Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man!

Hello everyone. I am an English woman aged 38 and on Christmas night i met a Polish man aged 31. He knew a little English but i knew no Polish; he came back to my house and we stopped trying to speak and made-love instead.
He visited me 2 days later, the evening before flying home - he was only here for Christmas, staying with Polish relatives. We attempted to talk more this time - i had learnt some words on an internet site. I had fallen head over heels in love with him. We exchanged email addresses. He said his computer was broken but could go to an internet cafe.
I have emailed him but heard nothing yet. I am in limbo not knowing if i will ever hear from him again. I swear there was love and sadness in his eyes when he left.
What i would like advice on is this: will he be thinking that i am just a dirty. loose English tart? And therefore not worth staying in touch with? He asked me what my religon was before he left and seemed pleased we are both Catholic despite what we had done together.
Are there any problems sending and receiving emails between here and Poland? Or Apple Mac issues? He only left here on Thursday - perhaps the cafes are all closed. I understand that there is more poverty over there and probably less cyber awareness.
My Polish learning kit is on it's way from Amazon - i hope to Bog i get to use it with the very beautiful man i met. I am so sad that he has gone.
Moje serce jest chore.

Fat chance

No problems there.
My advice: Keep trying. If you don't hear from him in a few days forget him.

Rowan said she fell in love with him. People don't just fall in love that easily. So she's not going to just forget him.

I really feel for you, rowan. The holidays might be the reason he hasn't responded to your emails. And also, at age 31 he might be too immature to understand how this hurts you.

If he doesn't answer will she have a choice?

I don't think she has to forget him even if he never answers. Some experiences are worth remembering forever. But that doesn't mean she won't find love again.

cyber awareness here in Poland is the same as in UK.
not all cafes are closed, there are some open but in the bigest cities, besides it's Christmas Time and Holidays, so usually people spend them with their famillies. and if he has broken comp, he probably dont have time to look for an open cafe.
I would advise you to wait one week more

He probably has internet connection at home.
Maybe his English is not too good and ha just cannot understand you or he has a wife and kids here, sorry, but that happens...

Hope you dont get hurt ... i liked a polish lad but never understood if he liked me even though he did all the playful taps and cuddles and spoke (made the effort) to me but alas it just never materalised. gutted as he is well cute too

Well if you had sex on first date he could think about you in this way, "English slut" (Sorry for honesty), probably right now he is talking about English woman he f**ed. In Poland it is almost impossible to have sex with woman on first date except when she is a PERMISSIVE and this way men in PL think about woman that give ass on first meeting, sorry but you wanted honest answer, probably he is rejoice right now with some beers and friends, if not he truly loves You, but this is 5% chance.

Men are pigs. They'll always be...Unfortunately, Babylon is probably right. I think this guy may also talk now with his buddies in a pub (we have pubs in Poland that he's so great, he could not even speak English well, but f*** British woman on their first "date".

What is kinda romantic for us, for them is just a pure sex. I think he may have even a girlfriend or wife here, that he cheated on ...

Thankyou Kaka. I will wait - until the end of time if i have to!

Once again sorry for my honesty, but I wrote this from my/man point of view. Sorry for the woman cuz now she won't learn Polish probably. But hay woman, this is not sure for 100%, try to contact him, maybe he is not so bad, but if you had sex with him on first date, he won't be so romantic about it. You have done it cuz You want it now don't expect that this Pole is thinking about you all the time, cuz In Poland there are many beautiful girls much much prettier than English women.

Yes i am worried about this, Maati - about his possibly old-fashioned ideas about how women should behave and what to call them afterwards regardless of who seduced who and the fact that we were in it together.
He told me he had an ex-wife and young child but that they weren't together anymore. Surely if they were together, he would have brought them with him to his cousin's baby's Baptism which is why he was here in the first place?

Feral - have you never fallen in love with frightening rapidity? It is the most powerful feeling the world.

Rowan,

You filled a moment with something you both wanted at a particular time. You are no more a tart than he is a gigolo. There are some men, who given the chance would leave their morals at the door step. He knew what he was doing, as you did, and used you to his advantage. He knew he would never see you again. I think you are old enough to realize this. It's time to move on.

This text is just OMG, I can assure that in Poland there is much more cyber awareness. Polish peoples are the most visible on internet international forums (know this from my activity on betting sports forums). Almost everyone has internet at home, and your "boyfriend" has it also at home. "The broken comp" could be a excuse, cuz comp can be fixed very fast and internet connection much faster, you said:

more poverty over there

Well be advise that It this could be true so why he didn't stay in UK and come back to Poland. Poles are just lazy about working in Poland for much less salary, they prefer to work in UK, even though this is hard to adjust in UK climate, etc.

It's ok Babylon - thankyou for your honesty and Polish man's point of view. I am praying for the 5 % you mention.
And in my defence, without meaning to sound arrogant, I am actually pretty gorgeous like Juliette Binoche!

well why does it hurt so much, Wroclaw, so that i can't eat or sleep?

Rowan you made a mistake. Why you slept with him on first date? Do you sleep with every guys on first date?

I am very happy for Polish people all having the internet and someone to come and fix their computer the second it breaks down and then lie about all this just because they have had the honour of sleeping with a single woman who is no better than a slut, apparently.

Call him for 2pi/min to his landlines telephone number at weekend. If you don't have this number than as yourself why? At price 2pi/min you can talk a lot and ask him, if he can come to you or maybe you can come to Poland? Very cheap flights and many attractions in Poland.

No i do not sleep with men on the first date. This was very unusual but i have no way of proving this to the man even if i could speak Polish

Babylon - he asked for my telephone numbers. I was too shy to ask for his.

Once again i'm very sory for my honestly, better be prepared for the worst. And this man-pigs Polish pigs maybe I don't think this is a Polish specialty. Well there are so many Poles in UK, try to find another one and thrown him away.

Looks like i have been very, very stupid doesn't it? I had stopped believing in love and kept myself alone for a long time. Now the minute i meet someone, the whole thing is ruined before it even began.

It hurts because you were lonely and in need of someone. He made you feel good and, unfortunately, you fell for it. If I'm wrong please say so and I'll apologize.

Well You was shy to ask the number and not shy to have sex with him, if you felt for him why not ask about the number, well you didn't know he will not call you. Well if you have his Polish address it is easy to find his number landline, but the next thing is how good he is in English and if he can speak fluently. From what city in Poland he is?

Maybe you can give me his email address and if he answer me I will ask him about his "gadu gadu number" (gg is a polish internet communicator - if he has a internet he has GG online when his computer is on) or maybe I can even talk to him on GG and he will tall me what he think of you, and why he did not answer, is he single, etc.

I was shy to ask for number in case he gave me false one which would have hurt. I did not want to appear needy. I do not have his address either. He has my numbers, address and email - it's up to him. He knows i wanted to take things further.
He lives in Lublin.

hey Babylon - that is really sweet of you but are you sure you will not just meet up for beers to talk about the English slut he f****d?