Filipina married a Polish man, need more advice

deeply_inluvThreads: 2 Posts: 30 Joined: Nov 20, 09 ♀	Nov 21, 09, 18:50 #1
hello to all filipina who are married with polish man can u please tell how or any idea how polish men treat their wives? how are they being a husband and father.. need advice please as my fiancee asked me many times when are we getting married.. thank you guys

KPrzybyszThreads: - Posts: 5 Joined: Nov 22, 09 ♀	Nov 22, 09, 04:36 #2
It obviously depends on the person, however, I have known hundreds of Polish fathers/husbands and they are outstanding. Something about Polish genes, they are very loving, have good values, make responsible fathers. I would know, I'm married to one.

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 13 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂	Edited by: SzwedwPolsce Nov 22, 09, 15:06 #3
KPrzybysz: Something about Polish genes, they are very loving, have good values, make responsible fathers. Oh my god, what a generalization! Some are great husbands and fathers, some are not. As in all other countries, abuse (beating etc.) in relationships are much more common than people think, also in Poland. It depends on personality, not nationality.

KPrzybyszThreads: - Posts: 5 Joined: Nov 22, 09 ♀	Nov 22, 09, 16:02 #4
Hence: "It obviously depends on the person"

GaaThreads: 2 Posts: 179 Joined: Oct 26, 09 ♀	Nov 22, 09, 16:35 #5
KPrzybysz: Hence: "It obviously depends on the person" isn't it the same in case of men from any other country?

deeply_inluvThreads: 2 Posts: 30 Joined: Nov 20, 09 ♀	Oct 11, 10, 16:41 #6
Merged thread: so complicated my Polish bf lie to me, he told me that he was divorced and no kids but turns up he has kids and wife and living in the same house and not divorce. Does he has any reason to lie to me because I told him that I prefer to meet someone with no kids? Please advice

IronsideThreads: 59 Posts: 6,788 Joined: Feb 26, 09 ♂	Oct 11, 10, 17:02 #7
no, he had no reason to lie to you, and his wife and kids are simply a bad dream, wake up!

Patrycja19Threads: 79 Posts: 3,974 Joined: Oct 31, 06 ♀	Oct 11, 10, 17:20 #8
deeply_inluv: my Polish bf lie to me, he told me that he was divorced and no kids but turns up he has kids and wife and living in the same house and not divorce. Does he has any reason to lie to me because I told him that I prefer to meet someone with no kids? Please advice how can we explain stupidity?? dump him and stop letting him have his cake and his frosting.

z_dariusThreads: 22 Posts: 5,091 Joined: Oct 18, 07 ♂	Oct 11, 10, 17:32 #9
deeply_inluv: Does he has any reason to lie to me because I told him that I prefer to meet someone with no kids? Please advice Yes, he is likely to have a reason - short term relationship with benefits.

IronsideThreads: 59 Posts: 6,788 Joined: Feb 26, 09 ♂	Oct 11, 10, 17:36 #10
Patrycja19: dump him and stop letting him have his cake and his frosting. z_darius: Yes, he is likely to have a reason - short term relationship with benefits. hey, folks she had just a bad dream, thats all ! Do not make a fuss about the dream!

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Edited by: Patrycja19 Oct 11, 10, 17:57 #11

Ironside:

hey, folks she had just a bad dream, thats all ! Do not make a fuss about the dream!

yeah, my dream would consist of putting my foot up that guys arse if he came to me
and told me he was married with children.

* smacks forehead* -just now I have a vision...

but then again, this isnt the first time we get these stupid questions, so yeah.. yeah
its all a bad dream.. hes the perfect man,, invite his wife over for coffee and crumpets
and hopefully you can all have a discussion on who does the cooking and who watches
the kids.

see there ,,, not so complicated..

SeanBMThreads: 41 Posts: 8,727 Joined: Mar 10, 08 ♂	Oct 11, 10, 20:32 #12
Is this the guy who wanted to marry you before but you didn't want to?

deeply_inluvThreads: 2 Posts: 30 Joined: Nov 20, 09 ♀	Oct 12, 10, 05:41 #13
yes, same guy been for almost 3 years now ...

trener zolwiaThreads: 5 Posts: 2,786 Joined: Jun 8, 10 ♂	Oct 12, 10, 05:50 #14
deeply_inluv: same guy been for almost 3 years now It took you three years to learn he was married and had kids??

