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Goal: Meet a nice Polish girl!


The Minuteman 1 | 3
19 May 2011 #1
I'm an American, 38 years old. I am so sick of American women with their lies and infidelity! I have researched European and Asian women, and I kept coming back to the Polish girls as my top pick.

I'm in the process of learning the language. In the fall, I plan on traveling to Warsaw in hopes of meeting a nice girl.

How do you like my chances? I'm better than average looking. I am in shape. I have a good job at a stable company. I'm honest. I've never been married and I have no children.

Shouldn't be too difficult, right?
BBman - | 343
19 May 2011 #2
I lived in Poland for a few years and can honestly say that polish women are not much different from Americans women. One thing you have to watch out for is gold diggers and the fact that many of them want to stay in Poland so if your plan is to bring a polish Girl back to the states with you it might be a problem. You'll be popular Among the women in Poland though.
ona polka
19 May 2011 #3
polish women will think that you are a "bitter type" as for you are 40, never had any children, never have been married.

but thinkgs may work out as long as you are very generous with your money :-))))))))))))))))
Eurola 4 | 1,902
19 May 2011 #4
Unless, you really rich... settle for 35+ and wanting a baby now.
OP The Minuteman 1 | 3
19 May 2011 #5
Yeah, I would want to bring her back to the USA. I'm pretty well situated here. I don't think the company I work for is opening an office in Warsaw anytime soon! I'll just keep studying the language and maybe I'll catch one's attention with my American accent while I'm there.

If all they are looking for is money, then I am not looking for them! There must be decent, down to Earth girls in Poland who wouldn't mind starting a new life with a good guy in the USA.

never had any children, never have been married.

I have no children because I never got married. I'm not bitter at all! I just ended up with the wrong girls and spent the rest of my time working.
Eurola 4 | 1,902
19 May 2011 #6
There should be a Polish community in Boston...we are everywhere..ya know. Have you tried any Polish dance clubs? You don't need to uproot a girl from Poland, there might be one right here in the USA; growing up in a nice Polish household in Boston.
A J 4 | 1,077
19 May 2011 #7
Goal: Meet a nice Polish girl!

Shouldn't be a mission impossible? (Good luck man!)

Unless, you really rich... settle for 35+ and wanting a baby now.

Positive feedback and you? Hmm.. Nope!

;)
southern 74 | 7,074
19 May 2011 #8
but thinkgs may work out as long as you are very generous with your money :-))))))))))))))))

This is a key aspect.Polki appreciate generosity.
delphiandomine 88 | 18,131
19 May 2011 #9
I'll just keep studying the language and maybe I'll catch one's attention with my American accent while I'm there.

I can tell you that no-one is going to bat an eyelid at an American accent in Warsaw - they're everywhere.
expatpoland 1 | 4
19 May 2011 #10
But whatever you do, do not try the Polish internet chat rooms. They are full of Prostitutes, Gold digger and girls looking for sponsors.
al111 13 | 89
19 May 2011 #11
and spent the rest of my time working.

Unless you were doing this to avoid being hurt again, i'm sure this is a line you would like to avoid coz it kinda has a negative connotation about yourself. I might be wrong but i will tell you this you have a chance to meet the woman of your dream just be down to earth there are many Polish girls who will understand your situation. You being American doesn't give you the edge though just hope you've been abroad before. Not knowing how long you're gonna be here but Warsaw club scene as a potential meeting place of your future partner then you might as well keep on looking in Boston. You'll need to invest sometime in this otherwise you'll be disappointed again.If you're not afraid of internet dating start now i'm sure you'll have a better chance come fall. There are many polish websites and i'm sure u can ask the folks on here for the good ones. Good luck..
FUZZYWICKETS 8 | 1,879
19 May 2011 #12
I mean, how does this work. You go to Warsaw, walk around not being able to communicate, find some random Polish girl, convince her to come back to the USA with you....forever.....and marry her?

How long do you plan on being in Warsaw? You have a job, can't be gone from that too long.

When you meet this girl, I'm assuming you need to tell her right away, "I'm looking for a wife to take back to America with me." I mean, how friggin' creepy is that? Yeah, that should land you a real winner.

Secondly, let's talk logistics. She needs to have a fiance visa in order to come back to the USA with you with plans of marrying and that is not something that can be acquired in a few days/weeks. Even if you meet this woman and leave her in Poland and then apply for the visa, it still looks VERY suspicious due to the fact that your travel history will show that you could only have known her for a week or two. Guys like you get busted for things like this all the time.

You seem like a guy who has a pretty normal life, no legal problems....just make sure you don't do anything stupid. "I did it for love!" doesn't hold up in court.
southern 74 | 7,074
19 May 2011 #13
The best is to come to Poland and start speaking Russian.A Russian mafia boy is the dream of many Polki.Just kidding.Anyway many polish women told me how much they were complimented during the pick up by the presence of a big car containing the pickuper.It is the equivalent of white horse for the romantic hearts.
Midas 1 | 571
20 May 2011 #14
I mean, how does this work. You go to Warsaw, walk around not being able to communicate, find some random Polish girl, convince her to come back to the USA with you....forever.....and marry her?

