Being Taken For A Idiot by my Polish girlfriend?

pryda

Oct 29, 10, 15:24 #1

ive recently been dating a polish girl. ive known her for 9 months and always been close with her spending everyday together as we work together. i asked before if she would like to go out sometime for a drink and the answer was always maybe until, i only want to be friends... in augest i finished work as only a seasonal job. in september it took a turn for the best and we started going out together after finding out she had liked me for the past 2 months pre sept. after a month was still going good until we reached about 6 weeks when she decided to start ignoring me only to recieve a message from her saying she wants to be single and she doesnt have a reason for leaving me, after another 3 days of ignoring me, i finially see her again to find she is still the same with me kissing holding hands and just being the same with me, 3 days pass and its saturday once and again and starts ignoring me once again, tuesday this week i go see her to give her a birthday present, and once again is the same with me again, now its friday and shes not working im being ignored once again. i know its pretty much simple shes taking the **** out of me, but i know shes had problems with bf's shes had in other relationships, is there more to it or am i being taken for a ride...

smurfThreads: 46 Posts: 660 Joined: Sep 8, 09 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 15:45 #2
every man loves a challenge but if she hasn't let you bone here yet then she's not goin to. most polish girls will give it up pretty easy, which is a great thing, not like the frigid yokes back at home, but still man, time to move to greener pastures

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER ♀	Oct 29, 10, 15:54 #3
pryda: is there more to it or am i being taken for a ride... you are her weekdays boyfriend... she sees somebody else on weekends...

Polonia1Threads: 6 Posts: 90 Joined: Oct 21, 10 ♂	Edited by: Polonia1 Oct 29, 10, 16:09 #4
Dnt play along w/ her, if she starts ignoring you, u do the same, more deliberately. She'll probably realize she's not getting the reaction she wants and will go back to being nice to get your attention.

A JThreads: 19 Posts: 4,639 Joined: May 21, 10 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 16:12 #5
pgtx: you are her weekdays boyfriend... she sees somebody else on weekends... Wimmin! ;P

DarrenMThreads: 2 Posts: 126 Joined: Dec 21, 07 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 16:15 #6
pryda: is there more to it or am i being taken for a ride... Read what you have written again.............then you have your answer.

guesswhoThreads: 23 Posts: 3,326 Joined: Mar 17, 10 ♀	Edited by: guesswho Oct 29, 10, 16:42 #7
pryda: am i being taken for a ride... It's so obvious. Forget about her quick unless you want to be played even more.

mafketisThreads: 17 Posts: 1,880 Joined: Mar 31, 08 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 17:30 #8
pryda: but i know shes had problems with bf's Because she's a flake and a user? Seriously, she sounds like bad news.

THE HITMANThreads: 1 Posts: 416 Joined: Jun 15, 10 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 18:12 #9
You,re only an idiot if you allow her to play you along. Be a man for goodness sake and put your foot down !

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Oct 29, 10, 18:25 #10
I hate to say this but she is making a fool out of you. She can only treat you like that if you allow her to. Give her the sweet taste of her own medicine and she will soon stop her child like behaviour.

SeanBMThreads: 41 Posts: 8,727 Joined: Mar 10, 08 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 18:31 #11
so to recap, You have a girl that doesn't want anything from you, doesn't bother you when you're not with her and when you meet she is nice to you. My advice, marry her.

pryda	Oct 29, 10, 18:54 #12
Atosha: I hate to say this but she is making a fool out of you. She can only treat you like that if you allow her to. Give her the sweet taste of her own medicine and she will soon stop her child like behaviour very true but i dont like stooping down to her level and start the ignoring child like game but then again it seems i dont have anything to win and nothing to lose!

skysoulmateThreads: 41 Posts: 3,039 Joined: Jan 10, 10 ♂	Edited by: skysoulmate Oct 29, 10, 18:58 #13
pryda: very true but i dont like stooping down to her level and start the ignoring child like game but then again it seems i dont have anything to win and nothing to lose! Wrong, you have everything to win - your own self-respect. She's unpredictable because she's a player and bad news - stay away.

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Oct 29, 10, 19:03 #14
Hun, I never said ignore her, I said give her the sweet taste. i.e make sure you look great at all times, be extra nice to everyone and the most important thing you must do is smile all the time do not jump when she wants you to. Do not let her know that you feel upset at the way she treats you. She will soon straighten up. You must learn how to play the game and you will be fine.

noreenbThreads: 4 Posts: 1,082 Joined: Apr 22, 09 ♀	Oct 29, 10, 19:27 #15
pryda If I were you I'd ignore her for a couple of days and wait for her step.

pryda

Oct 29, 10, 19:38 #16

hmm yer i always do look my best for her, the thing that annoys me most is we have never had a falling out / arguement in the 9 months knowing each other even as friends, well until now she treated me fine, saying how good i am to her, she did say she doesnt like how she treats me at times altho she never did anything wrong.. its all confusing and mostly for me as it seems she doesnt really give a crap, altho i have been taking all your advice on board :)

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER ♀	Oct 29, 10, 19:39 #17
pryda: its all confusing and mostly for me as it seems she doesnt really give a crap she likes bad boys, you're too mellow for her... just spank her ego a bit and she'll get back on track...

f stopThreads: 33 Posts: 2,861 Joined: Dec 9, 09 ♀	Oct 29, 10, 19:46 #18
you could be doing something wrong. Maybe being indiscrete, to forward, not forward enough, I don't know, but it wouldn't be the first time the guy is clueless when the woman thinks all the signs are laid out clearly before him.

mafketisThreads: 17 Posts: 1,880 Joined: Mar 31, 08 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 19:52 #19
Memorize this, and learn from it.

