I really like this Polish guy....what to do next??

He works in a shop I go to about twice a week...over the last month we have started flirting with each other and now when he sees me in the shop his face lights up and he comes straight over to serve me. The eye contact is fairly intense now and he smiles a lot when he speaks to me.... I am getting the feeling that he likes me but could I be wrong? He is the first Polish person I have met (he is soooo cute...tall, dark and really handsome!!!!) and I just go weak when I see him now....

not knowing anything about Polish dating customs I am wondering how long this flirting stage could go on for? ha ha ha...we are both in our late thirties but this feels like being a teenager again!!! Pleeeeese advise :)

Irishgirl123.......only one piece of advice.........go for it!


Assuming you aint seen him meet up with his girl friend/partner after work?.....???!!!

Ask him out.... coffee as a beginning....chat for a bit and you'll know what to do next...

Thanks for the replies guys :))))

Yeh, I think you are both right....it's time to act!! Nothing to lose, eh? I just didn't want to mess up....I was wondering how he would react to a woman making the first move. He seems to be a confident guy, it's just that we are always surrounded by other people (both customers and his workmates) so I get the feeling he is just waiting for the right opportunity to arise.

I will hopefully see him again tomorrow and will try and start a proper conversation.....problem is i feel so toungue-tied when I see him :-))))) I'll let you know how i get on!

Good luck! :)

Nothing wrong with that?


Nothing to lose.

You could try a nice Polish phrase.
Think of something, somebody here will translate it for you.

great idea...

good luck girl :)

give him your biz card with your numbers.. if that isn't a clue... i don't know what is. :)

Ok don't rape him...

it doesnt work sometimes and she cant risk that... a good conversation is a better idea, i think....

cmon...

Irishgirl just go on and chat him up already.
He probably is holding back because its all hapening at his work place.
He might not wanna get the reputation of a sales man who is chatting up ladies when he is at work. So make the first step.
What do you have to loose?

That is cute :)

haha wise edit

yeah? care to expand on that?

maybe he will not call her because he doesnt know her; maybe he needs something more, like a kick, which is a good conversation, she needs to show him how 'worth trying' she is...
if any of these has any sense...

Total turn off !! Completely pretentious. Just be yourself.

totally agree

i don't agree but that's cool.

of course it's cool....
everyone uses tools which work best for them...

yup. it'd hard to give advice about stuff from thousands of miles away, isn't it?

yes, we can give advices, but a person will do it its own way... Sometimes an advice can help tho...

right.. it gives them ideas... try to diagnose vehicular issues though. lol.. it can be a lot of fun.

yes I agree polishgirl, advice CAN help (no matter how much distance between people). I had been kinda thinking that it would be okay for me to make a move....but I really like this guy and don't want to ruin things at such an early stage.

Hey Ronek - thanks for the man's perspective....I think you got it in one! It does seem as if this guy is holding back because he is literally being watched by his fellow workmates!! The last day I was in his shop a friend of his stood there smiling at the two of us, really finding the whole thing entertaining (in a nice way...he just seemed amused by the situation, as if he had been told about me or something). I could tell that my guy was aware of being watched by his friend and it was as if he was trying to talk to me with his eyes......VERY romantic!!!!

I will come back and let you all know how I get on tomorrow.....fingers crossed!!!!!! x

good luck and yea, let us know. :)

one word of advice.. if he is in his late 30s as you say.. check he doesnt have a wife back home (or anywhere else). Not sure how to do this, but at least check his right hand for a ring.Only saying this as generally they get married younger in Poland, but maybe you will be lucky and he truly is single. Good luck and let us know how you get on.

I agree sapphire, it is something I will have to check out! I know NOTHING about this man except that he appears to find me attractive. Also, I am only guessing his age (kinda hoping really!!) because from what I've been reading on this forum I won't stand a chance with him if it turns out I am older than him!!!!

Ha ha ha....well I went in today all ready to do some serious chatting....and HE WASN'T THERE!!!! boohoo!!!! typical isn't it? I will have to wait until Friday now to try and see him again....and i am definitely going to be a bit more direct with him....basically, I can't keep going on like this!!!! Bad for the heart and all that :))))))

dance polka for him,that'll impress him.but you must be good at it.or half naked.

mmm yes....this I can picture and it is VERY scary :))) I said I want to ATTRACT this guy....not send him running in the opposite direction!!!!!

i think it's hot...
hey you would be horny as hell when you'd see me dance step.
yeah baby i'm doing it!(dancing)
so...

Ha ha ha.....my imagination is working overtime.....unfortunately......

please tell me you are not half naked!!!!!

you wish...
;)

actually i always dance naked,with my lucky love socks which has picture of Snoopy on it.
hot,huh?

so do we have a future?i'll even learn english for you