working on these right now :(.

I don't think there is anything wrong with Sunflowers thread Torny.

Don't be so judgemental please :) It's a nice thread and doesn't deserve those sort of remarks.

Just to point out, firstly my message wasn't directed at Sunflower personally, its just i've been away for a while and i come back to all these extra, uneeded, sad for singles here and singles there, looking for 'polish girl with three arms' or 'polish boy with six fingers' etc etc.

I apologise to Sunflower because it does look like i have directly targeted her, so Sunflower i'm sorry for that, i was trying to make a general point and probably made it in the wrong place.

I wouldn't target somebody directly unless they had hit out at me first or greatly offended me with something they have said, which sunflower has not of course.

Don't read it then.

If someone is sad and pathetic and makes their only post on here looking for a Polish girl/boy, that is their choice.
If someone then hooks up with them because they haven't got a clue, that is also up to them.

On the other hand, I think we know a little more about Sunflower.
Nobody always makes the right choices in life, but
Let's credit her with a little more intelligence.
Maybe someone has had a 'cyber-crush' (oh no, not that again) or something,
lives in the northeast, and will respond
and they all live happily ever after.

You could class me as a 'sad' individual. I'm a single mum don't go out much because of my boys and lack of money so it is hard to meet anyone.
I'v made a lot of friends on here, but i don't think i could class you as one of them. Just knock our confidence even more why don't you. >:-(

well said Lisa :)

Sheesh! Chill out Windy!

Why read these topics if they bother you so much?

Unlike some of these posts you refer too, Sunflower isn't a 'one-hit wonder'.

You shouldn't knock people for trying something new/different.

Edited by Myself due to the fact that for some reason the post above appeared twice.

Me Gods! Got to edit myself now! ;)

i apologised to Sunflower :)


yes thats true mate i can't disagree, however this site seems to bend over backwards to facilitate this type of activity. Probably to boost its hit count or something like that, i'm not really sure. Your also right i do have the choice not to read this crap but seeing it day after day after day after day and sometimes you don't even realise your clicking on it and hay presto, some sad boy/girl again :)

i could but i don't see you advertising :) so i'm not :)
your boy will get older and then you will have time to meet somebody :), my mother herself was a single mother looking after my sister and she is planning on getting married soon, its possible :)
i'm not knocking your confidence, i'm knocking the method

to a certain point :)

Goodluck on your search Sun :-)

Thanks, I felt really cheap and desperate after reading your post initially, which I know I'm not. It's difficult to meet people, I work for myself and I work long hours and after meeting someone last time through a "usual" route, out there in the real world rather than the cyber one, and it didn't work out, I just thought I'd give it a go, hence the hell why not.... You're right that a person's only reason for using this forum as a medium for picking people up is truly a bizarre one, but then who are we to judge at the end of the day without knowing someone's circumstances or even their capacity/ability to meet potential partners or simply make friends in the usual ways?

lol


i think everyone just needs a really good/time consuming hobby :D

hes only young, bless, and has yet to experience what life is like in the real world

True, his got some tough lessons ahead of him with that attitude

I don't think you need to feel like that, i was not aiming my comments specifically at you, it was more of a case about the forum facilitating this kind of thing, i just find it bizarre. I just have one question though, if you haven't got the time to go out and meet a partner how are you going to have time to build a proper relationship with somebody who you meet online?? my point being, if you haven't got time for step one, then how are you going to have time for step 2 and 3 so on and so on??


This is a forum, its all about judgment and opinions without really knowing the other people who post on here, it wouldn't be a forum otherwise, would it??


a time consuming hobby?? what prowling on the net for potential partners, gone have the days where a hobby was a sport or a general interest like reading or fishing. Finding a partner should not be a hobby and nor should it be forced :)


Well i know a lot more than you think :) just because i'm young it does not mean i haven't experienced anything, its about exposure and experiences of which i'm not short of so you can put your 'young' line back in the locker and make it secure with a big padlock :)


Made me smile :)

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i see what you mean, i agree with it

:0( Now I feel worse, I have lots of hobbies, I run, swim, paint and do a part time course in addition to running two businesses.. Admin, any chance I can delete this post, I feel ashamed!!

No reason to feel that way whatsoever..... it was a nice post..... If some people here found it otherwise it says more about them than you Sunflower

lol, no!!!! that wasn't the purpose of my post!!! it was more just joking smartass than anything, mainly because i'm retarded. it sounds like you have a hell of a lot more hobbies than i do. my hobbies basically consist of playing bass, getting tattooed and watching tv. :D if anything i should be the one that feels ashamed after hearing all your hobbies!!!

i agree. I didn't think the post seemed desperate or inappropriate at all.

Don't feel ashamed, Sunflower.....you are a busy woman and there's nothing wrong with meeting someone on the internet......one of my best friends met her husband on the net....he's a doctor and he didn't have a lot of time to go out and try to meet someone.....they've been married now for 6 years and have 2 beautiful children.

Just because some people find it unconventional, it's more commonplace than you think. Don't let somebody who has no idea about your life or the schedule you keep dictate to you that what you are doing is wrong.....

EVERYBODY IS BUSY

I'm sure everybody can claim this or that, i have this to do i have that to do, i can accept that. However if you haven't got the time for a partner why do it. When i was 17-19 i was running and swimming to a very high level, this meant balancing college, work and intense training all at once.

Of course i wanted a parter why not, however i realised that if i haven't got the time to find one then i'm not going to have the time to give her the attention that she requires, It's not a case of right or wrong its a case of realising that sometimes its not the time to have a partner. Its not fair trying to find somebody and then not being able to properly contribute to the relationship due to other interests, commitments etc etc.

SUNFLOWER: please do not think i'm pointing at you personally because i'm not, it just happens that i'm posting on your thread :)

With this I completely agree, but there is a big difference in having time for a partner and having the time to go out and actually meet one.....you will understand as you get older, Tornado, that life just isn't that simple.....

I'm not having a go at you, but I think your judgement of people in general who use the internet as a way of meeting someone is a little unfair. Just because you don't believe in it and would not use it as a tool to meet someone, doesn't mean it doesn't work for others....it also does not mean that those people who meet others on the internet are losers.

When you should not have done do so. Whether you agree with having a Polish Singles section of the Forum or not, you should not have hijacked Sunflower's thread to voice your opinions, which are as valid as any of ours, on her thread.

IMHO you should have started a new thread or found an exisiting one which is more appropriate for your response. Look at it from her perspective. She now views it as a condemnation of her actions and if there was anybody interested in responding they probably will not bother now.