Are Poles happy with their sex lives?

According to the recent research conducted by SMG/KRC company around 23 % of Polish women at the age of 18 – 40 still consider their sex lives an embarrassing subject, something they do not like to talk about even with their partners. Among the Polish male population the percentage is lower: historically male sexuality has never been a taboo.

At the same time, for the majority of researched women (57%) and for the majority of men sexual life is of a great importance. They treat it mainly as a linking factor of their relationship.

The pleasure taken out of sex life is placed on the third place in hierarchy of importance. The first place is occupied by tenderness and proximity of partners, the second by love fulfillment. One may say that Poles do not treat sex as a pleasure source, separated from emotional side of their existence. On the contrary, sex is an important mean of emotional expression. Why then to almost ¼ of Polish women is it at the same time such an embarrassing matter?

The main problem here seems to be an issue of language and vocabulary related to sex life. To describe or refer to sex one must use a very delicate and balanced discourse combining medical, or even technical at times terminology with the language of love.

The research has shown that sex life of Poles is not an element of cultural or traditional message in the family. Polish women take information on sex mainly from various types of publications and from their gynecologist. On the other hand men do not read women magazines nor do they visit gynecologists. Where do they take the knowledge about sex from? How are they supposed to learn how to talk about their sex life and how to cultivate it?

Researched men see the problem and indicate the lack of publishing and educational forms of medium. They view sex as an important factor in their lives and treat it as an element of relationship building and at the same time they lack in the means to talk about it in a free way.

19 % of the people researched declare they do not use any form of contraception whatsoever, while leading sex life. The main reason for that is that they see it as “unnecessary”, principal reasons occur very rarely (just 2%), as well as health protection, although the latter is among the main factors as far as choice of contraceptive form is concerned.

At the same time Durex report shows that over half of Poles are satisfied with their sex life. The most satisfied are people in the age of 21-24 and staying in steady, long term relationship. Poles declare openness for new experiences, willingness to make their sex life more varied and more frequent. The latter is seen as needed mainly by older people, and those describing themselves as singles. Teenagers seem to be satisfied with the frequency of their sexual encounters. The same refers to people of 30 - 40 years of age, especially those living with a partner. Inspiration and new experiences are sought mainly by people in their early twenties, thus with relatively little experience in sex life. The need diminishes with age. It is also not characteristic for the youngest group of people researched.

Anja

mmhh interesting ... it would interesting to know how this compares with other countries

by living in the uk i can tell you that is very different here !!

everyone is much more confortable in talking about their sex life ... also females ...

for instance here is very normal that some girls go around with small vibrators in their purse :)

???? who? normal - I dont think so.



Most people I know prefer not to speak about it, since its a private matter.

Sup A :)

In the US people don't openly discuss their sex lives. Maybe just guys or ho's that are into the one night stand thing that want to brag.

I do not know of any girls who have these in their purse.... is it the same England that I live in??? I would not agree that english speak more freely of sex.... maybe girls chat to girls, men to men... but generaly our sex lives are not discussed publicaly. However, certain tabloids print kiss and tell stories of sex, but usually involving celebrities

I hope it is only vibrators and not live stuff.

Im good thanks Mr F, how are things with Ania? hope she's enjoying her stay :)

Very much so :) She's taking a lot of broken stereotypes back to Poland with her :) She's very surprised about how nice it is here and I'm very happy about that. No complaints about the food yet, but I'm a helluva good cook ;)

Hope all is well with you too :) I see that there were some not so nice things said to you here, but you can handle yourself ya tough cookie.

My company does websites - lots of 'em - and we were looking at one of the threads in the "Sex and Love" section of this teenage-girl site we run. One girl - 14 - was asking for advice on buying her first dildo. Others were recommending certain vibrators instead, but appreciated a good dildo. 13, 14, 15-years old...damn, things are different here.

Another thread from a few days back from another girl, age 16: she couldn't get her boyfriend to go down on her, so she...um, "used" chocolate pudding. A lot of it...inside and out. Nope - this is true! She woke up the next morning and couldn't find all the pudding, and the bf admits to nothing.

Kids these days. Sheesh.

Broad shoulders Mr F :)

wow. Kids these days is right. Hope she didn't have a pet

Ewww. I didn't think the story could get worse, but...ewwww!

Things can always get worse in PF :)

PF?
I'm not hip to that, dude...

Saying things can always get worse in polish forums. No one would be hip to that above ideas :)

PF - ah!
Besides, I always quote the great Pee Wee when in doubt...

well if you are gonna carry one around with you, might as well make it a big one!

What what, am i missing something here..

not really.. just the usual drivel of ridiculous stereotyping and other such nonsense

It'a good topic but i'm not going to spill out personal stuff about my sex life on a such a broad publicity anyway. I'm straight and i do love to have a good sex life although it's not the main reason to live. That's all i can say about it now. :)

are many Polish people into S & M?

I'm not fancy that s**t but ...nurse's uniform do me well :)

seriously, I was wondering if there is any fetish scene in Poland? some Polish people Ive come across here seem a bit shocked by that kind of thing.

Why ? Do you like It ?

They do a wonderful line in summer and autumnal clothing, at a very reasonable price without losing there fashionable credibility..

I'm merely asking the question Greg? My own sexual preferences are not up for discussion here.. Its just an observation that some Poles can appear to be conservative at times, but imo its normally these quieter types that quite easily get into all kinds once exposed to certain things that they havent neccessarily been before... dont know if that makes sense?

Grzegorz_ likes it doggy style..

with a leather studded collar on :)

I'm surrounded by nurses all day at work, so that uniform never did much for me.

But flight attendants... oh my days, that's a different matter altogether, trust me.

Especially if they are in an Alitalia uniform. :D :D