Poland has killed my inner child

Is the original poster for real?

I went to Poland for 3 weeks and by the end of it I had made loads of friends with blokes aswell.

By week 3 it was at the point where I'd walk down the street and see someone I knew. I really fit in there and everybody was really friendly.

Theres loads of parties and such in Poland, you've just got to talk to people and go to the right places. I think you'll find that some people are actually very intellectual. I've had loads of meaningfull conversations with people. I know you said your sick of parties but parties are the best place to find new friends.

For a start your from another country, and meeting someone from another part of the world is always interesting. I'm told even more so in Poland because 99% of people there are Polish.

Please dont take this wrong, but , when you married, and moved there, did you
expect yourself to make it your home, or did you decide before you left that
nothing will take the place of home?

when you say inner child, it almost sounds like you wanted it to be a fairy tale
marriage with all the comforts of home.

in any marriage, its alot of work, it sounds like you are just a follower and not
a leader and so of course your going there , you would become home sick
because you maybe didnt want to let it become your home?

I know, my move from one city to another, when we first bought this house
I hated it. nothing was easy, i had to drive the kids back to their old schools for
2 weeks before school let out for the christmas holiday, I was so busy cleaning
I didnt have time to fix up a christmas tree, I went shopping late, due to the move
and was literally exhausted. I really hated this house alot.

its been three years now, I am making it mine, its very hard to adjust to something
your not used to.

Maybe if you take over the man your supposed to be, and find some type of peace
you might be able to find ways to make Poland your home. sitting back and letting
it get to you when you could be taking over your life and doing things and finding
more then surface beauty?

or Perhaps you should have thought about marriage before you put that ring on
and made that big move. I am not trying to get a rise out of you, more so just
inquiring on some things and suggestions-thoughts.

I hated moveing in this house with my husband who loves this house.

I happen to love it too now. I found some peace .

Perhaps he's just a misanthrope.

no , I dont think he hates mankind, only poland. but hes not letting himself
get over the vacation part of it.

I know theres a few of those "misanthrope" on the forum and we all know who they
are without mentioning nick names on here

a misanthrope with a grudge then?

lol huegel

Yes, the perogies must have not had enought saurkraut in them lol

Patrycja19, I don't mind mentioning who they are, you are the number one misanthrope? Please stop putting down other people

Patrycja doesn't put anyone down. She tries to help.

Let's face it , Barx thread sounds like outburst of little spoilt child...."I hate here I want go home".....he doesn't look for advice he wants people to say ..O , yes you are right Polish, Poland is hopeless ...we are so symhatetic to you ...come back...

There are few more people on this forum who have polish girlfriends , buy properties in Poland but their attitude is much more sensible and mature.

Today's Quote

The man who can't dance thinks the band is no good.

-Polish Proverb


That says it all!

Well, I fell kind of a similar to Barx. I live in a big city, far from home, tried to make some friends, but the truth is that everybody here have already their pals and a Pole won't fit in there and is rather omitted. I go out sometimes to the gigs, pubs, libraries, botanic gardens etc., but I'm disillusioned about any socialising with people here. Therefore I locked myself inside, and am now focused on myself - egoism is probably the only solution suitable for me in this situation of desertion and loneliness.

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Hi Bartolome - If you are living in Scotland, have a look at this site. Lots of people in the same situation.
I'd recommend "Polished" in Edinburgh for a good night out too.

I appreciate its more easily said than done.

Thanks, but I've already found this site.
And as for Edi, I'd rather stay where I am.

Bartomele,

To be honest I also feel lonely in UK.

but the truth is that everybody here have already their pals and a Pole won't fit in there and is rather omitted.
I don't know.....
I have polish friend who is happy in UK and she fits very well.
I think that it is very personal....how easy you adjust.

People in UK are friendly in general.... my problem is that I didn't meet here many people " similar to me"- going on the same waves as we call it on Poland.With my polish friends in Krakow I am just myself I say what I think and they understand me...Here it is different: different culture, behaviour....attitude....
But

I wouldn't say that I hate Uk or it is hopeless here...it is just different.....The same like for foreingers Poland is different...strange....

why dont you read a little better hullo <~and join , stop hiding behind
silly fake name.

Someone else is a big Banachek fan eh?

Thanks Iwona!

Yep, Giles is heading there, but hes totally in love, and that I think is what the
problem is, you have to feel it. any move is a big move. and really is hard to do
and making friends, and enjoying yourself .

I would love to go there. I would have a blast just learning the history

dear barx
hang in there
u are in a bad place right now, but u will snap out of it. try focusing on the bright side.And yes, there is one. wish you all the best