Monogamy - is it possible?

Is monogamy really possible? Are we capable of it as human beings? Or do our selfish genes always drive us on to look for something else, someone different? In essence, are we designed to be monogamous, does evolution truly dictate our actions? If we are all products of chemical reactions, can we ever really control our most primal urge, that of procreation?

Five questions -
1. Yes
2.Yes
3. Sometimes, but its not in the genes.
4.No
5.Yes, we do it all the time.

Yes.



Yes, it's got us this far...





It's true that humans will eventually evolve away from monogamy and it has begun. However - sex will always happen because of procreation. There are so many single people now - who are happy that way - that it make you wonder if the human race is evolving away from relationships altogether.

monogamy seems un-natural to me. i really don't think we are made to be that way. imho.

I Think the problem is.
Where once it was taboo.
And being a Virgin on your wedding night was looked on as a Big deal.
Now.
Sex is like anything else these days. So readily available.
So Publicised. Any paper you open.. Book you read.. Movie you see..
Kids even swap porn by Phone.. Its allmost a rite of passage..

We are swamped with it.. Its becomming overwhelming.
And harder to remain loyal to one person..

Monogomy is possible. And we all have it within us.
I dont know what makes One person do it.
And the next person jump anything with a pulse.

But with Diseases like aids and other STD's
I for one will remain apart from the pack. And monogomous.

I do agree with this. I just think that generally the human race is moving away from it.



It used to be something to be proud of and nowadays people actually think it's something to be ashamed of...




Good for you! And so will I. With myself - lol :)

There was a big thing in the papers not long ago.
A School banned a Group of girls for wearing Purity Rings.
Instead of praising them.

Now if being a sex maniac isnt frowned on in school.
What hope is there..


Its something to be proud of. And something your Partner/Future Partner. Should be proud of too.

I read this. I remember being pretty outraged by this. There was some mention of it being banned because it was a 'faith' or something. Ridiculous. A group of girls decide they want to remain virgins and a school pushes them the other way...



I agree.



Surely should be.



lol - have you had some knowledge I didn't? Please share it... :)

Yes they classed it as one. Or tried to claim it was one.



Sure.. didnt you know i am psychotic.. Lol
I could tell you.. But what would be the fun in that..:))

Everyone know this... :)



Probably none...you could just tell me though... ;)




Which is ridiculous. Obviously they couldn't understand why some young girls wanted to remain virgins.

Let's get technical about it.
Within the animal kingdom,
the more similar the sexes look,
the more monogamous they are.
Human males and females are relatively similar,
ie. not like seals or walruses, that vary hugely in size,
or many of the insects and weird stuff.
Swan males and females are very similar, and also monogamous.

Cheeky :ppp
Just for that you can pick your own lottery numbers. Lol

lol - which reminds me, I have a lucky dip on tonight...



Wood Pigeons (and many other birds) mate for life.

I admit it is a generalisation, but to a degree, the similarity of sexes : tendency towards monogamy ratio is true.

That doesn't mean individuals within a species (Homo sapiens sapiens, for example) and how similar they look has any bearing on the number of simultaneous partners.


Wood pigeons are good pigeons.

Its the same as saying..
We all have the potential to great good.
Or great evil.

Monogomy is the same..

Its not genetic.
Its Choice.

Phenotypic plasticity.
Or is it free will?

The media has stolen our free will.

The media have...
The medium has...

They haven't / it hasn't stolen mine.

There is everything from polygamy to nonogamy.
Is there such a thing as oligogamy?

Agree. On the other hand, if the man treats me poorly then I am out of there. But, in general, I think monogamy is easy once you've found the right person.

I would say what sets us apart from others in the animal kingdom is our ability to be monogamies ... From what I have read in PF there are soo many people that equate sex with love or make the focus of the relationship sex, are they good or bad. Now I write this as a single guy. From the marriages of close friends that I respect. I see the successful ones are where caring for the needs of the other is the primary way of showing love, not sex. So when you have a good healthy relationship where you truly love and care for your partner staying true to that one person is not even an issue.

If you think about going elsewhere for more sex, then you need to look at your relationship and see if it is healthy and if not what you can do to fix it.

my 2 cents....

monogamy excist only withing two animals horse sea, and escargo, monogamy for human impossible to excist

isnt it true that you look for a life mate based on physically similar characteristics- love and sex are different. sex is a primal need. love is not based on sex. but when you truely love someone thats the best sex of all!

Well i think we shoudn,t use monogamy any more as it is using up the hardwood forests of the world and destroying the envoirenment......or is that mahogany.....?

its all about each persons morals.

the most moraled people mess around sometimes.
it simply comes down to choice.

if one isn't getting any, it's not really a choice.

LOL

it's true though.. most people step out of marriage because something isn't being satisfied by their partner.. most of the time it is sex but not always.

This is very true for me. When I'm in a serious relationship, I'm very monogamous.
The thought of infidelity sickens me.

When I'm truly in love with a man, he's basically who I think of, most of the time. He's also the one I want to share my quality time with.