Polish men are great

I'm curious about something. this forum is full of guys looking for polish women but no women looking for polish men! Why? I am an Irish woman dating a Polish man and he is the sweetest, sexiest, most considerate man I have ever been out with. I have met many of his friends and have been treated like a princess from word go by all of them. Polish guys rock!!

I agree. Polish men are great and the best! )

Yes, and what's most important is that they (most of them) are NOT players like many other nationalities I've seen.

Hi Irish
It's well-known fact Polish and Irish people like each other . I'm not sure why, but this is what I've heard.

Why "no women looking for Polish men"? I think it's (again) the stereotype thing - most people believe what they see on TV or hear on the radio - that many Polish men are drunkards, thieves, lazy, or stupid. It's not exactly true - probably media want others to believe that to keep the power.

Generally speaking, yes - Polish guys are cool. As someone above noted, they are not players; they are what they are and don't hide with that. They are usually hard -working and do their job very well - whether they are a garbage men or doctors.

I'm a Polish guy too, so I'm happy to hear I would have a chance to go on a date with an Irish woman

arek

Thanks :-)

Do they? And if yes, then why is it so difficult to communicate with them? Even in Polish, as I'm Polish... Or maybe it's just me and my bad luck
G

Hi G, but I'm not sure what you mean by "difficult to communicate" - do you mean they cannot express their feelings or something?

I guess that's it. And I get the impression that, when they're with someone they've just met, they don't really know how to be themselves. Instead they pretend to be cool machos, which in most cases they're not (and that's good!). Hmmm... Or maybe it's just the result of misunderstandings between the two sexes, which would mean that it's applicable to men all over the globe
G

Oh, I see. Assuming you're a woman, I think you are right. But you need to understand some of them may feel intimidated by either the new culture or new relationship (and that means they are romantic. Each of us watches movies and stuff and some of us men to think being a cool macho is the way to gain the woman's heart. So I think it's applicable to all men, not only Polish.

Oh, don't tell me men believe in what they see in movies (especially romantic comedies) I thought only teenagers (teenage girls, I mean) take them seriously. Well then, I think we should leave our discussion as it is 'cause women-men topics are a slippery ground, don't you think so? There are as many points of view as there are participants of a discussion.
Take care then! Good luck with Polish women/ men to you all!
Gosia

The sad fact is - TV has a lot of influence on people (especially men). Maybe more women should be movie directors then .

Do you really think that TV alone is so influential that it can shape people's expectations and perception of the others, or the other sex for that matter? I would rather blame popular culture. I wonder if anyone has done any research in that field. The more I think about it, the more interesting it seems! And in the beginning I thought that this conversation was pointless :P

Not only Tv, maybe it's just men thing... I feel some Polish guys just are intimidated by many things and their reaction shows that. But I'm happy for those who don't give up (and start drinking for example)...

Please, someone let men feel and let them show it, you're complaining that they don't show feelings, and then say that only young girls believe in romantic comedies?

Well... to answer the question why there are few women talking about 'looking for a Polish man' is I think partly because women rarely do the search to begin with (which is not good by the way). And also because as someone mentioned before because Polish men are not players and there are less of the immature-heartbroken-girls crazily crying for her ex-player-boy because he (naturally) dumped her.
On average I'd say that an educated Polish man is much better in terms of his values, responsibility, treating women with respect, etc. then other nationalities, but of course individual characteristics play the most important role.

Yes polish man is OK.:)

Yes, I couldn't agree more. Though I've only begun with E-mailing, I have found this Polish man to be very sincere, very honest, as well as a very caring father to his only son. He is the type of person I am enjoying getting to know and beginning to love. Yes, I know, I know-- everyone says to me to "tread lightly...take things slow", and I am and he is as well. We both at present are at the ages where we have more of focused ideas of what we're looking for in our lives and will work steadily towards a positive and uplifting goal. He wants to come to America and better his life in positive ways, and I want to be able to assist him as much as I can, in whatever way I can. I live in a very progressive and diverse city and state where many opportunities abound for a better life, and I want to be in the position to share that with him.

