The polish girl, and the life partnership

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yeah... just curious because I know quite a few married poles and the men don't clean and the marriages are far better than any in the US

valmoe1 Thanks, for understanding what I am really looking for. Thanks for showing me the positive sides of it too. And for the bright guidance.
the son had been of a great concern for me. Not that I have a problem with it, just as you said it is a delicate matter and I want to take correct initial steps. It is really very imortant to know how I could become a good friend of him... That had made my mind very busy. I am trying to be more practical and prepare myself. I want that it work out and I am determined to make it work.
I will never forget your advice. "To be his friend than his father". and not to not to show a fear. :)

How is the house work usually devided between a couple? I mean, how is the the culture?
How much do men normally help and what do they help?
Is there something which a polish wife won't like his husband to do at home? (which I may think that I am helping...)

I am a step-child and I was lucky enough to get a great step-mother! I wasn't so lucky on the step-dad. I was evil, worse than evil to him. He just didn't get it. He didn't try either.

Don't be embarrassed that your not a Pole. If he's any part of a decent kid, he'll have fun teaching and laughing at you while you learn. Just laugh with him. I didn't catch where your from but you could try teaching him your culture too.

I think your heading in the right direction with being practical. Your in a terribly scary place moving, marriage and step-parent and all you can do is try. I was that age when my father remarried. It's different for every kid and every situation but all you can do is try to adjust to him becasue he may not be keen on adjusting to you. Key is, don't try too hard.

I am sure you'll get it, and if you don't that's ok too. He's 13. He may need a couple years to come around once he figures out who he is.

I am from Armenia.

So you can teach him some cultural things too. Should be fun. You could ship him some small gifts. Kids always love getting things in the mail! Give him an idea of who you are and what your culture is like. I've found that polish culture is very family oriented so I'm sure you'll be accepted. Plus, you have a lot to learn from him.

You both have a lot to teach each other! Sounds fun! He's 13 so impressionable and ready to be a "man". Sounds like this should be an amazing adventure for all 3 of you!

The only thing I have ascertained from the Polish Community in my area is that they hate English people and make it known!

been here 5 months and haven't seen that at all!

From my observation it's actually the other way around...hang out here for a bit and you'll see for yourself. There's a lot of "stop stealing our work and Polish go home" here. Nothing new.

Ya that is right. I have so many things to tell him about my culture and also my passt. And I like (and must) still learn so many things.

I have talked to her very often about him. Before I meet him, I already know much about him. I know about his likes and dislikes.

In first 2 years I will be only occasionally in Poland and will be most of the time in Germany. And I think this is good as he will slowly slowly get used to me and will not immediately see it as a third person added.

UKGUY, which city are you living in?
It might be different from place to place too. right? As per my experience, big cities are better in such cases.

If I write my experience... I mean about Germany. And I mean it mifht be the same.

my man does most of the cleaning and I do most of the cooking.. I think its cos Im not Polish though as Polish women seem to like cleaning and I dont.

How is the gift culture? what would she like and how?

I had a german girlfriend and we lived together for a wile. On her birthday I took a pain to surprise her (as I like surprises). I got a bunch of flowers the day before and somehow managed to hide and maintain them and kept them next to her on the dressing table along with a nice card very early in the morning, so that when she opens her eyes she can see it and become happy.
I was surprised insdead, as she did not touch them and was angry on me because I was supposed to deliver it to her personally. :-(

I do often criticize and appreciate a reasonable criticizing about myself. How do Polish girls react when they are criticized? Do they also do it?

Hello !

I'm a Greek guy living in UK.I've fallen in love with a Polish girl at my job and I would like to ask you if you could tell me , what do Polish girls expect from a guy to do in order to make a relationship?what do they consider sweet and what rude or impolite?Do we Greeks have any bad reputation in Poland?I've already expressed my feelings by giving her flowers , chocolates and telling her that she is the most beautiful girl I've ever seen.Do this kind of stuff made her happy?what else should I do in order to attract her?do they ever make relationships with people from abroad?