How long do you plan on being in Warsaw? You have a job, can't be gone from that too long.

When you meet this girl, I'm assuming you need to tell her right away, "I'm looking for a wife to take back to America with me." I mean, how friggin' creepy is that? Yeah, that should land you a real winner.


It worked exactly like this before the iron curtain came down and well into the 1990's --> come over, speak English, tell everyone You're American/English, show off a little ( I do mean little back in the day ) $$. Then all one had to worry about was avoiding being crushed or smothered to death by Polish girls that were basically all over You, jumping up and down and competing for Your attention. Single, boyfriend, fiancee, married, 20, 30, 40 - made no difference, there were basically throngs of women wanting to get out of Poland and considering a "Westerner" their life's goal and meal ticket.

Ask me how I know :-)

Same thing all over the former Eastern Block, to be fair.

If I were to look for a comparison now... I guess Cuba would be a good place to name. If You come over and happen to have an EU passport ( Americans can't visit Cuban resorts if I understand correctly ) there will be women basically throwing themselves at You to have a reason to leave Fidel's blessed paradise.

Regarding Your questions --> my advice is go for it. Sure, 1989 was 20 years ago and things have somewhat improved in Poland ( Polish people no longer make 10 bucks a month ), so it is unlikely You'll have a group of 20-something local hotties running after You all the time and begging for Your attention.

But some of the stuff I wrote about still applies. A lot of Polish women still get a bad case of weak knees the moment they hear English and a lot of them still consider getting married with a foreigner their life's crowning achievement. So, if You play Your cards rights Your chances of scoring with a hot broad are probably 20 times better in Warsaw than they are wherever You are at in the States right now.

I am so sick of American women with their lies and infidelity!

Polish women don't have a particularly great reputation in that area.

Some of my acquaitances from the 1980's and early 1990's that "imported" a Polish wife found out about it the hard way.

Just saying.

I'm in the process of learning the language.

No need for it apart from a "Jak sie masz" and a few other basics. Trust me, the girls You're targeting will be more than thrilled to learn English for You.

Shouldn't be too difficult, right?

Shouldn't be.

Best of luck.
Harry
20 May 2011 #15
A lot of Polish women still get a bad case of weak knees the moment they hear English and a lot of them still consider getting married with a foreigner their life's crowning achievement.

Not Warsaw girls.

So, if You play Your cards rights Your chances of scoring with a hot broad are probably 20 times better in Warsaw than they are wherever You are at in the States right now.

Only because hot women are 20 times more common here than in the USA.
Midas 1 | 571
20 May 2011 #16
I'll have to disagree.

1) Yup, Warsaw girls too. Not as common as 20 years ago, still not that difficult to find.

2) Only because hot women are 20 times more common here than in the USA.

Can't say I agree. Perhaps there was a case to be made about women in the Eastern Block being slimmer ( not prettier ) in the 1970 or 1980 when Polish women did not stuff themselves with fast foods and other stuff that's full of chemicals.

Now things have pretty much evened out. I see the same amount of fat asses in Warsaw, London and NY.
JustysiaS 13 | 2,238
20 May 2011 #17
Why do you guys keep doing this to yourselves? I know everyone wants the best possible candidate for a partner out there but why does it have to come down to that person being foreign, Polish or whatever else? She will have a completely different mind state to yours (especially if you want a younger woman which I am guessing you do), different upbringing, different values etc. etc. just because she's Polish doesn't mean she will be loyal and honest, it is all about the person. Yes, a lot of Polish women are brought up to be a good wife and mother, to care for their husband and children and not go sleeping around, but them and their parents will most likely expect a Polish bloke, not a single American bachelor, rich or not. I think wealth makes it actually more difficult because as soon as some girls smell the money they will stick to you like glue, but for all the wrong reasons. I would say there is an equal chance for you to find a woman in your country to have all the values and virtues you expect as women in Poland will, and your native local women will have more in common with you too. Saves you long haul flights back and forth to Europe to visit the family whether you like it or not, cos belivee me you will have to do that. I have same questions as Fuzzywickets actually, how do you imagine this 'fishing trip' in Poland? I saw a program about an actual company (can't remember the name) in the US organising trips for American men to Russia in order to help them find wives there, hotel and venues full of single and willing Russian women included. Dunno about 'package holidays' like that to Poland but I am close to being offended at the thought of a western bloke going wife hunting in eastern (Central) Europe because girls over there are supposed to be more submissive and easier to woo, take back home away from their roots and marry. It just doesn't sound right... It's not a flea market!
Pinching Pete - | 554
20 May 2011 #18
It's not a flea market!