Hi Avis,

So you know him only from the virtual world, don't you? How do you communicate (in English or in Polish?). I think it would be a good idea to meet in the real life first so that he and his son could get to know you better and vice versa...

basia

Dear Basia,

Yes, while it is true that at present I only know him from the virtual world, he does have written, articulate command of the English language -- he does not have comfortability with conversational English, which is o.k. for now -- at least we do have this opportunity for communication. Eventually, he will come to America and the rest will fall into place in the future. Until then, I take opportunities as they come to me, and I am sure more will occur as the year progress.

Avis, you go girl! If you believe this is the right guy, I'm happy for you! Many Polish men are romantic inside and don't usually "play games" so I'm sure you'll be fine! Good Luck!

Basia

Thank you, Basia. At present, all is well with Krzysztof and I. As Doris Day used to sing,"Que Sera, Sera....whatever will be, will be." Thank you for your encouragement. It does mean a lot.

Hi, Basia! I think that I forgot to answer your question in regards to communicating with Krzysztof. His English is o.k. -- he is articulate, but only marginal in conversational English. I personally think he does well, but I haven't heard him speak to me yet. I have encouraged him to call me several times -- I think he might be a bit self-conscious about conversing. I don't know what more I can do about that.

Good to know that - currently most Poles can speak English pretty well. I can understand it's easier for him to understand English than to speak, but I'm sure you'll meet each other and you'll be able to have nice conversations in English with him (I'm sure he'll appreciate it and will enjoy it). I think he's just afraid that you might not understand him well and what he might say won't express exactly what he means. That's why - I am sure - whatever he writes is more "real".

When I was for the first time in the US, I didn't really speak English. I could understand almost everything, but people would not understant me. That's why, when there was something important to me, i prefered to write an email or a letter so that the other party get the message... I think it stayed this way .

Polish and Irish people are catolic. We are living like a catolic. This thing keep us ...

Basia, thank you for your kind words.

At present, I think Krzysztof has been looking for work all over, in order to come to America. I've tried to assist him as much as I can, and emotionally support him in whatever ways I can. I do wish he was already here, though -- The winter weather has been very cold, rainy and upside-down changeable here in San Francisco and I long for Spring to come. How are things on your side of the world?

You must be lucky to live in San Francisco - I guess it's a GOOD all year around (in comparison to Poland .

I know looking for a job is not an easy task - I guess he's been looking for a job in Poland, not in the US? Either way, plane tickets aren't cheap not to mention other expenses. But as long as he's got a visa to visit the US, he should be fine (even though the US Government starts to dislike immigrants for no obvious reason)...

basia

You are being used, this is not romance! If he cared about you at all, he would be man enough to take care of you in Poland instead of plan to make a better life for himself in the USA. Find yourself a man who is not interested in coming to the USA. Then, and only then, can you be sure of his intentions. You are too old to fall for this kind of thing

Note to the Guest who sent a message on 3/16: First of all, I am unsure if you were referring to me, but after reading your message and noting its sequence from the last one I left here, I believe that you are. Secondly, if my boyfriend wants to make a better life for himself in the United States, why shouldn't he have the opportunity to do so, and why shouldn't I (as his girlfriend) be as loving and supportive towards him as I possibly can be to help achieve his goals, particularly with the main and final intent of our being together? He has not asked me for anything, really, outside of sponsorship. He is raising his own monies in order to come here. From what I understand and have read in these Forums, unemployment is at an all-time high in Poland at the present time and there are many Poles who are travelling West to find better jobs, working and living conditions for themselves. Is this not true? And, if I were to come and live with him in Poland (which if asked, I would seriously consider), I would not wish to be a burden on him while living there at all.

HEY ALL POLISH GUYS ARE HOTT!!!!!

Why you think so? :?

polish guys are crap i want muscle head american men to test my strength with.