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Oct 29, 10, 19:58 #20

This is what you do you start date someone else and have fun with new date and make sure she knows about it. then ask her for a date for Friday night do it on Monday, Tuesday the latest if she does not commit by Wednesday you make other plans with new friend and make sure she knows about it. If she calls you on or after Wednesday night around 8pm to commit to your date you say “ I am sorry but I have another plans maybe some other time” after few times you should be able to bang her and then ignore her and use her as butte call.

noreenbThreads: 4 Posts: 1,082 Joined: Apr 22, 09 ♀	Edited by: noreenb Oct 29, 10, 20:30 #21
pryda the thing that annoys me most is we have never had a falling out / arguement in the 9 months knowing each other even as friends Arguments heals atmosphere around people. Maybe she wants to be too perfect - I don't know, I just guess. You should drive her mad once or twice as a trial. A couple that don't argue with each other? Difficult to imagine!

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Oct 29, 10, 20:40 #22

Marek11111:

This is what you do you start date someone else and have fun with new date and make sure she knows about it. then ask her for a date for Friday night do it on Monday, Tuesday the latest if she does not commit by Wednesday you make other plans with new friend and make sure she knows about it. If she calls you on or after Wednesday night around 8pm to commit to your date you say “ I am sorry but I have another plans maybe some other time” after few times you should be able to bang her and then ignore her and use her as butte call.

So much effort, such a waste of energy! If someone is playing such stupid games, my advice is move on to someone who is more mature and knows their own mind, because lets face it we all know, if we like someone we're happy to accept an offer to spend time in their company...Or at least thats what "normal" people do..

Marek11111Threads: 49 Posts: 1,955 Joined: Aug 6, 09 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 21:14 #23
It is about demand and supply, no effort is made as you bang someone else you just creating demand for yourself and she is supply just like a farmer just seeding so you can bang her later without any effort of pursuing her.

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Oct 29, 10, 21:15 #24

Amathyst:

So much effort, such a waste of energy! If someone is playing such stupid games, my advice is move on to someone who is more mature and knows their own mind, because lets face it we all know, if we like someone we're happy to accept an offer to spend time in their company...Or at least thats what "normal" people do..

i agree here... but we know only his side of the story... i wonder what hers is...

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Edited by: Amathyst Oct 29, 10, 21:26 #25

Marek11111:

It is about demand and supply, no effort is made as you bang someone else you just creating demand for yourself and she is supply just like a farmer just seeding so you can bang her later without any effort of pursuing her.

You and I are on a different page sweetie...I dont see the point in the whole chase thing, I already know what I want and I personally perfer stable people who know their own mind...Nothing romantic about someone playing games, how is that a good basis for a relationship? I like games if they involve notes that give me little messages telling me I should take my passport to work..

pgtx:

agree here... but we know only his side of the story... i wonder what hers is...

She's insecure...She likes the ego boost..simples! Plus she's probably got an guy on the go giving her the same attention...but I think weekend guy is more special ;0)

My mum gave me some advice when I was 18, if he's not calling you, then its time to move on because he obviously doesnt think much of you...best advice I ever had!

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER ♀	Oct 29, 10, 21:27 #26
Amathyst: Plus she's probably got an guy on the go giving her the same attention...but I think weekend guy is more special ;0) yeah, my thoughts...

AmathystThreads: 30 Posts: 3,968 Joined: Nov 10, 06 ♀	Oct 29, 10, 21:34 #27
pgtx: yeah, my thoughts... You know the older I get the more I realise that men and women are exactly the same...As much as we hate to admit it...

dtaylor5632Threads: 49 Posts: 4,459 Joined: May 2, 09 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 21:35 #28
Amathyst: men and women are exactly the same No night on the pull for me then! thanks! :(

A JThreads: 19 Posts: 4,639 Joined: May 21, 10 ♂	Oct 29, 10, 23:31 #29
Amathyst: You know the older I get the more I realise that men and women are exactly the same...As much as we hate to admit it... I already knew that when I was five! (Only difference would be that we're much smarter of course!) ;P

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Oct 30, 10, 00:17 #30

Amathyst:

My mum gave me some advice when I was 18, if he's not calling you, then its time to move on because he obviously doesnt think much of you...best advice I ever had!

Maybe so but what about you picking up the phone? Does it really matter who makes the initial move? After all, we live in the 21st century, right? I was asked out on several dates in the past and a few turned into great and long relationships. Had I not moved from Sweden one of those ladies would quite possibly have become my wife...

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