Polish men are great

so compuwiz100,
do you know about polish teens?

Hi my name is Adel. I am Italian and Spanish and live in Sydney Australia. I like many women of my age (42) am looking for that "elusive" male that just loves u and adores u and wants to spend the rest of his life being with u. I started life with racial expectations of who this wonderful male could be. I grew up in Rome to the age of 10 and the men in my life then were nowhere to be seen, including my father. So I decided all Italian/Spanish men must be bastards and players, and in Australia, I kept right away from dating any and focussed on Anglo Saxons. My first boyfriend was English. He was nice but selfish and at times cold. I married my Australian boyfriend (of Scottish background) at 21. He was not a cheater, but an absolute nightmare in every other way. I finally left him at age 38 with 3 children in tow. Shortly after I took a leap of faith with my fingers crossed and dated a Greek guy. He was nice, but a hopeless drug addict and very much ruled by his mother (as are many South European males). I was pursued for 3 months by a handsome Turkish guy who'd only emigrated to Australia 6 months but resisted him because of the media induced stigma of "middle Eastern" men being slavedrivers. Enis turned out to be the best relationship I'd had. It lasted 2 years. He was cultured, kind, thoughtful, romantic and very gentle. We broke up because we were heading in different directions in life. I then met Jamie at my work. He is Australian with a distant Irish background, so I was back with the Anglos. He has many personal issues and I'm not sure if we'll make the distance but he is a good guy at core level.
Because I love tall, blonde, blue eyed men I had a fascination with meeting German and Scandinavian men, as well as Eastern Block men, particularly Polish men. They have the deepest of blue eyes and are very handsome. I never got the opportunity to but I was also wary of the media hype about Germans being emotionally cold, Scandinavians wanting open relationships, and Eastern Block men being drunks and wife bashers. How we judge and are 99% wrong! Let's not listen to all this racial ********. People are people. Men are different beasts to women, and a successful relationship with ANY person of any nationality is based on mutuality and attraction (and a little luck) and DEFINITELY, lots of hard work!
I'd still love to meet a sexy blue eyed German or Eastern Block guy just to get the obsession over and done with before I die! But let's cut out the racial expectations shall we? I now look at Turkish people (and I've met a tonne of them since Enis) in a very different light. And even with all our WAR ON TERROR American campaigning, I will not paint all Middle Eastern men with the same brush.....I may be married to a wonderful, sensitive, doting Lebanese or Iraqi one day and have therefore met my perfect match at long last! I'm still very much looking guys!

tiny update :)

my polish guy said he would meet me in july for sure ^_^
a friend of mine will have her polish wedding in poland then, and he said we would go with me ^_^

...i know it's a long way off...but i'm very excited about that :)
there is always hope ^_^

must say I admire your loyality

thank you :)
he's worth it. for sure.

best wishes to both of you

thank you again :)

Where are all the polish men anyway?

hiding ^_^

they must because i can't see any... ;)

hehehe. or maybe they are invisible ^_^

hehehe...i really hope so....because if they are gone...it's not good at all...

or being sneeky:)

this forum is great ^_^

i've learned alot about polish men (and maybe just relationships in general :)
in the short amount of time i've been here....reading other people's situations, etc...
^_^

Hi folks
I'm an English Woman working in the construction industry with Polish and Romanians. And I can honestly say they have restored my faith in people generally. I think they are great and just the tonic this country's workforce needed. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of hard working, excellent English tradesmen but they seem to be pricing themselves out of the market.
I also like the fact that they are unspoilt by progress. Wild, untamed Alpha Males (wow). I didn't think men like that existed anymore.
I wouldn't hesitate if a Polish guy asked me out.

well sounds like you are in the right place! why wait for them to do the asking?

indeed they have their good points and bad points.. it seems that people on this forum have a problem with soem males in our community who enjoy their drink alot,, yes drinking is bad for you and so are the things that come with it... but in poland we are taught manners and polish gentleman certainly have them

On my second date, my Polish guy was wildly amused by the fact I took my sweater off and said I was hot. (We're having warm weather here in Chicago.) He kept laughing, then murmured "Goraca Kobieta, hot woman" in my ear. He also actually told me to keep my eyes open when kissing him. What a nerve! But I loved it.....

you are absolutely right, polish guys are the best, they are gentelmens and not many of them are players.

it always depends....

Ain't it the truth?? There are good and bad partners everywhere. The crappy boyfriend is a universal phenomenom.

I've only met 2 Polish guys (ever), but one of them is the best guy I've ever known-and that's spoken after taking off the rose-colored glasses of love. Faults and all, he's amazing. I don't who I have to thank for this-culture, upbringing, or both-but it rocks :)

im not polish and have been attracted to polish guys since i was 10.... ;) my husband left 3yrs ago... im now in love with a polish man from warsaw, we've been seeing each other for the last 2 yrs..we're taking it slow, and its deff. growing... but im here tonite, because i need help "reading" this guy... He was alone previous for 5 yrs... never married, but had many relationships. He just seems to get distant, then needs his space...and thats fine, if he'd only tell me. He had a hard child hood, so i keep giving him the benefit of doubt... it's like he loves me, then leaves me up on a shelf? .... is this typical?

No, I don't think so. Needing space is one thing, but I don't think shelving someone you love is typical....especially not after a 2 year relationship, bad childhood notwithstanding. How old is he? Are you in a long distance relationship with him?

Age 10 is mighty young to be attracted to the opposite sex. I was still playing with dolls at that age.

lol... oh i was too.. just the first little crush you know.

He's 40. not a long distance relationship, he's been here over 20 yrs. now...

ooooh ok, I posted on your other thread as well. I don't know, I'm no expert, but in my experience two years and little progress is not so good. Are you looking to find a course of action...or just some validation for his behavior :) What do you mean when you say that he puts you on the shelf?

sorry, didnt realize i doubled..... little progress is true, but that was due to my divorce.. i would like validation for this behavior... everything seems to be on "his" time & schedule... from calling to going out... and in between, i feel im on a shelf, wondering... im starting to just back away... and it hurts. When i confront him, he just says, he's been alone so long, he loves me and is adjusting to companionship.

Honestly, I think backing away is the best decision. If he really wanted to be with you in a serious way, he would be more interested in your needs and wants...and you wouldn't feel like you are sitting on the shelf like a doll, waiting until he's ready to pick you up and play with you again. You've been together 2 years and he's still not "adjusted" to companionship? That seems a bit extreme. I can understand slow progress due to you getting a divorce, working through that, etc. but it's still a long time for not much to happen. Maybe it's time to back off, and let him say how he fares without you. There's a small chance that he might realize he's being selfish and change his ways, but don't count on it. If he's 40 and he's never had a serious relationship, then he may have a lot of trouble adjusting to the demands of a relationship, one of which is being an active participant in the relationship. The older we get, the harder it is for us to change...and I think that is especially for those of us who have been single a long time. It's easy to get used to our "space" and not having to let anyone else in or deal with another person's needs and wants, but that's what it takes to have a healthy relationship. It's your call, stasha, but don't be afraid to back off, no matter how he chooses to respond to it you'll be better off! I feel for you, I've been in similar situations!

Thank you for being so honest. Its hard to see things when you're in them sometimes, but reality keeps knocking on my head.... and backing away is instinct.... Best to you in your long-distance relationship.... talk again soon, good-nite! :)