Lol, aren't you with an English dude? Not a Polish "bloke"?
JustysiaS 13 | 2,238
20 May 2011 #19
i didn't move to england with a purpose of meeting an english/british bloke. big difference. plus i lived here for nearly 7 years and don't get to meet that many polish men, all of them around here are married or pretending not to be anyway lol
Midas 1 | 571
20 May 2011 #20
Lol, aren't you with an English dude? Not a Polish "bloke"?

My guess is she wrote that because she's not happy with the "competition" --> other Polish ladies coming over, looking for an English gent.

She feels threatened by it.

Justysia - guys visit Poland, former Eastern Bloc and Russia for fishing trips, because they still find women there easier to impress than their local beauties.

Cold hard facts.
southern 74 | 7,074
20 May 2011 #21
they will stick to you like glue

fishing trip' in Poland?

I see my expressions(borrowed from Greek) have a success.Anyway to do a fishing trip to Poland and get some sticky polish girls(and this matters as you will see because with them you never get more than you lose) you need some skills.I mean serious skills close to what would have granted you an average girl in Germany.The skills that get you an average girl in Germany get you a hot girl in Poland but if you don't have them no way to succeed.
JustysiaS 13 | 2,238
20 May 2011 #22
She feels threatened by it

ha ha. that's too funny, plenty of english men to go around in england. i'm not greedy and i got a bf, but other polish girls seem to prefer turks and pakistanis anyway ;)

guys visit Poland, former Eastern Bloc and Russia for fishing trips, because they still find women there easier to impress than their local beauties.

for a one night stand i understand (rhyme unintentional) but for a wife? come on.
southern 74 | 7,074
20 May 2011 #23
other polish girls seem to prefer turks and pakistanis anyway ;)

Is this true?How are these strange preferences explained?I mean in a sea of decent white men going for the colored disadvantaged?
JustysiaS 13 | 2,238
20 May 2011 #24
you ask me, i dunno? they will most likely go for a Polish guy in the end, to marry and have kids with, but seems to be a trend to go for 'exotic' guys. it was never something i wanted or fancied, if i met a decent Polish guy here in Uk then i don't see why not but hey, didn't happen. actually i have one stalking me, but that's another story and he's not what i'd call boyfriend material.
Koala 1 | 332
20 May 2011 #25
Is this true?How are these strange preferences explained?I mean in a sea of decent white men going for the colored disadvantaged?

There are so few foreigners in Poland being non-caucasian is actually a big advantage. It's rare and exotic, therefore attractive for girls here.
Lodz_The_Boat 32 | 1,535
20 May 2011 #26
You will meet Polish girl ... nice or not depends on you and your luck.

There are many kinds of Polish girls (just like everyone else) ... I don't know which ones most frequently meet those middle aged, rich man from a rich country. You need to discover yourself about your experience ...

Do inform what happened next ...
OP The Minuteman 1 | 3
21 May 2011 #27
Thank you, everyone, for your responses. I find it interesting that I have become a middle aged rich American who is searching for a 20-something Polish bombshell.

I'm not looking for a Playboy model, and she doesn't have to be 22 years old. I don't think Poland is a flea market. It's not all that complicated. I'm not chasing a dream here. I met a couple of Polish girls (very average on the surface) and after conversation, I was intrigued. I did some studying on basic values and was more intrigued. I figure, hey, what not? I am a pretty smart guy, so I can learn the language (or at least enough of it) in a year or so and then I'll take it from there.

The worst case is that I learn a new language (my fourth) and go on a few nice vacations. The best case is that I somehow meet a nice girl along the way.

I'm sure my odds are slim, but they're better than if I never learn the language and never visit the country, right?
Bzibzioh
21 May 2011 #28
I'm sure my odds are slim, but they're better than if I never learn the language and never visit the country, right?

Go for it; nothing ventured, nothing gained.
FUZZYWICKETS 8 | 1,879
21 May 2011 #29
The Minuteman wrote:

I find it interesting that I have become a middle aged rich American who is searching for a 20-something Polish bombshell.

Well, if I were you, I'd be looking for a 20 something Polish bombshell too. Why settle for less when the option is available.

just sayin'.
Polonius3 993 | 12,357
21 May 2011 #30
This may drive the PF's inveterate Catholic-bashers up the wall, but here goes anyway. The club and pub scene may be good for one-night stands and meeting HIV-positive harlots, but for a more serious, stable amd substantive relationship, you can't beat the Academic Ministry (Duszpasterstwo Akademickie), Sodality (Sodalicje), and pilgrimage circuit and the like.

Don't get me wrong... I'm not saying people involved in the above are 100% sinless angels. B16 has openly stated : 'We are a Church of sinners.' Some, maybe even many go on pilgirmages just for something to do or becuase their friends are going rather than out of any deep spiritual need or motivation. But when all is said and done, chances are in active Catholic circles there will be a higher percentage of people attached to traditional family values, restraint, self-control, moderation, loyalty and the other things one rarely encounters on the trollop circuit.


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