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Relationship with Kurdish men

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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 03:19pm  #

I am a Polish girl having a relationship with a Kurdish man, I just wondered if there are any other people who have had experiences with Kurdish men and what your experiences have been?
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 03:22pm  #

Hinterland:
I am a Polish girl having a relationship with a Kurdish man, I just wondered if there are any other people who have had experiences with Kurdish men and what your experiences have been?

Check what his status is in the UK would be my advice.
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  ♂ Edited by: McCoy  May 11, 2009, 03:23pm  #

Hinterland:
who have had experiences with Kurdish men and what your experiences have been?

me. guy sold me a kebab once. uneatable crap
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 03:25pm  #

Hinterland:
I just wondered if there are any other people who have had experiences with Kurdish men and what your experiences have been?

try to find out as much as possible about their history and cultural life. Good luck.
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 03:36pm  #

I am in England, as far as I am as aware he is allowed to stay here but I spoke to somebody else who said that they just use Polish girls and they would never marry them.
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 03:58pm  #

Hinterland:
I am in England, as far as I am as aware he is allowed to stay here but I spoke to somebody else who said that they just use Polish girls and they would never marry them.

He's Kurdish chances are that he came as an assylum seeker, so ask him directly what his status is, but I wouldn't expect to get a straight or true answer, regarding the not wanting to marry Polish girls, I'd say the opposite, but in a lot of cases, not for the right reasons, this is where it is important to fine out what his status in the UK is.

Polish girls are an easy target for these men, English women wont touch them. Kurdish men don't come with the best reputation, but Im sure there is the odd one who is smart and decent with honorable intentions.
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 04:04pm  #

When you say dont come with the best reputation what do you mean.

He has indefinate leave to remain but I have heard stories of them then going back home to marry somebody from their country. My friend was seeing a kurdish man and when it was over all his friends were trying to get with her so I am worried they are just users.
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  ♂ May 11, 2009, 04:09pm  #

Jesus Christ girl, have some dignity and self respect and find yourself a decent man .
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 04:13pm  #

I have thats why Im asking about other peoples experiences with Kurdish men
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 04:16pm  #

Hinterland:
He has indefinate leave to remain

I'd still ask for proof.

Hinterland:
When you say dont come with the best reputation what do you mean.

Clannish mentality and no respect for women, honor killings are quite common in Kurdish areas of Turkey and there are plenty of them languishing in English jails for rape - need I go on?

Hinterland:
I have heard stories of them then going back home to marry somebody from their country.

His chances of getting a Kurdish wife into the UK are slim if he only has ILR and not citizenship

Hinterland:
My friend was seeing a kurdish man and when it was over all his friends were trying to get with her so I am worried they are just users.

Some groups have little or no respect for women, some groups of men see white women are fair game for fcuking and nothing more, some see it as kudos for having a white woman, you know "trophy" - from what I understand they are slightly more respectful if they want marriage for the sake of staying in a country.

You are the one dating him..so only you know him as a person, how he treats you and what his intentions are.
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 04:20pm  #

ShelleyS have you had a Kurdish boyfriend before.
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 04:25pm  #

Hinterland:
ShelleyS have you had a Kurdish boyfriend before.

ShelleyS:
English women wont touch them.

Im English.
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  ♂ Edited by: McCoy  May 11, 2009, 04:26pm  #

Hinterland:
thats why Im asking about other peoples experiences with Kurdish men

about what? other people expieriences and stereotypes? you really wanna build a happy relationship on what you gonna get here? obiously you dont trust the guy and thats the worst thing to start anything serious.
hes a muslim from middle east, different culture, different way of thinking about world, realtionship, womans pleace in social hierarchy. do you want to be one of these faceless quiet slave wifes or stupid broken heart girls that expected a true love but were only fcuked and dumped by some sheepshagger?
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 04:30pm  #

ah ok so you wont touch them.
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  ♂ May 11, 2009, 04:34pm  #

Hinterland:
ShelleyS have you had a Kurdish boyfriend before.

Hinterland, I am Turkish, information that Shelley has provided is unfortunately true. It's education problem and it's slowly changing but it's still better to be cautious.

Also your boyfriend may be different from the above examples. Try to understand what he likes on you and if he is serious about this relationship. Try to test him. His education and behaviours should give you an idea. And you must be cautious before fully trust him.

ShelleyS:
ShelleyS:
English women wont touch them.

Everyone may touch anyone :).
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  ♀ Edited by: ShelleyS  May 11, 2009, 04:36pm  #

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This is just what gets in the news, there are tribal clans that live in remote villages where it goes on, on a daily basis.

mephias:
I am Turkish, information that Shelley has provided is unfortunately true. It's education problem and it's slowly changing but it's still better to be cautious

I recently watched a prog which said the opposite, whilst the Turkish government is fighting it and now men are actually punished for their crimes, they have a new method, whereby they tell the girl to commit suicide or get a younger member of the family to commit the murder because he will get a shorter sentense :0(

mephias:
Everyone may touch anyone :).

