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johnnybluesThreads: 2 Posts: 13 Joined: Feb 27, 10 ♂	Feb 27, 10, 22:59 #1
my girlfriend recently broke up with me, this came out of the blue. she says that she needs to get her head straight and that she thought that I was taking things too fast. I still want her back but I'm at a loss with what to do do you think it would be wise to send her flowers on womens day? I don't know what to do

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Feb 27, 10, 23:18 #2

I think you should do you whatever you feel you should do. If you don't know what to do to make her stay, then I'm afraid you won't know what to do next time you'll have problems either. I'm sorry, this might sound a bit too harsh or really unhelpful, but what is a relationship between two people if they need outside help to make it work?

Maybe you are taking things a little too fast, and maybe you should keep it a bit lighter untill she gives you the signals. You shouldn't ignore her, and ofcourse you should send her flowers if you want her to stay. Write her a poem, don't talk about marriage or anything that she would consider too heavy, express your feelings, and make it the most expensive bouqet you can afford, or find..

:)

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Edited by: SzwedwPolsce Feb 27, 10, 23:24 #3

Arien:

Maybe you are taking things a little too fast, and maybe you should keep it a bit lighter untill she gives you the signals.

Good idea, if she still loves you and just wants to proceed more slowly.
If she doesn't love you anymore there's not so much you can do.

The only chance you have to get her back is to give her more distance. Then maybe she realizes that she misses you more than she thought.

ArienThreads: 6 Posts: 1,604 Joined: Oct 20, 08 ♂	Feb 27, 10, 23:28 #4
SzwedwPolsce: The only chance you have to get her back is to give her more distance. Then maybe she realizes that she misses you more than she thought. Sound advice, just don't ignore her completely. :)

johnnybluesThreads: 2 Posts: 13 Joined: Feb 27, 10 ♂	Feb 27, 10, 23:40 #5
SzwedwPolsce: The only chance you have to get her back is to give her more distance. Then maybe she realizes that she misses you more than she thought. thats a little bit harder to do as we work together.

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 13 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂	Edited by: SzwedwPolsce Feb 27, 10, 23:47 #6
johnnyblues: we work together. When you work together everything gets more "sensitive". That could be a reason why she wants to the end the relationship. But I still think that my previous advice is the only way. Make her miss you!

johnnybluesThreads: 2 Posts: 13 Joined: Feb 27, 10 ♂	Feb 28, 10, 00:26 #7
SzwedwPolsce: Make her miss you! How can i make her miss me without thinking that I've moved on? As you can probably tell I haven't much experience with relationships

beelzebubThreads: - Posts: 515 Joined: Feb 16, 10 ♂	Edited by: beelzebub Feb 28, 10, 00:34 #8
Listen to yourself. This chick doesn't respect you enough to act normal and be honest (the whole "thing are too fast" BS is an excuse). Do you really want someone like that around? If you have arrived at the point where you are trying to come up with ways to manipulate her into coming back you need to step back and get some perspective.

LevadThreads: 2 Posts: 10 Joined: Feb 25, 10 ♂	Feb 28, 10, 01:15 #9
johnnyblues: How can i make her miss me without thinking that I've moved on? I'm in the same boat. Thanks to some good advice from this forum, I realized that if I truly love her deeply, I would trust her ultimately. This means giving her the space she says that she needs, and if she truly loves me, she will make the decision I hope for. In the interum you have to suck it up.

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Edited by: SzwedwPolsce Feb 28, 10, 01:20 #10

johnnyblues:

How can i make her miss me without thinking that I've moved on?

Levad:

I realized that if I truly love her deeply, I would trust her ultimately. This means giving her the space she says that she needs, and if she truly loves me, she will make the decision I hope for. In the interum you have to suck it up.

This is exactly how it works. If you hug love too hard it will die. (But it doesn't mean you should ignore her.)

You can't do so much, just hope for the best. And don't hug love to death, that's what's going to happen if you don't give her more space.

If she loves you she will realize that and come back to you, even if you don't do anything at all.

johnnybluesThreads: 2 Posts: 13 Joined: Feb 27, 10 ♂	Edited by: johnnyblues Feb 28, 10, 01:35 #11
thanks for the advice SzwedwPolsce and Levad

LevadThreads: 2 Posts: 10 Joined: Feb 25, 10 ♂	Feb 28, 10, 01:51 #12
GOOD LUCK TO BOTH OF US!

ArienThreads: 6 Posts: 1,604 Joined: Oct 20, 08 ♂	Feb 28, 10, 01:52 #13
Good luck to everyone. ;)

RevokeNiceThreads: 21 Posts: 2,767 Joined: Jun 20, 09 ♂	Feb 28, 10, 01:58 #14
johnnyblues: I don't know what to do Stalk her. Women love that. When she tells you to get lost, shes just playing hard to get. Women can be like that. Send her photos of you cutting yourself, they love that. Shows you care. :)

lukaszpoznanskiThreads: 19 Posts: 78 Joined: Mar 24, 08 ♂	Edited by: lukaszpoznanski Feb 28, 10, 02:04 #15
RevokeNice: Stalk her. Women love that. When she tells you to get lost, shes just playing hard to get. Women can be like that. Send her photos of you cutting yourself, they love that. Shows you care. Absolutely. If that doesn't work and you get really desperate, you can always ask strangers on an internet forum what to do to revive your relationship.

