Is my polish boyfiend cheating on the internet -help with translation

that's nasza-klasa.pl isn't it. these comments, as someone else said, are flirty and playful, yet there is no indication that he is cheating in any way, he's just being a muppet and complimenting another woman. the girl obviously knows he has a girlfriend, so you can't exactly blame her for your boyfriend being a sleaze, but she's happy to recieve his comments. i'd just ask him to remove those comments from her site and take you out for dinner to make up for it. (or if you want to write to her and warn her you are not happy about her flirting with your boyfriend, post it on here and i will translate it to Polish for you ;)

I already told you it was flirty but not over the line. Didn't I?


School starts in Sept.

I would stay as you are. Wait for other messages and have a look at them to see what THOSE messages will be like. Obviously it's inconclusive as to what his intentions are so wait for something better. If you have it out of him now then he'll set it to private and you'll never find out!

My advice is, insist on going along when they meet up in September. If he makes excuses then you know something is going on. If this is just being playful and flirty with an old friend he will be happy for you to meet her.

Oh and you should send her a text saying how much you are looking forward to meeting her!


How's that sound?

OK, now I'm honest, not translating, not having fun.

If you feel an urge to have your BF's comments on nasza-klasa or fotka.pl translated, than break up with this guy and wait until you grow up and become ready for a healthy relationship.

Ask him instead of random people

wyspi you've beaten me to it!!!!

I could give no better advice than that, a relationship is based on three main features, emotions, trust and communication. Out of these three for this situation i would underline two of them, trust and communication, as these are the two most important to your current situation.

So firstly lets take communication, to communicate with him you need to talk to him, as wypsi said, go and discuss with him what you are happy to discuss with some total randoms on the internet. If you can't do that with him but you can with us then what is the point in having a relationship with him, you may aswell call it quits now.

Seconldy the trust element, do you trust him enough to go onto a website without getting involved with or accepting advances from other women??? if not then you do not trust him, clearly, if you are just having doubts then it goes back to point 1, communication.

So my advice is think about the two elements i have just mentioned and do your own summing up, you are the only one who know's what is best to do as your involved in the relationship from start to finish, you know him. We have only heard about him today and his actions on one particular website.

Good Luck

T

It sounds to me like they've already talked about this and he's giving her excuses. What should she do next? Just leave him without proof or just accept his excuses? Why is it so wrong for her to seek help from others? Why does she have to carry this alone? In some societies it's okay to reach out to others when you don't know what to do.

that's why it's so profitable to be a psychoanalyst/therapist in the us...
:)

with all god's will behind her, the only person who can resolve this is her, we only know certain things about 'a' single situation. We on't know the bloke, we don't even know her. For us to advice exactly what she should do is wrong. Usually people talk to others about situations because they already have doubts and just want 'permission' to carry out what they already have in their head. Its like a type of justification stage if you like.

An option is to leave him, yes, even without a word if she thinks that is required. Personally i think confronting him about it, texts, internet messages and all, is a better way of sorting the situation out quicker with closure

lol.

hahahaha, nothing like making a mint of the back of somebody else's poblems, aaaayyyyy :)

you're such a man. men like to fix things. women like to talk about them. :)

in this case its the womans approach with the mans mentality that will get things done.

Talking = Fixing

either way you look at it, whether she leaves him or stays with him it would be sorted.

You see the two sexes can do things together apart from make love :)

and it saves them a few bucks for a new pair of shoes or a manicure if it's done on PF... ;)


the worst way to deal with that - only talking about it and no action,
the best way - talk to him and take some action...
the best scenario - if he really scerwed up, kick him out and smile...

well ok i'm willing to accept that adapted version :)

if she does this he will break in 1 second without a doubt

well going on the thread about the polish recievig bad press, he will break for sure. :):):)

if you dont mind but what age is the guy?

I was receantly asked by my female friend what I was thinking about her relationship and I told her that because of the luck of detailed knowledge about her guy and her I really am not in a position to do that, since I don't want to influance her decision. She was not happy because she was looking for answers she didn't/did have herself, but I insisted on my position.

I am not going to give her answers she already has/ doesn't have.


Matters of the heart are the most difficult to give advice on.

25.

Thanks for all the advice. Its really interesting to hear everyones different views.

Anyway, spoke to him last night about his messages and about this forum last night.

He has told me that she is an old friend that he grew up with but lots touch with about 9 years ago. They were very good friends at school and they have just got back in touch recently so have lots to catch up on. Also that they share a similar crazy sense of humour so the comments on the pictures may sound a bit stupid to others but to them its just stupid fun...

Also that he has no problem me meeting her in September when we go back to Poland..so will wait and see.

I think when you have been cheated on in the past its sometimes difficult to trust.

I have had a couple of boyfriends in the past that would have no problem looking me in the eye and telling me lies, and they were generally very nice guys...

Also doesn't help when you don't speak the language. If it was all in English then I'd know very quickly if things were not right! Maybe time for me to learn some Polish!

fotka
nasza klasa
they are polish sites .. nasza klasa is similar to friends reunited in some ways
polish people have bebo and facebook and myspace as well

maybe its epuls.pl?
photoblog.pl?

you see my dear, all you needed to do was think about the core fundimental things in a relationship :) You also did the right thing in approaching him on the matter as you eventually found out everything was harmless and actually they were friends.

You see what you get with a bit of Communication :) I'm glad your happy and it has all worked out, hopefully you will learn from this for future situations.

T