OK so he/she cheated... What next?

Do you forgive once, twice, 3 times... or u don't even say bye? and what next? how do u try to forgive and forget? do u try at all or is it easy 4 u to move on?

What do you think foxyl ?

If you're talking about what I think you are:
I can't really forgive even once.
Once it's happened, something changes.

I wonder how ppl cope with the stress.

Your heart gets COMPLETELY COMPLETELY broken. But you have to let go. Fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on ME!!

what do u think I am?what do u base ur opinion 'bout me on?

very true. well said!

My opinion (above) is the easy one.
If there are children involved, surely it becomes a lot more complicated.
Otherwise, I agree with Bubbles:

kick his butt out of your life

I feel the same way. I don't forgive a cheater. If someone cheats once, they'll do it over & over again.

my ex wife cheated on me, thats why shes an ex.

if they cheat on you once, stats say the person will cheat again.

I suppose it would be similair as any reaction to loss -
Denial and anger may feature large.
Wanting everything to return to normal etc.

It is different for everyone.

NO it sucks beyond belief.

I gotta leave this thread or I will be crying.

no, ppl don't make Bubbs cry...!

ok. what if u don't have any hard evidence. it's just ur felling telin' u somethin' is up? what than?

That'll be denial.

don't cry bebe. he ain't worth it.

Go with your gut girl. Go with your gut... PLEASEEEEE GO WITH YOUR GUTTTT!!!

bubbles has he cheated?

I'm done here

If it's just a feeling, it probably IS true.
Without the security of eachother's trust, it could just get more strained.
It can be hard to do, but from my experience, the decision is the easy part.
After the first step, it does get easier.


Sadness is inevitable, I'm afraid. Sorry, Bubbles.
Sad is how you feel before you're happy.

Relationships are built on Trust and Honesty.
They are the Foundations of love..
Remove one.

And all you have is an unsteady mess.
Ready to crumble at the first shake.

Very true statement, Firestorm.


Also very wise and true, Szkotja.



Not necessarily, Osiol, but something is not right, whether it's something in her that is causing her to feel this way, or he is in fact not being honest in someway....doesn't have to be he is cheating, although I think it is natural for people to automatically jump to that conclusion when they are in a relationship and something doesn't feel right....it's in our nature to expect the worst.

that's the one for me too.

Also a true statement.....I hope your fears turn out not to be true, Foxy, but if they are confirmed and he is cheating, then you should move on. Good luck.

that generally means something is up

not necessarily... evidence means something is up... feelings have been wrong before. no reason to stress over nothing..

I agree, PLK (hey, we actually agree on sth...lol) unless there is indisputable proof, why would you put yourself through the worry? Foxy, I hope you don't think I am being brutal, but I have been in your shoes before, and my feelings stemmed from my own insecurities that I projected on the one I cared about.....unfortunately, it was those insecurities that caused the end of the relationship.....I had been burned before, and I carried that pain over into a new relationship.....not a good thing.....I have since learned not to project passed hurts onto other people.....no two people are the same which means no two relationships will be the same. The key is communication....if you are having suspicions, be honest with your partner, but not accusing. Does that make sense? If you are in a truly loving relationship, your partner will embrace you and accept you have some insecurities (we all do, btw). If not, then he's probably not the one for you anyway. Once again, good luck.

ever been cheated on?
reason why i ask, is because i noticed my ex was acting different which lead me to believe that something is up.
when your with somebody long enough, you have a sixth sense about them.

This also applies to friendships. Any relationship, actually.

If kids are involved, I could see making an effort to patch things up. But why bother if it's just a boyfriend/girlfriend scenario?

One of the sad things to realise in life is that many people don't change emotionally. If they screw up in an area once, it's likely they will do so in the same area throughout their lives. It seems far easier to change jobs, houses, cars, than it is to change one's emotional patterns.