In need of help with a strange relationship!

hello everyone. I am recently back from poland where i met (a lady of the night) initially it was a straight forward thing but when she left she asked me for my mobile number. She text me the next morning and we met up again on a regular relationship basis. We spent the rest of my time in Krakow together (5days) and it seems we fell in love. Am i mental to get involved??? Please help me.

you are not serious......

Why would that be mental? Treat as you would any other love encounter. Just don't rush into anything. Good luck

Yes i am totally serious. We had a fantastic time together and i really like her and she likes me too. So you think i should treat her differently?

thank you for your help and advice... it's all appreciated

No. She is a person too. Any relationship is based on trust. It may take you a little longer to trust her completely maybe but that is all.

Thank you for your advice. I appreciate that.

So you like her (or maybe falling in love with her) - why don't you tell her what you feel?

Be friends, get to know her better and see what happens.

ha ha,, thats what I said,, Miranda, didnt you tell them I bought you a crystal ball
for christmas? LOL

Thank you. I want to see her again to see what happens. i think everyone deserves a chance to be happy.

well before getting involved, think about how many guys have used and abused this women already.
now she may still continue to work, can you handle that?

Yes i can handle it in the interm. She wants to give the "job" up asap as she does not enjoy it. As for her history, well i think we all have a past and nothing can change that but i think she deserves a better future. I would love to take her away from her present unhappy life.

---

i have told her i have feelings for her and she has told me she loves me.

you are good guy to do this, but hopefully she is sincere.. its sad that people have
to think this way , but if its a trust issue that was mentioned already, if you feel shes
being honest, then do what you need to do. but I hope for your sake its not
a way to get out of the business only to leave you lonely again. dont give to much to
soon, you can take her away from it, and take things slow..

Is she still working? I do not see how you can have a relationship with her (other than friends) if she is still having sex with men for money. I have read some men will accept their girlfriend works this way but I would have thought most men would find that impossible. Also does she say she wants to stop working this way? Be very very careful about getting emotionally involved with her.



This is top advice. She may see you as a way out of her situation. You need to very sure she loves you and you love her. Don't be a mug and don't give her money. Good luck!

Don't offer too much. If she accepts what [little] you do offer then she is probably being sincere.

It can work out for the pair of you. Just be careful.

Also. it would help [you] if you knew at least a little of her history.

I don't think that you are "mental" to get involved but I do think you need to be careful. You spent 5 days with her so only you know what the feelings truly were that you had for her and what you think she had/has for you.

I would tell her how you feel. She may genuinely like you and want to remove herself from her current career. I wouldn't offer her the world. Not yet, but offer her a secure life (if you can) and a chance to readjust to a normal working life.

It's possible she may hurt you in the future but hey, that's the chance we all take when we enter any relationship. It can't be avoided. So good luck :)

whos to say she isnt playing you?

did you give her money for hanging with you every day?

Hope you don't get some disease like from her, if she's running around with guys.

Are you sure her name wasn't Julia Roberts? Sounds like too much like a fairy tale.

definitely.. pay up and move on.

thank you, i am as concerned as anyone and your advice is the way i intend to proceed. I will be cautious but will trust her as a relationship without trust is already dead. Can not wait until i see her again :)

I know i have thought about that too. Only thing is this girl is better looking lol. Seriously she is a lovely girl.

Thank you. We talked a lot and told me she's from a small country town and all about her family. She told me lots about her past / school etc and was very open about it. I dont think i'm being played as i am fairly streetwise even though i do have a soft heart.

Tell her to give you some proportion of her profits.

Nasty enough!!! Have a heart dude... behind this story there are real people ok. You would do well to remember that.

Goodluck Lonely, see how it goes.

Thank you Joe. It's all i can do mate. Hope it turns out ok.

Yes a best of luck from me to. It is better to try than not try just be very careful with your heart and your money. My take is you are vulnerable and that might make you lose your head and heart to her. You both need to build trust in each other.

Thank you for your thoughts Jambo. I have received more positive comments than negative ones so i can only assume that i am not mad. This girl deserves better and if she's willing and honest then her life is about to improve. Thanks again.

Good luck , Lonely, I hope it works out for you both! :)

The only bit of advice I'd offer is maybe imagine this situation as if it had of happened to your best friend and he was in your shoes. What advice would you give him? Basically, try and look at the situation as if it didn't involve you, without the gloss and the wildly beating heart...

You may come to the very same conclusion, but you might then be more aware of any pitfalls. Not least that she lives in another country and there's a language and culture barrier.

So... reading between the lines above, have you arranged to meet her again???? Don't forget to tell us how it goes... :) :) :)