Married a Polish guy. Now what?

I meet him on the internet. He says he loves me. I get him a visa. He come to the US, I marry him. After marriage he thinks I cheat on him. Not true. He buys me flowers, I forgive him. Again. Same thing. He thinks I cheat on him. Not true again. More flowers. He gets yeast infection and sores on his uncircumsized thingy there. But before he knows what the helll he's got, he asks if I've been cheating on him insinuating I gave him vd. I wasn't and I didn't. He accuses me of giving him aids. I don't have aids. I am very upset about these accusations after I do everything for this guy.
What should I do now? I feel bad he treats me this way after I gave him everything. Is this normal behaviour for Polish guys?
He is mad at me now, he says he has no family here, doesn't speak the language well and he says I "oblałam go" whatever that means....

well if you are unhappy with him, tell him so. if he doesnt care what you say or doesnt want to change and work on things, leave him.

I'm scared to tell him because he has a green card based on our marriage and if we seperate, he will get deported and he will get pretty mad.

What's your and his age?

Often guys who accuse you of cheating on them, are actually cheating on you. Weird, but true.

I'm 41 he's 45. He has a kid in Poland coz he was divorced. Never met the kid.
He claims his previous wife was cheating on him, so maybe he has a problem trusting women?

I can understand him when he says he has no friends/family here. If you add he don't speak English, his life may be quite depressing here. Maybe buy him TV set with Polish TV so he could enjoy Poland somehow.

You are dealing with a nut case. Sorry for being blunt but I think you should dump him as soon as you can. Screw his green card, protect yourself.

I did. But later cancelled it coz he wasn't watching it and it was expensive. $30.00 a month extra for 3 Polish programs. I did everything for this guy and treated him like a king, but now I think I know where I made an error. He got too much of a good thing too soon.

Is he working, are you working too?

dariusz.... wow. I don't know what to say. love you man! That's great ! You are absolutely right!

ill marry you instead ;) get rid of the nutter

Thank you filios. Very nice proposition, but give me some time to catch my breath :)

- Hm, it appears to me you Urszula are a bit off the wall too....

Yeah, catch your breath and marry Filios ...
:)

Urszula, I can tell you truthfully that I am 100% sane :) and Polish to boot!

I can take care of this nutcase, because thats how he sounds, seriously. theres something unstable about the guy!
Listen to Puzzler!

1. I think you'd better split up. You gave him some chances and still he is acting unreasonable. Even it looks like he doesn't like to live in the US.

2. Next time wait some time before you marry. Personally I think 4 years is the least you should wait. Because getting to know if things will work out takes some time.

3. Success!

- ... and Greek, with lots of gifts for ya...
;)

THE GIFT OF DEMOCRACY!

- That's right! In your household, Urszula, the Majority shall always rule.

I hope you know who that should be?
:)

Wow , he has major insecurities and you need to get out of that situation before it gets worse. If he gets deported OHHH WELLL , not to be mean but thats life , you brought him here , things just arent working, he doesn't know the language , has no family here and Probably better off back home. Everything will eventually even it's self out it's just gonna take some time. Good luck with everything

he know's what he's got. It's painfully obvious that not only is he cheating on you but obviously used you for a green card. Again i repeat it's PAINFULLY OBVIOUS he's CHEATING ON YOU and had EVERY INTENTION OF USING YOU.

if you don't split with this dude make sure his a$$ is deported then you probably deserve what misery is bound to come.

Why did you name it "Married a Polish guy........? You're not American yourself. Polish girl married a Polish guy sounds in your case much better.

Born in US. Polish parents.
Thanks for your opinions all.

Just a victim of love.....

yeah, i am also thinking along many of the same lines expressed here. time to move on and let him go back to PL.. some folks just can't deal with america or big changes. good luck.

rid him and he will be deported, your problems are gone.

Not just guys...

my now ex wife accused me many of times of cheating. i wasnt and she was.

People who cheat get really suspicious of their partners, often making it obvious that they cheat.

Didn't that guy need only a green card and not really you???

that's what it seems to be.


there are better lyers out there.