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Nov 20, 06, 13:19 #158
I get offended when people say English when they mean British, or are Welsh and Scottish immune to the supposed vile ways of Polish women?
I’ve had a Polish girlfriend for nearly a year, and it hasn’t been easy- but a lot of the problems aren’t because she is Polish, more cultural differences. I’m a non- conformist, she’s a Catholic- it seems everyone is a Catholic in Poland and a ‘mixed marriage’ is difficult and somewhat heretical?
I’m 39 and she’s 26, it’s an age difference for sure, but not ridiculously so in my opinion- however she says that in Poland it would turn peoples heads to see us walking down the street hand in hand, I don’t know, I’ve never been to Poland.
Have I given her money? Yes, some, probably the equivalent of £1500 in gifts and cash over the year- but I did it out of love, I would have done the same to anyone I loved who needed the help. I have a couple of £ and haven’t done paid work for 9 months, meanwhile she has consistently worked in minimum wage jobs because she wants to send money to her family [she says, I don’t check her bank account do I]. I only really give her the cash because I have it and she needs it- for sure she’s a bit lucky, the majority of Polish people are only in the UK for economic reasons- for sure they don’t come to the UK for the weather.
After 12 months: what I know about Polish girls, they are different to British girls, they require high maintenance, respect, and love- in return they will make you happy- maybe ‘English girls’ settle for second best, but for a Polish girl you either shape up or they’re out of there, and if they are angry then they will probably take you for all they can- just like everyone else would.
After 12 months: what I know about Polish guys. They have a lot of ego, to be honest I’d be more worried about a Polish guy ripping me off than a Polish girl. But again if you treat them firmly but with respect then they are fine- turn your back and they take the piss, but a lot of them are young and I was no better at their age.
For myself I am in love, and I’ve never had any problems finding a girlfriend, I just never found love- if it costs me a couple of £ to be in love then I’ll just have to shape up and make sure I can supply- as to opening joint bank accounts, not a hope in hell, I’m not that stupid- I wouldn’t even have such an account with my own mother.
So where does that leave the Polish guy looking for a British girl? The biggest worry [I imagine as I am male] are not to dissimilar to the opposite scenario- language, income, fear that you will run off back to Poland when you’ve had ‘your fun’. Maybe if you treated a British women with love and respect [which I know Polish mean can] then it would be possible, but still difficult, there will always be the fear of the ’risky’ option- the last thing you want to do is try and compete with the British guys because if you do you just appear a ’risky’ version of a British guy , and ’she’ will ultimately prefer the ‘safer’ option.
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