A Polish Married Girl Rocks my boat!!

Has It sank already ?

Sorry guys..I was away...thanks for ur kind words..well for most of them..
Some clarifications.. I am married too and have two kids of my own...My marriage has been on the rocks for a while..and this happened.....I am trying to put my acts together for my kids but it is killing me at the same time knowing that I will never have love ever

You will receive lots of love from your children. Don't get desperate, there are so many single women and single mothers looking for someone as well. You must divorce if you and your wife have decided to split apart...then! Meanwhile, you could start dating single women. Let go of the married girl! She belongs to someone else. We know it's hard for you, but even if you try to work this out with her... It may end up and you will never live with your guilty conscience because of you, her marriage vanished! Be happy! Life knows all the unfair games, step out of it ;)

sure you will.. look up instead of down.

Its So true jestesjedyny.....Thanks for ur kind words and ray of hope....I shouldn't be selfish!! I should think of my little girls!! They will love me one day

Get out of your relation. Get your head clear, takes some time, Dont rush back into a relation. No one ever needs another to be happy. Happiness comes from the inside. If you try and fill some void by being in a relation you will always be disapointed.

have you tried self sacrifice? put yourself aside (i know you are willing to do this for your kids)... put yourself behind your wife. completely put her first and put all effort into her... see the response.
if there is no positive response than you can walk away knowing you aren't at fault. but if you dont truly self sacrifice for her than you are just as guilty for the marriage falling apart.
marriage isnt about you, its about the other person. and when both people realize that, marriage is wonderful.

I have tried with my wife a lot....Failed to communicate with her at all...she know my weakness is my daughters and I will not leave them..so she is safe!!

well if you are not going to leave your wife and kids and she is not gonna leave her husband.. what the hell is the point of this thread?

I was trying to get it off my chest!!!

good god man, pull yourself together! You brought your kids into this world- give them the stability you'd have wanted for yourself as a child. c'mon, do the right thing, something you can be proud of when you look back on this.

thanks people..you are kind

Sorry I object with this comment, I understand what you mean but just because you marry doesn't automatically mean that you are then somebodies property for them to control.

You are still a person in your own right, just with limitations.

If everybody believed that marriage was an absolute then there would be some very poor lawyers........ don't you think.

Yes things and feelings DO change with time.

Yes You DO deserve to be Happy, just take things slowly and not rush into another relationship.

I was brought up in an unhappy marriage and really wish my parents had deviorced earlier and not waited until I, being the youngest child, was 18 years old. As the only child left at home I was my parents referee and occasionally punch bag whilst protecting my father from my mothers blows!!!!!
So staying together for your girls sake is not always a good idea.

Surprise, surprise although I respect the ethose of marrage, in sickness and in health, till death do us part etc but after 22 years of it I'm currently having an affair with a single man. We're taking it slowly...... only fools rush in.

Comments you have received are usually from those who are realitively newly married or who are deviorced due to their wife/husband cheating, so they are bitter. The only person who can make the decision is YOU.


All the best.

Very well put.

Objections are welcome :) However, I have not stated anything about *control..* etc.... I've never said such words, you're speculating. She is obviously not a property, she is banging Senator while being with her husband hehe. I simply said, she belongs to him and he belongs to her, they belong to each other ;) it's mutual!!! That's a marriage! "What God Has United, Man Must Not Divide" :)) get it? It's not the same when you are in a relationship or engaged.

According to what he's said so far, the woman has feelings for her husband ...meaning that marriage may have a future, but Senator is between them. I think what I said in post #33 is good for him and for the married woman. Best wishes for Senator!! (:

i disagree.. it's about the unit of two or more people. you have to be happy too. it's about give and take not just about give or take alone.
sometimes the right thing is to split. have some dignity.
big limitations... you don't have all the freedoms of a single person. thus you're theirs.
only fools have affairs.
yup

If it was just girlfriend boyfriend then maybe.....she is married dude and so are you, don't mess with her mind..by the looks of it your asking for a lot of trouble.

Somebody is in the same shoes as me!!...
Although the idea of having to cheat on someone is NOT something I am comfortable with...sometimes you don't have very many choices..
I don't know what feeling she has for me but I didn't speak to her at all for more than a week to try to understand her (and my own) mind and try to find out if it is all about SEX!! She didn't speak to me either ,,,till I broke the silence..When I spoke to her she was a broken woman..She said "its NOT about just SEX..I am crazy about you"..I don't know what to make of it!! Does she or does she NOT!!

i think its just natural to want what you cant have. read 'the game' by neil strauss. actually amazing.

I wish she was..It would have been so easy to deal with..if it was just SEX..We haven't had sex in 8 weeks..coz of her holidays and health..but she still rocks my boat...
Even if I decided to break up with her because of my daughters..she will be on my mind for the rest of my life!!

Should be every guys bedside read :)

ok slightly wrong use of the word, but I did said I understoood what you meant about belonging to each other.

Most men believe that once you are married your whole life belongs to them and you loose your own right to be yourself, or perhaps that only happened to me!!



That's your opinion and I respect that - ok



Yea and recieved a lot of flack/disapproval from other members!! Neither am I comfortable with cheating on someone especially after being totally loyal for 22 years!!! Doubt many of the other members, who are preaching, that their marriages have been that long..........

I'm really glad that their marriages are so strong and obviously very happy ones, not all of us are so lucky!!!

Sorry I can't give you any advise as to what to do next, but when you didn't talk to her for a week, if I'd been in her shoes then I would certainly been asking You questions as to why you weren't talking to me?!!! Something's just not adding up.......

Hope you find your answers soon. lol

We had an argument and nobody wanted to start the conversation..thats why...

My curiocity and the need for answers would still have made me want to clear the air.... or perhaps that's just me as a British woman.

lol x