POLISH SIBLINGS SLEEPING TOGETHER!

Firstly, you have to be sure that you cannot go on with your BF without knowing what happened and why it happened. If you are sure that it is impossible to go on then you have to decide whether you just want to let him know that his behaviour with his sister was unacceptable and unsettling for you or whether you want the full details.

If you point out how unnerved you were by his actions, then hopefully he may explain and/or understand your position and promise that it won’t happen again. If that is not enough for you that you are going to have to confront him and demand to know.what was going on. You don’t have to go ‘full on, in his face’ to do that. You can start by explaining that it was very uncomfortable for you like the course of action above. The difference is you need to be forceful but calm and ask him the what and why questions.

Sorry if I have written this like I was preaching to you. It wasn’t my intention – it just came out that way.

i dont really understand what you mean by this. Asking you to go live in Poland in order to distract you from the fact he is shagging his sister? (sorry, I meant sleeping not shagging) Will you get a one or two bedroom place in Poland? assuming that she will be living with you.

To be honest i think he is thinking of returning home, if that is the case then it is up to you whether you want to go with him or not. To me you would be crazy to go with him to Poland. You don't speak the language, your relationship isn't going great guns at the moment.

Before you do anything you need to ask him those important vital questions. Or maybe you should be asking yourself a few questions, however its not my place to say. All i believe and have to offer i said yesterday. The longer you leave asking him the questions you want the answers to the less likely you will ever have a good relationship with this guy.

Plus just think, if he goes home to Poland the situation with this girl/sister will be like it was when she came to England, apart from the fact it will be constant and not one that disappears .

WHAT I WOULD DO: Leave him while i still could

WHAT YOU DO: is up to you but don't leave it to late either to ask him the questions or leave him. You don't want to commit moving to Poland and then have the Sh*t hit the fan out there, not only would you be punished psychologically but also in the pocket!!!

So please please please make a decision either way soon before its to late and your down Sh*t creek without a paddle.

T

If I was going out with someone that I suspected might possibly be sleeping with his sister, there would be no relationship! How could I be with someone I thought capable of that?!

I would hardly sleep in the same room as my bro any more unless under special circumstances i.e the house is suddenly overcrowded when he somes to stay and there is no room but my floor. In my bed? No way!!! Weird, I can't even comprehend why they would...

So the pictures you saw clarify he's related and not, say, friends from infantry and childhood sweethearts? I can't think why she would put up with his sleeping with another girl anyway if she was, so i don't think this really.

Maybe you should just express to him that you find it unusual how he is so close to his sister he would not sleep in the spare bed - that you have not heard of such a thing before.

Again, I say, I would not be with someone I could believe this of.

Could be as inbred as a family of Norfolk bakers.

no i was thinking of the families from 'hills have eyes' and 'wrong turn' :)

20 years old guy has that for himslef ? The whole story sounds like a pieace of crap.

i think you need to go into the release room gregory :)

What ?

To tell you the truth when reading this story, I had exactly the same thoughts. It is quite probable that they are 'friends' from back home and he is just saying to you that it is his sister. Does she look like him? Are there facial similarities? If you ask him and he says that they are only half brother and sister then you know he is lying. Have you seen her passport for a name reference? The Polish are quite good at having 'Jeckle and Hyde (if that is how you spell it) characters and they do indeed lie and talk rubbish a lot. I was once in Gorzow Wielkopolski and a couple came to the flat where I was staying. She was very nice and invited me out to a new pizzeria the following evening. I knew she would not come and I was right, she did not. The following evening again, they came to the flat. "What about that new pizzeria?" I asked. "Oh, no, there are really no nice pizzerias in Gorzow". Ask yourself the logic to this? I know it is a small point in comparison to your situation but the Poles love to talk rubbish. Have you got her name and a phone number back in Poland? Maybe you could get a Polish speaking friend to phone her and ask in a around-about sort of a way as to exactly who she is. I suspect what is really going on here. He is simply two-timing you. If you allow them to, the Poles like to get away with murder.

Oh now thats a horrible thought LOL

Maybe the OP should insist that next time she sleeps with her brother,she should wear underwear and not shorts and top.She should also buy a big towel for the bathroom in case brother and sister want a shower.

i asked him and he said they werent. he got really angry and said if i eve talk about that situatuion then he will break up with me. he thinks its sick and disgustiong. but then when i was tidying his room, i found knickers behind the bed. im assuming its his sisters because its the same bed she was sleeping in. i asked him about it and he said maybe she left the, they were dirty knickers though but he acted like it was no bother.

perhaps he'd been wearing them

well i personaly think that wonder has a problem, but she has to first decide if she trust her boyfriend or not, if she don't then why stay in the relationship it wont last, relationships are ment to be based off trust if you dont have that then you dont have nothing at all. its a personal issue first decide on what you believe then make a move from then on !!!

My Son does this to his Sister.
He's allways moaning at her for wearing short revealing clothes..
Sometimes its like she has her own personal Bouncer.

..."best form of defense is..."

This response isn't really 'telling' is it... could mean either you are severely wrong (and they have a freakishly close relationship, I don't care, it's still strange to sleep in same bed as a sibling when there's a spare..) or he is angrily covering the issue...

Really, it doesn't sound as if yo're going to get you're answer - you obviously don't trust him or you'd take his word for it.

It's just up to you now whether you can handle that or not.

Or rednecks

If she slept in the bed..
Why do you find it unusual to find dirty clothes Under/Behind the bed.?
Not Every woman is naturally tidy.

Your just leaping to the conclusion that they are having sex.
As Torny pointed out. ( It aint hard to do it with clothes on )
And if they were. Im sure they would be careful to conceal the evidence.
2+2 may equal 4

But even Freud said. " Sometimes a cigar. Is Just a Cigar "

In my opinion you are handicapted when it come to relationships Wondering.
If u cant trust ur man and are not able to discuss stuff with him... then maybe the whole relationship is a bit "paper"?

OMG I need to get those socks from under my bed

*goes red*

you haven't got women's knickers under there as well have you?

Ok i just finished looking for dirty socks, dont make me go and look for knickers now. please?
besides if there were any, they wouldnt be mine so why would I have to wash them and/or put them in a drawer?

yeah right, that's what you tell us

Only the ones he wore last. Lol

Hahahaha.... you know you've got some knickers Ronek! And they don't belong to any girls, you kinky boy ;-)

<--- Wanders round Roneks room opening drawers and looking in closets.
Tut tutting at his choice of Lingerie.

ok ok, you all got me, I wear them, but only on mondays and when I need some extra confidence!

its totally strange what he did, there is no conservative catholics among 20 years old guys in Poland, if you are his girlfriend he should have been slept with you not his sister, every polish guy who I know would do that, I was born in big polish city and left to england when 22(now Im 25), I cant even emagine this situation cause its so strange to me...

I think this too...

btw - welcome to PF :)