I got chatting to a Polish girl in a bar - opinions please..

Hi guys.

Ill cut a long story short, as I dont want to bore people.

basically, a couple of months ago I got chatting to a Polish girl in a bar, I live in the UK. Im a regular in the bar so its been fun going in and seeing her, chatting more and more every time I go in. Over the past few weeks i have asked her out for a drink. She said "its not possible, I work 7 days a week in 2 jobs". I wasnt sure whether she was just finding an easy way of saying no so I left her my phone number the next time I went in.

She called me while I was in a club twice, but I didnt realise so missed her call. She text me to say she finished work and was going home. Gutted.

Since then weve been in contact via SMS a few times and using this site I sent a few sentances in Polish which she appreciated and text me back in Polish, she now wants me to say something to her in Polish.

When I said "im ready to give up, ill never get to go out with you" she replied with.."its not what you think, i really must work every day to earn money for my tuition back at home"

I appreciate that everyone is different, but the culture difference doesnt make it easy for me to get the message.

Does she want to be more than friends or not?

Opinions please... Krysla?

krysla <<who's that

I've read your letter a couple of times.
1. She's working 7 days a week and doesn't have time to go out.- Might be true
2. She did call you and you keep in touch through SMS - sounds interested
3. She says it's not what you think.
I think that she wants to get to know you but maybe something is holding her back? Like a boyfriend? But maybe not. She's in a new country and she's only there for a while and maybe she doesn't want to get involved? Tell her straight out how you feel towards her. Don't be ashamed of your feelings and then you will know if it's worth your time to be with her.
But the only way to find out anything, is to ask.

oh oh. I thought it was me. I better edit what I just wrote and wait for the real krysla to show up.

will the real krysla stand up

I just had a very good feeling that the person most likely to give their opinions would be Krysla

Its very difficult as Id like to say it face to face, though she has said that she will call me when she has a day off. Though shes only around for another month, so maybe your right about not getting involved. Its very hard to pick and choose who you like though?!!?

Don't say it face to face. It's always hard to do that. Send her an SMS and wait for her reply.

i know polish people and they do like their work

so persevere mate- hi again krysia

Why shouldnt I say it face to face?

Anyway ive already said that " i like you, and i think you like me but if your not interested its fine, i understand but im not giving up" thats when she replied saying its not what you think...

why if all esle fails just say narazie

Boy. If it's not what you think, then maybe she should explain more.

shes lesbian

Very true!!

In America they're called "dikes". And if one of them rides a bike it's a "Dike on a bike".

hahah your a poet krysia and you just dont know it

Yes, and someday you'll hear my peoms. ( I feel sorry for you)

your turn

Yes, and someday you'll hear my peoms. ( I feel sorry for you)I'll give an example:

what you mean you feel sorry for me -you trying to patronise me

Introduction
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A Guy's Job



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A Guy's Job



A guy sticks his location,
In a girl's destination,
To increase the population,
For the next generation.
Do you get my explanation?
Or do you need a demonstration?

krysia my darling

That is cool!!I'll have to tell that to bolo....

arghhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

bolo bolo bolo

never plg, plg, plg boo hoo

whats bolo got that plg has not

you have saw my pic have you not hahahahahah

Ive just sent a text to her.. how do i spell "Gosha" by the way? Is it Gosia?

Shes either going to think im a stalker or my luck will be in, we shall see....

gosia

Is Gosia, kashya very common name in poland?

Yes, very popular actually (the "long" form is Malgorzata).

Kasia (Katarzyna) is also popular - but I think it's less popular than Gosia.

I sent her a text last night saying that If i was annoying her or she wasnt interested then tell me and ill back off.

Didnt get a reply, but when I saw her in the bar she works in she said she didnt have any money on her phone to text back, which is fine.

What did confuse me further is the fact that she then thought "I was mad with her" for not being able to come out.. Its sorted now, but its a bloody nightmare.

Do Polish mobile numbers work abroad or is she likely to have a british phone while shes here?

quoting DiscoPaul
She said "its not possible, I work 7 days a week in 2 jobs". I wasnt sure whether she was just finding an easy way of saying no so I left her my phone number the next time I went in.

