Polish boyfriends

wtf? im not going to discuss my sex life with you. you are strange. it is a known fact men will have sex with you just to avoid talking, it solves nothing in the long run, it just delays things untill next time. you cant have sex everytime there is a problem, unless its just f*ck buddies and sex is all it is about. you dont shag your friends ffs, thats sick and disgusting.

?? I didn't realize I asked..

you suggested it wasnt good whilst you know nothing, so how about you say nothing about it huh?

Point taken, Mrs. Justysia. I didn't mean to offend.

you should be out having a good time instead of being on the forum then!

Like said earlier: the lady's on a girlie night out and I'm waiting for her to get back and I took the chance to be all alone to write some new music as I didn't feel like going into town tonight :)

M-G (went out last night and in an expensive place like Dublin, well, yeah; I don't like to spend 100 Euros when I don't feel like going out and see some replaceable faces, know what I mean? Besides that: I type very fast, so the netto time spent on this forum is not that much :) )

yeah i know just what you mean. i dont like going out and spending 50 quid if i dont feel like it, its nice to stay at home sometimes and do something you normally dont have time for. id probably go anyway if i was single ha ha, but im not, so tough :P

The good thing is, we have a choice to go out and about. To choose not to do so has nothing to do with being boring or having some mental issue. You just choose NOT to go out and save a buck :)

M-G

it depend on person everyone is different ... for example I wouldn't do that to any 1.

I'm not Polish, but have had 16 years experience (Polish now ex-husband, etc.). One BIG thing: you cannot trust what is being said in a language you don't understand. That is an incredibly dangerous position for you to be in. Lord knows what they are saying, but odds are it isn't good.

You sound vulnerable and trusting. I'm sorry, but I have a feeling your trust hasn't been well placed here. It is true that if he really cared for you more than her, he would cut down on the contact with her. I had a similar situation with my ex-husband - he had a v close female friend who was basically jealous and wanted to assert her position as being his 'most important female'. I think she always was, really, and years later they are still inseparable friends. But friendship is one thing: an ex is usually entirely different, and it's worrying he has so much to do with her.

I'm afraid you might have to start trying to rewrite how everything really happened, and just try letting go of him. Sorry, but that's the obvious advice.

I think you are deluding yourself. My experience has been no self-respecting woman or man puts up with his or her lover having another on the side. I'd make a side bet, you are the one paying the rent, providing the food and free sex.

Polish guys love to keep contact with there ex's, some sort of power thing, get rid of him and find a guy who wants you and you only...

Yep, I bet it's true at least on the food and blow jobs side. And if you are doing free rent too, you really are mad. I know they have this knack of making you feel like you've suddenly found the depth and intensity of connection/affection that you've been missing all your life, but you have to peel yourself away from them.

Obviously the answer is an UNattached Polish guy to fall in love with. That must be heaven.

but after 16 years together I would have thought you had learnt enough Polish to understand the jist of the conversations? If not, then thats worrying. I am sorry you have had a negative experience, but just cos your partner is speaking his native tongue to his ex or female friend doesnt mean he's up to no good. Maybe yours was, but dont judge all Polish men by him.

dunno what to say... whats wrong in saving contact with old ex's ? in same way of thinking u can force every new bf/gf to leave all his friends cus of U, and what if u break after yr or two...

no, not me with 16 years experience and can't understand!! i speak pretty fluent polish (although don't like to say that, because obviously it isn't perfect - but nothing much gets past me :) - no, it was the original post person who said she didn't understand a word. Precisely because I DO know what kind of conversations are had when someone else is in the room and doesn't understand Polish is why I said she's in a v vulnerable and dangerous position!! You can't not know the other person's language, to my mind.

Nothing, if it's on a friendly basis, not when it's to control each and every movement the girl makes.

M-G (only installs hidden cameras in his exes houses, but that should be ok, I guess:) )