Advice on a Polish girlfriend who suddenly stopped contact.

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Jul 18, 11, 03:05 #1

Im an English guy. I was dating a polish girl for about 3months. And I've never dated somebody so beautiful and down to earth. I would definitely choose polish women over english any day. Anyways I was dating this girl and we were hitting it off bog time. After a few dates we were kissing, touching and feeling holding hands etc. We were always talking and texting and sending intimate messages. Then about 3 weeks ago she stopped contact. She was off to Poland for a week, she messaged me apologizing for not talking but didn't want to explain why. But would really like to see me when she comes back. She has been back a week and I have messaged her a couple of times. But she has never replied :s. Can i get the polish woman's perspective on this? because it's really confused me.

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,404 Joined: Apr 1, 06 ♂ [Moderator]	Jul 18, 11, 03:14 #2
Deej: Can i get the polish woman's perspective on this? it won't be any different to the Polish man's view. or any other view. you've been dumped and it's time to move on

ruth	Jul 18, 11, 03:16 #3
You've been scrapped. On to the next one, this is the land of plenty if you want Polish. Don't be so slow with #2, holding hands is for children.

RebirthThreads: 7 Posts: 161 Joined: Jun 20, 11 ♂ [Suspended]	Jul 18, 11, 05:06 #4
I don't want to worry you anymore but Polish women tend to switch to different partners very rapidly without notice.

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Edited by: skysoulmate Jul 18, 11, 05:10 #5

Not a woman but since they're AWOL from this thread here's my take. The fact she is a Polish woman is irrelevant, she's a woman and therefore there could be a million reasons, maybe she's overwhelmed and needs some space now, or maybe she's dealing with a family emergency back home, or maybe she has a boyfriend back home or maybe she just found a new boyfriend, or maybe her computer is down, or maybe she's not sure if she'll be coming back, the list can go on and on.

My advice, keep living your life, hope for the best while planning for the worst and if things don't work out do not treat other women badly just because you got burned. Karma is a *****... Good luck to you.

RebirthThreads: 7 Posts: 161 Joined: Jun 20, 11 ♂ [Suspended]	Jul 18, 11, 05:11 #6
skysoulmate: The fact she is a Polish woman is irrelevant I disagree.

G from PL

Jul 18, 11, 06:14 #7

you miss her, does she know? You need to tell her how you feel and why you want her back.she will respect you as a human being. the fancier and more creative you are with your expressions, the better your chances of winning her back.
the problem is that she stopped talking to you after she camed back from poland, if she decides to come back, you need to plan out how you are going to nurture the polsih side of her.

PlasticPoleThreads: 10 Posts: 5,433 Joined: May 28, 09 ♀	Jul 18, 11, 06:17 #8
What you should do is play hard to get.

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,404 Joined: Apr 1, 06 ♂ [Moderator]	Jul 18, 11, 06:45 #9
G from PL: You need to tell her how you feel and why you want her back.she will respect you as a human being. the fancier and more creative you are with your expressions, the better your chances of winning her back. bull. if she reacts at all to any of the above it will certainly be to laugh in his face. we've seen this all before... week after week, year after year. move on, Deej.

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Edited by: Midas Jul 18, 11, 12:14 #10

With Polish women it is entirely possible that You are her UK boyo and she's got another one in Poland as well. I mean a girl never knows which country she's going to end up living in nowadays hence keeping two secure and cushy landing spots is rather logical, right? <sarcasm>

So what You're experiencing might just be her going through her cooldown period after a Polish guy whom she fed the same BS just proposed with a ring, house and all.

My advice:

Ignore her completely. No contact whatsoever and look the other way when You see her publicly. Start seeing other women.

With her being Polish that's pretty much Your only chance of her sending You a "what's up?" txt after a month or so of such treatment.

The more You try, the more she'll keep going for the other guy ( it might be a hopeless case already ).

So be cold as ice, it is Your only chance.

Best of luck.

