In need of help with a strange relationship!

i have to go now but feel free to comment. i will reply when i log in again. thank you to everyone who took time to help me.

she seemed pretty level to me plk123. i can smell bull **** a mile off so i know this girl is not taking me for a ride.

In your eyes maybe. It's just another occupation...an illegal one in most places and dirty/dangerous, but it's still a job and easy $ making job. There are call girls in Manhattan that make $1000 in 1 hr. it's apersonal choice in some cases. I don't approve of it, but it works for some.

i just hope for you that she's stable.. like i said, good luck man.

my eyes only? i think it isn't normal by societal standards.. i have nothing against call girls.. nothing at all.. they do perform a service and it's a needed one. :D

but i also think that someone who'd sell themselves like that have some bigger issues. i've known may girls who'd work several jobs or whatever, to make ends meet but didn't sell themselves.

I didn't say yours only.

haha yeah very...just ask lonely ;)

There are always other issues.

I say give it a go,as long as you can take it on the chin if it doesnt work out,you have nothing to lose,good luck!

What I don't quite understand is why you feel the need to come onto a Forum
and ask strangers for their opinions ? Surely, if you like her a lot and she likes you a lot, this should surely be discussed between yourselves privately ? Why look for others opinions, especially when these other people know nothing about you or this lady ?

Sounds like you may be very uncertain and also have some doubts yourself ?

Also, surely if she is 'in love with you' as you said she has told you, she would want to get an ordinary job straight away ? But how on earth can you be 'in love' with someone after only knowing them for five days ?

I do wish you well however :)) It's important to follow your heart and be happy is my view.

Isn't this what 80% of the members come here for? I've asked advice in here, maybe not relationship advice though. To see an array of opinions can really help a person out be it positive or negative.

Just call me Ms 20%

i agree with above.

Yes, I don't disagree Zguby but I think that the poster is having many doubts but doesn't want to admit them to himself. This guy only joined yesterday, none of us know him or her, so for something as important as that, I would have thought the discussion at this stage should only be between themselves ?

But I am absolutely no expert on these sort of issues and I don't mind admitting that. Just if he was so sure about the lady and her feelings why does he need to ask our advice at this particular stage.......as I said before, this is just my personal view that is all.

Of course and you're entitled and I agree with you to a point, but maybe he's just getting a "feel" for things.

True :)) Hope he gets the feedback he is looking for and can work out the best way forward.

He could be familiar with the forum and using a second user name.

True. But if he is doing that, the point about us not knowing him still stands does it not ?

:)

why would he do that? I am familiar with the forum and that is why I would never ask such personal opinion, because I know what people would say.

you think you know.. you always get some unecpected ideas no matter what you think you know.

well, I think that I do, because I have been reading some of the member's answers for a year now, so I have some idea about their core values. I meant long term members.

Indeed.



I was just answering a question. In fact I have no reason to doubt 'lonely'

I stand corrected.

heres some real good reading about people who lie.


http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/11/21/AR2007 112102164.html

after knowing somebody for a few days, how can a person have so much trust?

lol is this not what the forum is for? I feel it easier to chat to strangers (Which you all are lets face it) regarding this subject. I like to hear different points of view... where's the harm in that?

In regards to having doubts... of course i have doubts as we all do when relationships are involved. People can let you down and nobody likes the prospect of that.

What a lot of people need to do is chill out a bit, live and let live.

lol zgubiony you are a funny dude.

I agree completely and was why I joined and got lots of useful comments. Lady in Red's comments are quite bizarre. This is the whole point of the site.

Thanks jambo. I was begining to think i was wrong lol

Are they heck bizzarre........ my comment was just my views on what the poster 'lonely ' wrote. I wasn't referring to anybody elses threads for support or help.

And precisely which part of my post did you actually find was 'bizzare' then, out of interest ?



think the Polish Forums is more than just being an 'Agony Aunt' column though.

'lonely' asked for views, everyone is entitled to post their views. It's quite sad when some people cannot read and appreciate other's points of views without petty name calling or making silly comments ..........:((

But have a 'nice day' anyway.

You commented you did not understand why he had come on this forum and discuss his issue. It is that comment I found bizarre as that is the whole point of Polish Love and Relationships. I was not commenting on anything else you posted just that comment

And I have not called you names.

Ok, thanks for explaining that to me.

But I still think your use of the word 'bizzarre' very unusual but each to their own opinion and use of vocabulary.

I still stand by everything I wrote and if you want a thorough analysis of why am more than happy to oblige........

:))

You haven't and I admit that it's very easy to misinterpret things when the main communication is by the written word........

and i did on this occassion.


:))