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skysoulmate Jan 27, 2010, 08:28pm #
Józek - not enough info here. Based on your name I assume you're Polish too, is that correct?
Has she given you an ultimatum or just alluded to her being better off in Poland? Sorry about being frank here but is it that she misses Poland or is she maybe not happy in the marriage or both?
It's hard for us guys sometimes to see the signs. I came home one day and my wife was gone. I thought things were great, or very good at the very least. All our friends thought I was joking when I told them what happened - "but you guys were SOOO happy" was what I heard from everyone of them, and we were blessed with many friends.
So my point is - how sure are you about her true feelings?
I'd say sit down with her and have an honest conversation about that, maybe even have a counselor there with you.
You said she has no friends and now she stays home with the little girl. What are the chances of you
taking some time off to let your wife go to work instead? Not sure what she was making in the past but if it was less than you, maybe the pay cut will be worth it anyways? Remember the saying - a happy wife is a happy husband
If you worry about the money, remember, the best retirement plan a man can have is to keep the same wife until the retirement. ;)
By the way, what are the chances of you trying to move to Poland with her for a few years?
Wish you both the best!