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Your Thoughts about 20 Year Age Difference Between Men & Women in Poland?

AsiaBill     Sep 20, 2006, 05:51am  #

Okay here's one question for the Polish members who live in Poland; generally speaking, how much does age difference between men and women in Poland matter when making decisions to commit to a long term relationship with or without children? Is it really UNcommon. What does the average metropolitan Polish person think of such a relationship? Does a 52 y.o. have ANY chance with a 30 y. o.?? ( remote chance??) I know it depends on each individual person but is there a STIGMA attached to such couples with a 20 year age difference.

I grew up in the States, left home at 18, moved to Europe at 22 and arrived in India ( Asia )at 25, was lucky enough to be at the right place at the right time, semi-retired at age 30 and have lived in S.E. Asia most of my life. Now, part of me thinks I AM INSANE for thinking about starting all over again here in Poland by getting involved in small business providing accomodations for budget tourists and world travelers here in Poland.

ANY comments and ideas more than welcome and appreciated. [img=http://www.polishforums.com/img/smilies/smile.gif]" title="[/img]

dziadek     Sep 20, 2006, 07:35am  #

I think it matters not only to the age diffrence. Also the age of both people, who are in the ralationship is important. It's much more diffrent when people at age (for example) 13 and 33 date than 20 and 40.

dziadek     Sep 20, 2006, 07:51am  #

everyone would say, that he would preffer the second option

dziadek     Sep 20, 2006, 07:59am  #

That's 'cause, it's not the age DIFFRENCE important. It's age PROPORTION.

AsiaBill     Sep 25, 2006, 04:09pm  #

Okay I am 52 y.o. and she is 30 y.o.; I also wonder what Polish men think about 30 year old single Polish women when considering long term committed relationships. In some Catholic countries the men prefer their women ( wives ) to be younger than themselves or the great majority between 16 years old and 25 year old! Is the same somewhat true in Poland?

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  ♂   Jan 19, 2007, 11:02am  #

If the woman is 70 and the man is 90 - it doesn't look that bad after all :)

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  ♂   Jan 19, 2007, 11:24am  #

AsiaBill,

Why are you asking us? If you are in a loving relationship and have doubts. Ask your partner. What would she think of you, if she read this thread ?

Giles     Jan 19, 2007, 11:53am  #

Does she expect children?

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  ♀   Jan 19, 2007, 12:28pm  #

Quoting: AsiaBill, Post #5
Okay I am 52 y.o. and she is 30 y.o.


Age difference isn't a problem for a short term relationship but something long term might be difficult if she's only 30. She's still going to fall for the men who are in their 20's and 30's and see the older man as more like a father figure. However, women who are a few years older, late 30's maybe, often prefer older men. Just my opinion.

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  ♀   Jan 19, 2007, 08:54pm  #

I am 38 and my boyfriend is 24..he doesn't seem to mind!

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  ♀   Jan 19, 2007, 08:57pm  #

Quoting: bolo, Post #6
If the woman is 70 and the man is 90 - it doesn't look that bad after all

Yeah, they all look the same at that age.

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  ♂   Jan 21, 2007, 10:58pm  #

Do you think it's strange that you are at the same level emotionally and intellectually as someone 20 years your junior? I think that's wierd. really weird. One of you is either freakishly mature for your age, or laughably immature for your age. Either way...it's weird.

LoneStranger     Jan 22, 2007, 01:32am  #

Quoting: krysia, Post #11
Yeah, they all look the same at that age.

be kind to the lady....she is 20 yrs younger :)

kris2     Apr 1, 2007, 02:37pm  #

age does'nt matter

Randommm     Oct 1, 2007, 01:12pm  #

Age is nothing. As long as you love her and she loves you then what is wrong with that? And even if it doesnt work out.. its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Its a case of mind over matter, if YOU dont mind.. it doesnt matter :)

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  ♂   Oct 1, 2007, 01:28pm  #

While 20 years between a guy and a girl is not exactly common, it's definitely not shocking. And if the lady is 30 years of age already, she most probably has her feet on the ground and is mature enough to understand the depth of the relationship, the sacrifices and commitment needed to keep it alive, and that age is just a number and not a criterion to a successful relationship. Is she were 20 and you were 40, we could have a problem of mindset and POV (point of view) compatibility. But at 30? She's got no excuse, mate!

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  ♂   Oct 1, 2007, 02:11pm  #

I really dont see a problem there at all, as long as you are both happy !!! I sense that the reason you have posted here is because something has been said, maybe not from her but from someone outside the relationship, and you are now feeling a little paranoid ??? The most impotant thing is how you both feel and how happy you both are together not what anyone else may think..
If you are happy together GO FOR IT

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  ♂   Oct 1, 2007, 02:14pm  #

Gavin 79. You avatar just gave me an idea of what I've been missing tonight.

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  ♂   Oct 1, 2007, 02:22pm  #

Hmmm, glad i could be of assistance :-)

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  ♀   Oct 2, 2007, 02:55pm  #

if there is a large age gap and and there is a close traditional family the family may not condone it. but if your feelings are true and you stand together. the opinion of family matters only to them and eventually they will accept your happiness-age is a number-milosc sama w sobie jest szczesciem x

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  ♂   Oct 2, 2007, 03:05pm  #

i have a 20 year and (1200 mile gap) with my girlfriend. I am 42, she is 22. She has lied to her mother and said that I am 32! I think I can get away with it (my passport photo is ten years old and i haven't changed much)

I will tell you how it works out! I don't think it is a problem.

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  ♂   Oct 2, 2007, 03:15pm  #

Sick.

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  ♀   Oct 2, 2007, 03:18pm  #

why sick

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  ♂   Oct 2, 2007, 03:18pm  #

Quoting: Grzegorz_
Sick

you can't help who you fall in love with

ukpolska     Oct 2, 2007, 03:32pm  #

Quoting: Grzegorz_
Sick

Why are you so quick to judge Grzegorz??
If people like this are sick then I am proud to be sick and 45 years old and married to my wife for 6 years who is 28, and we have a wonderful 5-year-old daughter and we are totally 100% head over heels in love with each other. Oh dam, but I am still sick according to you!!

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  ♂   Oct 2, 2007, 03:37pm  #

Quoting: ukpolska
Why are you so quick to judge Grzegorz??

yes, please tell us Grzegorz...

Lady in red     Oct 2, 2007, 03:44pm  #

Quoting: sausage
you can't help who you fall in love with


So true.......but you can decide whether or not to go ahead with it lol......and if it bothers you very much what other people say about it then maybe it's not the right relationship for you...should only matter for the two people in the relationship surely ?

I don't think age matters, surely it's more important to find that someone 'special' to share your life with :)

Life's so short.....just go with your gut instinct on the right thing to do........is my view <s>

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  ♂   Oct 2, 2007, 03:47pm  #

thanks lady in red. Somebody please answer...
Quoting: AsiaBill
What does the average metropolitan Polish person think of such a relationship?

i suspect that Greg isn't the average metropolitan Polish person

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  ♀   Oct 2, 2007, 04:00pm  #

yep go with your instincts and if it doesnt work out regardless of age than its wasnt right -if you care too much about what everyone else thinks more than what you think then maybe its not right. but i do understand family pressure and conformimg to expectation is not easy to stand up to. but if you are both united it will overcome

ukpolska     Oct 2, 2007, 04:11pm  #

Quoting: sausage
i suspect that Greg isn't the average metropolitan Polish person

Greg's is an ok guy most of the time, but sometimes he types before he thinks.



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