the polish girl i love has gone back to poland .

hi there,i have worked with this girl for 1 month , i was her boss for the duration of her stay , i am 40 years old and she 19.we became very close and like most things ,it comes to an end,she has a polish boy friend who lives in scotland ,who i believe she does love,i am married and took on 4 children . my wife is always arguing with me for the last 10 years,any way i was lieing to my wife saying that i was working when i was not just so i could see her,i was acting strange at home , every one new something was wrong. the thing is i fell in love with this girl,i told my wife all abut her when i was drunk.the last working day that we had left she tex me and asked me to meet her ,so i did,caused a row with wife so that i could see her,all through her stay i have been honest about my feelings for her ,were she didnt say how she felt,she would be like hot and cold.we goes for a drive and one thing leeds to another and we make love,what a night.she gave me 2 big love bites on my neck,i droped her home,then went to my mates to tell him what has happend,i then tex my wife to tell her that i had cheeted on her,she replyd we can work it out.my head was all mixed up.i had such strong feelings for this girl whome i had only new for 1 month.she contacted me on the saturday night when me and the wife was out and asked me to meet her,she was leaving uk on sunday morning at 2am i realy didnt now what to do,but i desided to stay with wife ,but it was hard because i new i would probublary never see her again.
on the saturday night when i was in bed ,i was asleep she kept texing me ,my wife was giving her a load of **** back.any way i called her on the sunday to say by by ,since then i had one tex to say that she was going through the euro tunnel .and i have had no tex no calls no emails ,since last sunday.all i ask is how can i get over this girl,she has broken my heart,even if she gave me one tex for closure that would have been fine,
when i am with my wife ,she always nows when i am thinking about her,which is most of the time.
all i am saying is be carefull about getting involved with any one,because i am hurting so bad,
if any one would like to give me some words of hope please do.thanks for reading.
neville1967@blueyounder.co.uk

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A lot of non-polish people on this forum are here because they tasted the polish fruit and they got hooked on it's sweetness.....but hey, better to have tasted it and lost than never to have tasted it at all :-)

words of hope ?
You should be ashamed of yourself !!!
Im not saying thats its only your fault, that girl is stupid aswel, but
FOR F***K sake you are married !!!
AGHR im just getting angry when im reading bul***it like that !!!!

oh, and i also meant to add that i hope you have a strong chin, because a lot of members are gonna give you a lot of flak for your post

I cannot offer words of hope I am afraid. This forum is full of non Polish men who have met a Polish woman and have quickly fallen for her and it ends in tears very quickly. Of course each story is slightly different but there are recurring themes. For example in my case she was very hot and cold but not cold in the first month ( I have known her since 1 April). Since we have lived together ( two weeks) things are much better she relocates August 20 as she has a new job. They do not discuss feelings. They have other boyfriends in other countries ( in my case she has a French boyfriend whom she says she loves but when she talked about him when we first met she referred to him as a very good friend). She also has a man in Germany I think. I have a perspective about her now and just aim to enjoy my time with her before she relocates. After that I am sure she will befriend a UK man where she is relocating to and I will not hear much from her.

I think these Polish women like to befriend men in the country they are in and I have to say use them to their advantage. In my case I have helped her find a job, take her out and now she lives with me. She has used my feelings for her. Having said that I know she has feelings for me but will not say so. However I am glad I met her but now I will be pleased when she relocates so I can get on with the rest of my life..

You will get over it but it is tough I know.Take Care.

Very well put and I very much agree. It is best to have met the woman than not to have met her no matter the anguish. Remember the good times.

Hard to understand how adult people can be so stupid.

I guess love can make fools of us all.

Generalize much? This just may be an example of the "type" of women you met. Can't say this for all. Sucks for you that's all.

neville1967- Sounds like you got yourself into a mess. You got married for a reason. Don't let the simple temptations in life ruin what you've already found. Temtation is everywhere. You'll get over it. If not, you need a divorce.

You have children, no doubt not much younger than the young girl barely out of school you say you fell in love with. Would you like the same thing to hapen to one of your daughters with a man old enough to be her father.

If it was my daughter you would be screaming for help in a very high voice by now.

You disgust me.

Your wife needs to come to her senses and kick your cheating a$$ to the curb!

Yes I accept it is a generalisation if I was referring to all Polish women but I was not. If you had read the introduction to my post you will note I was referring to the many non Polish men who have posted similar situations. That is why I used the term these Polish women referring back to the Polish women these non Polish men have posted about.

Of course I do not say this about all Polish women. And lastly it does not suck for me anymore she and I know where we are now.

thank you for your kind words,thats the sort of information i need, i know i have cheeted on my wife but it could have been anyone .i miss her so much,the pain is easing slowly.i only wish she lived in the uk,
many thanks for your tell me about your exsperiance.
i wish you well. :)

you are entitled to your opinion,i exspected this sort of coments,thats why i put it on the net,maybe i need to relise what i have done.,but i would not change the way that i felt for this girl.it felt so real ,that finaly some one was paying me attention which i have not had for years.
thanks for your comments

what about the cheeting polish girl,you dont mention her as beeing a cheet,?

19 year old barely out of school, just a child - 40 year old adult should know better, hardly a level playing field

by the way they are not my children,i took them on 10 years ago

ok i deserved that.

It takes two to Tango.

Sometimes women don't just get involved but start it and demand it.

thanks for your comment,i am trying to get my life back together but its hard.cheers

I don't see how people on here say that they love someone only after a month of knowing them... it's not love it's infatuation. There is a difference. I see this all over this forum how they are heart broken after knowing the person for such a short time. Gotta stop throwing words around that have no meaning behind them.

Also, what is up with the people that come on here saying that they are in love with a woman that they have talked on the phone with, you really have to meet the person and spend time with them to be fall truely in love. WTF is wrong with some of these people on here...

LOL

/end rant :)

rant away

i agree...apsolutely pathetic.i hate cheaters.
someone's having a middle age crisis???

It seems as if you were 'grooming' her and that is dispicable. Get the fcuk off this website.

my thoughts exactly :(

the age gap makes the whole thing a bit iffy but <imho> i think 'grooming' is a bit too harsh.

Hi there,

To be honest i can't believe you've written on here looking for the sympathy vote!!!!!! Who do ou think you are, you should be having serious words with yourself for cheating on your WIFE (THAT MEANS YOU ARE MARRIED!!!!!!!) i'm reminding you as you obviously forgot about the ring on both yours and your wifes finger!!!.

Even though i'm never going to get married myself i believe if you take those vows you should dam well stick to them and not treat them with such disdain, those vows are taken by people who are (IN LOVE) and want to make a life commitment with one another. Obviously you don't really understand what this is.

I'll finish by saying the only person i have sympathy for is your wife because she has to live with a person who calls himself a man and her husband, who has actually been cheating on her with some Polak from work. I hope you get what is coming to you which is a divorce and i hope if you get in contact witht his girl again that she gives you the brush off and make you realise what your wife actually meant to you when you were first married.

Sorry to all other members of this forum for my harsh words however this is just my point of view. To Neville1965 its not a good idea to give your e-mail address out on a public forum.

Did you happen to be drunk when you typed your post? I noticed at least 40 typing and grammar errors!

That crossed my mind too!

neville - i really think you should be ashamed of yourself. I believe that peple can't help who they fall for but in your case I think there was something else going on. A 19 year old! Give me a break, your wife and her kids are better off without you, let them go and let them move on.

for some reason i keep clicking on this one and reading the poor excuse for a man's story is there anyway that we can put this disgrace behind us its embarrassing to the male species,

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