ExiledThreads: 5 Posts: 729 Joined: Jan 17, 10 ♂	Feb 28, 10, 10:08 #16
You should tell her:Darling I just won a big amount of pienadzki and I don't know how to spend it.Do you have any ideas?

espanaThreads: 40 Posts: 2,233 Joined: Feb 28, 07 ♂	Feb 28, 10, 10:12 #17
give her what she wants and if it is meant to be she will come back in her own time

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Edited by: Softsong Feb 28, 10, 10:35 #18

She may not yet be in the same place emotionally as you are. I once went out with a very nice man, and I thought that I could fall for him. I had known him a little before accepting a date. So, I was excited and happy we were finally going out.

Well, for the first date he gave me a giant expensive bouquet of flowers, took me to the best restaurant in town, brought a camera and wanted to know if he could take pictures of me, and then to top it off, after diner he drove in a neighborhood where there was a house he liked. He speculated that if this goes well between us, we could both sell our individual places, and buy something like this together. *EEEK*

I immediately felt myself pulling away from him because he was so heavily invested in me emotionally that it made me feel responsible for his feelings. I wanted time to see if my feelings moved in the direction that I sensed they could, and all that over attention made me less willing to see what would happen. It felt like I was obligated to love him because he was doing so much, and cared so much. I also felt that if I didn't fall for him, I'd hurt him terribly, so maybe I should avoid going out with him again because he might become even more attached, and hopeful.

Not saying you are like this, but I give this example to help you understand that she may feel you are moving too fast. Or it could be an excuse. If she really does feel pressured, the advice above is great. Give her some attention, but not too much. Be a bit funny, make her laugh. Be less serious. Somehow signal that you were happy before she came along, and while you want this to work out, you know you'll be happy again should it not work out. And then, make yourself scarce. Let her miss you....if you work together, be brief, funny and avoid over contact. Good luck!

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Feb 28, 10, 12:44 #19

Softsong:

He speculated that if this goes well between us, we could both sell our individual places, and buy something like this together.

this was something she suggested

Softsong:

Not saying you are like this, but I give this example to help you understand that she may feel you are moving too fast. Or it could be an excuse. If she really does feel pressured, the advice above is great. Give her some attention, but not too much. Be a bit funny, make her laugh. Be less serious. Somehow signal that you were happy before she came along, and while you want this to work out, you know you'll be happy again should it not work out. And then, make yourself scarce. Let her miss you....if you work together, be brief, funny and avoid over contact. Good luck!

thanks for the advice

AmathystThreads: 30 Posts: 3,968 Joined: Nov 10, 06 ♀	Feb 28, 10, 12:52 #20
beelzebub: his chick doesn't respect you enough to act normal and be honest (the whole "thing are too fast" BS is an excuse). True. If a girl likes you, she doesnt need space to decide what to do.

irishdeanoThreads: 11 Posts: 492 Joined: Oct 23, 07 ♂	Feb 28, 10, 13:01 #21
Girls do have a habbit of showing mixed signals, They look like they want you to move faster, Then they say its to much, or else they want you to slow down and you do then its not good enough (usually its a no win situtation lol ) Truthfully Dude I think shes Gone for good, Don't go to deep to try win her back cause it can destroy you

AmathystThreads: 30 Posts: 3,968 Joined: Nov 10, 06 ♀	Feb 28, 10, 14:42 #22
irishdeano: Girls do have a habbit of showing mixed signals Rather a sweeping generalisation wouldn't you say? Lets face it if a girl likes you she stays with you, if she's not sure she'll mess you about and if she's not interested she'll either mess you about or dump you - men have been known to act like this too.

irishdeanoThreads: 11 Posts: 492 Joined: Oct 23, 07 ♂	Feb 28, 10, 14:46 #23
Amathyst: Rather a sweeping generalisation wouldn't you say? Hahaha Yeah but its true they do have a habbit of sending mixed signals

johnnybluesThreads: 2 Posts: 13 Joined: Feb 27, 10 ♂	Mar 28, 10, 15:46 #24
Thanks for all the advice lads but it seems she was giving me the run around for a laugh.

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 13 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂	Mar 28, 10, 20:58 #25
irishdeano: they do have a habbit of sending mixed signals True in many cases.

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Aug 25, 10, 15:53 #26

johnnyblues:

my girlfriend recently broke up with me, this came out of the blue.
she says that she needs to get her head straight and that she thought that I was taking things too fast.

I still want her back but I'm at a loss with what to do

do you think it would be wise to send her flowers on womens day?

Its good that you are looking forward to get your girlfriend back. I wish you best of luck. If you need any advice and suggestion relating to your relationship problem you can surely get from getbackmygirlfriend.com

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 13 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂	Aug 25, 10, 19:27 #27
austinsmith: getbackmygirlfriend.com Is there a getbackmyboyfriend.com for female members of this forum?

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER ♀	Edited by: pgtx Aug 25, 10, 19:31 #28
SzwedwPolsce: Is there a getbackmyboyfriend.com for female members of this forum? no, we don't want them back...

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 13 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂	Aug 25, 10, 19:42 #29
pgtx: no, we don't want them back... Good solution.

RysiekKThreads: 8 Posts: 44 Joined: Jul 3, 10 ♂	Aug 25, 10, 19:58 #30
Sometimes you need to let love go...if it was meant to be ...it will return... and if it does...it may be true love... [b][/b]

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