I'd rather not touch or be touched by a Kurd though ;0)
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 04:40pm  #

My Boyfriend is an iraqi kurd but I guess the culture is all the same.

ShellyS how come you know so much about it then.
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 04:46pm  #

Hinterland:
ShellyS how come you know so much about it then.

I take an interest in the kind of people that come in to my country.

Hinterland:
My Boyfriend is an iraqi kurd but I guess the culture is all the same.

Yes and in some cases worse:

Every year in the UK, a dozen women are victims of honour killings, occurring almost exclusively to date within Asian and Middle Eastern families and often cases are unresolved due to the unwillingness of family, relatives and communities to testify. A 2006 BBC poll for the Asian network in the UK found that 1 in 10 of the 500 young Asians polled said that they could condone the murder of someone who dishonoured their family[ In the UK, in December 2005, Nazir Afzal, Director, West London, of Britain's Crown Prosecution Service, stated that the United Kingdom has seen "at least a dozen honour killings" between 2004 and 2005. While precise figures do not exist for the perpetrators' cultural backgrounds, Diana Nammi of the UK's Iranian and Kurdish Women's Rights Organisation is reported to have said:"about two-thirds are Muslim
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  ♂ May 11, 2009, 04:52pm  #

Hinterland:
ShellyS how come you know so much about it then.

LOL! Yeah, But then again NAH! There is no way that Shelley would touch one of them scumbags. Living in England has allowed her to see all that she wants to see.
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 04:55pm  #

Some of them are quite handsome.
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  ♀ May 11, 2009, 05:06pm  #

Hinterland:
Some of them are quite handsome.

I prefer the whole package and someone who is culturally similar - people that clamber through the chanel tunnel and hide in the back of lorries so they can claim assylum here in the UK are not the kind of men I'd take home for dinner at my parents.

This is not your country so you look at it differently.
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  ♂ May 11, 2009, 06:31pm  #

And todays word is: honor murder.
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  ♂ May 12, 2009, 01:37am  #

Hinterland:
When I asked a Kurdish men why do Kurds always have Polish girlfriends he said its becasue they are easy to get

Hinterland:
My friend was seeing a kurdish man and when it was over all his friends were trying to get with her so I am worried they are just users.

No comments
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  ♂ Edited by: isthatu2  May 12, 2009, 01:42am  #

Hinterland:
I am in England, as far as I am as aware he is allowed to stay here but I spoke to somebody else who said that they just use Polish girls and they would never marry them.

They told you the truth babes. Get out now,leave and dont give him your new address,in short,go into hiding,those fekers are tribel savages when it comes to women.
Sokrates:
And todays word is: honor murder.

crikes,we are on the same page on this one.
Its in the culture,you are female you are proparty,you are less than human in their eyes.

(and check my other posts,Im a liberal lefty anti rascist.)

ShelleyS:
I recently watched a prog

Bloody awfull wasnt it,those poor girls. As people Ive found the kurdish lads I know in Donny to be realy nice and friendly,that doesnt mean Im blind to their stone age attitude to women.
Maybe in a generation or 2 these attitudes will change but I doubt it,you are entering a clan sociaty if you choose to stay with a kurd.The chances are you will not marry him,or,more likely,he is already married,probably has been since about 15 and has some poor wife living in a mud hut in kurdistan or turkey....
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  ♀ May 12, 2009, 03:32am  #

Hinterland:
Some of them are quite handsome.

that made me chuckle
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  ♂ May 12, 2009, 06:22am  #

isthatu2:
Maybe in a generation or 2 these attitudes will change

Never dear.... the fundamentalism is on the rise (especially in the last 30 years)... and infact the progress is backwards...slowly going back 1300 years
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  ♀ May 12, 2009, 07:08am  #

Hinterland:
Some of them are quite handsome.

yeah and they carry macheti's too ( did I spell that right? ) lol

Mahh chet i , Err nope, I dont think I did.
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  ♂ May 12, 2009, 08:15am  #

Hinterland:
a relationship with a Kurdish man

Stay away.
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  ♀ May 12, 2009, 12:43pm  #

ok have all you people had a kurd as a boyfriend then surely there must be some Polish girls out there who are married to a Kurd.
fred_chopin   May 12, 2009, 02:33pm  #

Hinterland:
there must be some Polish girls out there who are married to a Kurd.

Maybe there are. Their owners won't let them near the computer, lest they become enlightened.


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