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Oct 12, 10, 06:13 #15

yes as we have a long distance relationship.. like once a years he willvisit mefor 4 months and stayed together as a couple. I feel his love and support for me in everything. his reason was he wants mein his life and doesnot wanttoloseme asitoldhim fromt he start that i prefer tomeet someone who is single/divorce but no kids. is this enough reason to lie tome? last time he was here he showed me a divorce paper. so now he is divorced as he said but still living with his family because offinancial issue and he is the only one working forthe family. I know god is showing that he is true to mebut untilnowitsstillhurting me becauseof this.. but ilove him

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 ♀ [Suspended]	Oct 12, 10, 06:29 #16
This relationship is going nowhere. Do yourself a favor and cut him loose.

trener zolwiaThreads: 5 Posts: 2,786 Joined: Jun 8, 10 ♂	Edited by: trener zolwia Oct 12, 10, 06:31 #17
deeply_inluv: is this enough reason to lie tome? Yes, for some men. Could be for a number of reasons. deeply_inluv: last time he was here he showed me a divorce paper. deeply_inluv: forthe family. I know god is showing that he is true to mebut untilnowitsstillhurting me becauseof this How would you feel if you knew that you were responsible for breaking up a family with children?

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Oct 12, 10, 07:31 #18

deeply_inluv:

his reason was he wants mein his life and doesnot wanttoloseme asitoldhim fromt he start that i prefer tomeet someone who is single/divorce but no kids. is this enough reason to lie tome?

No. That kind of lie is too big. If he can lie about his kids, he can lie about anything. Maybe the divorce paper was a lie, too. Maybe his story about having to live with his wife for financial reasons is a lie. How will you be able to believe anything he says?

deeply_inluv:

I know god is showing that he is true

Are you sure God would want this for you and not something better? Maybe it's your own feelings that you're hearing.

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Oct 12, 10, 14:09 #19

thanks shewolf, you got a point maybe i put too much of my emotion and my heart in it. yes sometimes i am thingking that he did lie about his family probably his divorce too is a lie well god knows i am honest and true to him i choose him because i love him inspite of all those good opportunity to have a better life. really sad and broken hearted but i have to be strong for my baby. Thank you so much guys am just hoping that he will realize of whathe is doing.

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 ♀ [Suspended]	Oct 12, 10, 14:12 #20
deeply_inluv: i have to be strong for my baby. Do you have a baby with this guy?!?

deeply_inluvThreads: 2 Posts: 30 Joined: Nov 20, 09 ♀	Oct 12, 10, 14:34 #21
will have early next year... not out yet.

trener zolwiaThreads: 5 Posts: 2,786 Joined: Jun 8, 10 ♂	Oct 12, 10, 18:25 #22
deeply_inluv: will have early next year... not out yet. Oh boy. What a mess...

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER ♀	Oct 12, 10, 18:31 #23
deeply_inluv: my Polish bf lie to me, he told me that he was divorced and no kids but turns up he has kids and wife and living in the same house and not divorce. Does he has any reason to lie to me because I told him that I prefer to meet someone with no kids? Please advice and you don't get it yet? some girls give us all a bad name... :( some guys give you all a bad name... :(

jonniThreads: 26 Posts: 4,181 Joined: Nov 27, 07 ♂	Edited by: jonni Oct 12, 10, 18:41 #24
deeply_inluv: will have early next year... not out yet. He's basically treating you as his mistress, without some of the associated benefits and with all of the problems. If you decide to complete this pregnancy, make sure you take him for every penny.

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Oct 12, 10, 18:47 #25

trener zolwia:

How would you feel if you knew that you were responsible for breaking up a family with children?

hey it isnt her fault, hes the one who lied, she told him she didnt want someone with kids
and he told her he didnt have any!

you know the answer to your own question, so really theres nothing we can do
to solve this, the ball is in your court. either way you look at it, your going to be hurt
cause he lied, do you think he is going to leave her when he has so much responsiblity?

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER ♀	Oct 12, 10, 18:49 #26
Patrycja19: hey it isnt her fault, hes the one who lied, she told him she didnt want someone with kids they both are guilty... he's a liar and she's naive... and they invited a kid into it...

Patrycja19Threads: 79 Posts: 3,974 Joined: Oct 31, 06 ♀	Oct 12, 10, 18:56 #27
pgtx: they both are guilty... he's a liar and she's naive... and they invited a kid into it... she didnt want kids and was unaware of his kid and his wife.. least thats what I am getting from her posts.

trener zolwiaThreads: 5 Posts: 2,786 Joined: Jun 8, 10 ♂	Edited by: trener zolwia Oct 12, 10, 18:59 #28
pgtx: she's naive Patrycja19: she didnt want kids Apparently she doesn't know how to avoid getting knocked up, either. I'm guessing OP is pretty young. Too young to handle all this with the necessary maturity of an adult...

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER ♀	Oct 12, 10, 19:22 #29
trener zolwia: Apparently she doesn't know how to avoid getting knocked up, either. neither does he...

trener zolwiaThreads: 5 Posts: 2,786 Joined: Jun 8, 10 ♂	Oct 12, 10, 19:26 #30
pgtx: neither does he... Huh? I don't understand. You make no sense. :p

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