Didnt get a reply, but when I saw her in the bar she works in she said she didnt have any money on her phone to text back, which is fine.

DiscoPaul,

Reading your posts, the woman is probably not interested in you.
If a woman is interested in a man, she will find time, she will find a way to contact him, she will find a way to let him know how she feels.
Maybe she is curious about you. You are a customer at the pub, etc.

Quoting DiscoPaul
What did confuse me further is the fact that she then thought "I was mad with her" for not being able to come out.. Its sorted now, but its a bloody nightmare.

It is obvious to me that you feel disappointed with the way things are turning out.
Do not worry, it will get more disappointing.
I would back off. I would be polite, but keep my distance.
If the atmosphere becomes uncomfortable for you, find a different pub.

Cheers for the comments mate. We'll see, I dont intend on pursuing too much now to be honest, wait and see.

Anyway, i wont be finding another pub, its my local.

that is so true.....it's all about reciprication.....if I don't call or text someone it means that I'm not bothered....plus all of a sudden I'm really busy, work, studies, friends, family etc.....but if it gets to a stalking level, then I get peeved and tell them straight....If I am interested I'll make the time no matter how busy I am....

Oh My this sounds so much like my situation with a polish guy with the interest there and then it's not and then the texts and everything

The only difference i have sat back now and see if he will do the running it as working for me before maybe it will again!

Discopaul try my approach it may work for you

Do not send too many texts if she is not replying

Good Luck i know how hard it is sometimes !!

I couldnt agree more Sarah, its also what ive done.

My problem is she works in my favourite bar, where all my friends usually go..

Well that should not be a problem considering the man i like works in my fav night club and my mates all go there too - show her you don't care and see if she comes running she may realise what she is missing if she sees you enjoying yourself

I pretty much ignored her last night Sarah. She asked me why i was mad with her??!!

Just said I wasnt, just backing off like I said. Think shes only here for another 3 weeks, so im going to accept theres not alot of chance its going to happen.

Hope your situation turns out ok...

Oh dear hun - at least she noticed you were ignoring her and it looks to me she was bothered you did ( hope that makes sense)

I am sure you will find someone which will be here longer then a short period of time wich will like you just as much as you like her don't be disheartend from one bad experience

I don't think my situtation will turn out ok to be honest with you i mean i met him around 9 months ago we got close and started talking alot and i made the stupis mistake of sleeping with him and he turned after that and blew hot and cold as in one min he was interested and then he weren't

When i came on here a couple of months back and got a few things translated i texted him and he told me he loved me and he was impressed i had gone to to effort of getting it into polish but still blew hot and cold - he also told me that he has no time for anything and has no time to think about what he wants.

But i cam to the conclusion that he likes me to flirt with and a bit of fun here and there but nothing else so i am pretty much going to ignore him from now on

But good luck with your life anyway

Take Care

sarah are u learning polish

do u know any

nara

Nope i would love to though

The only thing i learnt was a word that sounds like kutass - have no idea about spelling!! and cie kocham or kocham cie which ever way that is

I like coming on here trying to pick up things ha ha

sarah - it's very difficult, I speak French (not very well at times and better after a few Vodkas) and I have found the how verb thing so hard....much more complicated than english, but I enjoy it and my teacher is good and patient.


okay TTFN and dont go texting him xxxx

There is one thing you seem to ignore that may be crucial to understanding the situation. The girl came to the UK to earn some money, she's working hard and is using all the time available to do so (in Poland univ start Oct 2nd). Consequently no matter what she thinks or feels, she sticks to her priority - and Poles are good at that. Moreover, being tired as she must be, she won't have much energy to actually make the effort of going out knowing it's not going to last.

Just my humble opinion but may shed some new light at the situation.

BW

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Hiya Shelley i never went texting him and i do not plan on doing so neither iam going out to the place where he works tonight so i will update you come monday with the situation on Monday take care and have a good weekend.

x x

sarah - good girl, hope you had a goodun too, mine was one of domestic bliss, painting, cleaning and cooking!!!