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Edited by: Seanus Jul 18, 11, 12:18 #11

I've observed that quite a few Polish women tend to have a Polish boy somewhere in their lives. You were the interim emotions propper-upper, Deej. They will lean on you until they see fit to return to their Polish BF. They are masters of shielding things. She will have returned to her lad with all her romantic idealism and then think, once again, that the grass is always greener on the other side. I've seen it so many times. Unless you can get her to commit to sth, there will always be that prospect.

Midas is right!! If sb wants sth enough, they will get it. Some women here have an amazing ability to make you feel like nothing. So many aren't settled in their lives and that leads to problems. She is between things and fumbling around for what she thinks best. Be cold, give her a taste of her own medicine! There's a lot of coldness here so you just need to roll with the punches.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Edited by: southern Jul 18, 11, 12:29 #12
You were not attractive enough for her.Did you buy her any bracelets,any clothes,any boots?Did you pay for her rent or her vaccations?If your time and money investment is enough she will come back to you.Just stop any contact.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07 ♂	Edited by: Seanus Jul 18, 11, 12:33 #13
Even buying her things only results in short-term gratitude. Love shouldn't be based on materialism.

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Edited by: Midas Jul 18, 11, 12:45 #14

They will lean on you until they see fit to return to their Polish BF. They are masters of shielding things. She will have returned to her lad with all her romantic idealism and then think, once again, that the grass is always greener on the other side. I've seen it so many times.

Seconded.

I've seen it happen quite a few times, a woman from Eastern Europe ( not always Polish but very often ) simply "forgetting" to tell guys she meets in the UK that she's got a boyfriend/fiancee/husband ( lol ) back in Poland waiting for her and then just proceeding to go with the flow, one guy here, the other guy there, see what Boyo a does, see what Boyo b does, a shag here, a shag there and so on.

Such women aren't worth the trouble. If You, heaven forbid, ever marry her, rest assured that You'll be sharing that particular minx with at least half-a-dozen other gents that You'll never find out about.

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Oh, if You're really flush with cash there's an alternative method of obtaining the heart and soul of an Eastern European woman:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1211676/Goldman-Sachs-banker-o ffered-28-year-old-Slovakian-500-000-leave-pensioner-husband.html

Promise her 500.000 quid if she marries You and throw in that You'll kill Yourself if she stays with the other gent. Should do the trick nicely, according to the article above.

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Jul 18, 11, 12:53 #15

Midas is spot on here! The guilt eventually catches up with them and they sever contact. I remember an experience I had before meeting my wife. It was way back in early 2005 and a girl had taken a liking to me. One thing led to another (no games, quick progress) and she was all ready to start seeing me as some convenience. I asked her friends if she was single and they told me that she had a partner already. Needless to say, I cut the chord and she was devastated but starting hurling abuse at me. She was emotionally unstable. Another girl that got talking to me at a club couldn't accept the fact that I had a GF (my present wife). I told her that she was in the UK but would be coming back to me. She kept telling me that she wouldn't know but I'm not into casual flings. I think with the right head and told her that she should look elsewhere. You make your choices and life and live with them. My present wife, for any minuses she might have, has many many plusses and I stand by her. Loyalty goes a long way!

FlaglessPoleThreads: 7 Posts: 1,394 Joined: Aug 19, 10 ♂	Jul 18, 11, 13:04 #16
Seanus: My present wife, for any minuses she might have, has many many plusses and I stand by her. Loyalty goes a long way! what's her nick on PF again? ;)

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Edited by: SzwedwPolsce Jul 18, 11, 13:07 #17

Well, the reasons people write here is only what they guess. They don't know more than you about her.

The only thing you can do is this:

Midas:

Ignore her completely. No contact whatsoever and look the other way when You see her publicly. Start seeing other women.

With her being Polish that's pretty much Your only chance of her sending You a "what's up?" txt after a month or so of such treatment.

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,404 Joined: Apr 1, 06 ♂ [Moderator]	Jul 18, 11, 13:09 #18
Seanus: My present wife seems like the beginning of a list :)

Ashleys mindThreads: 7 Posts: 1,346 Joined: Nov 2, 10 ♀	Jul 18, 11, 13:14 #19
Wow.. if the women are so harsh surely the men must be unreasonable too..?

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,404 Joined: Apr 1, 06 ♂ [Moderator]	Jul 18, 11, 13:16 #20
Ashleys mind: Wow.. if the women are so harsh surely the men must be unreasonable too..? They are. but this is a blame the woman thread.

Ashleys mindThreads: 7 Posts: 1,346 Joined: Nov 2, 10 ♀	Jul 18, 11, 13:22 #21
Wroclaw: They are. but this is a blame the woman thread. Well I blame their fathers! leaves

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Jul 18, 11, 13:59 #22

Yesterday I lost a young Polka only because her mother who drank like sponge forbid me to buy her daughter the third wodku.Not that I have sth against the polish MILFs but in this case the duo would be super.Both mother and daughter super hot having of course bfs in Poland.
Anyway the worst is when they want to take revenge on you they usually sleep with the next one one day after they break up.Usually they date lots simultaneously always "only friendly" as they assure and I always believe them.In fact I let them completely loose I don't care if they sleep with an army behind my back.After all they are clever Polki.

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Jul 18, 11, 14:28 #23

FP, I'm kind of thinking about that myself ;)

Wrocław, nah. I'm quite traditional when it comes to marriage. Like old style Poles or Japanese, longevity and endurance are values I admire. No playing around.

Sok, I didn't know that. Are you on familiar ground with that subject or...? ;)

As for the thread, we really don't know the full extent of the situation but, based on first impressions, she has done a runner and is looking for another victim.

George8600Threads: 20 Posts: 1,114 Joined: Feb 19, 09 ♂	Jul 19, 11, 07:19 #24
Deej: because it's really confused me. Maybe she's dead...

warszawskiThreads: 60 Posts: 2,389 Joined: May 21, 10 ♂	Edited by: warszawski Jul 19, 11, 09:09 #25
Seanus: As for the thread, we really don't know the full extent of the situation but, based on first impressions, she has done a runner and is looking for another victim. One issue that has not been voiced in this thread is " Deej " may be Asian, his Polish girl has severed the relationship, after speaking to friends back home in PL.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07 ♂	Jul 19, 11, 10:56 #26
Yup, entirely possible. They'd likely dissuade here.

czarThreads: 4 Posts: 248 Joined: Mar 3, 10 ♂	Jul 24, 11, 05:50 #27
Karma is a *****... im not up on my buddhism but is karma ever a hot smart sweet nice polki? anyway what do these bf in poland think about their gf doing everybody in another country? i mean my cous used to rent out his gf for drugs but i dont think it relates to this.

Chicago PollockThreads: 10 Posts: 638 Joined: Apr 10, 10 ♂	Jul 24, 11, 06:54 #28
Im an English guy. I was dating a polish girl for about 3months. And I've never dated somebody so beautiful and down to earth. I would definitely choose polish women over english any day. Stick to English Women. They can cook, they have a sense of humor and they're honest. What more do you want?

romekx	Jul 24, 11, 16:19 #29
your kielbasa is too soft

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Jul 24, 11, 16:33 #30

Love shouldn't be based on materialism.

Bwa ha ha ha ha...........

I couldn't help it. Men pay for dates and various entertainment; for most gifts, especially expensive ones; and who's pressured to buy on Valentines' Day?; etc, etc.

Tell a woman on a first date that you believe in "equality" because you're now a 'sensistive' guy and therefore she can pay for her half and she'll innately 'feel' that you are cheap; yet she excludes herself from that assessment even as she wants the freebies.

Hyporcrisy; thy name is feminism.

As to the "girlfriend" who stopped communication with you; well, she could be testing you to see how servile you will be. Write her and tell her that adults communicate and it would be helpful to understand why she is being 'passive-aggressive'. If she doesn't respond, then write her again and wish her a happy life. Never beg in a relationship!

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