Dear Mr. Victor,
I am a Polish woman and I would like to give You my own opinions, which I hope would be very interesting for You especially from opossite side. Maybe my opinions will help You to make right decission. My opinions are honest, independent and from my own personal experience especially, that I have some Spanish speaking friends, what in this situation is very interesting and similar to Your position. I am not going to advice You, that You should finish Your friendship with Polish girl. I would like to advice You to meet her direct and spend time with her who she is in real life. You need to know person better especially person from different culture before You can decide anything what to do.The difference from Your situation is, that I met my Spanish speaking friends direct and easier I could make my decisions. In my opinion not all advices, which You received here are good. They are many cultural differences, which on the beginning do not look serious but can be very big problem in relationship, which can hurt both sides. At the same time I met three friends man, which knows each other. In Polish culture what is typical in European culture woman can talk and meet anybody spend time with them, invite them who she wants in own place does not matter woman or man as friends, aquintance, coleagues etc. This can be celebrating birthday, new living place, getting new job or just to have somebody to support and talk about own personal matters.
One from these three friends is the most important for me and I invited together with second friend to celebrating my new living place and birthday. What is quite normal for me I wanted to cook something nice and share with my friends because hospitality and kidness is very important for Polish people this is close to their hearts, remaining of home especially when they are living abroad. I think, that I am quite avarage Polish person, who loves own Polish food especially, that can prepare, cook and share with others as gift. In Poland is very common custom of celebrating new living place, for good luck when owner invite own friends for party also when in new workplace person brings cakes on the beginning for own new coworkers for later good relationship with them at work. What happen my first friend special for me (I am writing about my Spanish speaking friends) suddenly when visited me second friend become suddenly very jealous and unreasonable suspected me, that I had some affair what shocked me. I am unable to explain to my first friend, that these type of accusation is absolutelly nonsense. First I felf offended, that I was suspected for this type of thing because I am very honest and loyal person for yourself and especially for others. I am writing about me and I know, that many Polish girls are similar to me. We are faitfull to man and our feelings. When I have feelings for somebody this person can be sure, that I do not have anybody else because I can not even imagine to be with somebody else. Unfortunatelly my first friend, special for me does not believe me, after these accusations during two months we met only twice and I do not know if I will see my friend again. I do not know why my friend is so jelaus when I only met and spoke with another man as only coleagues. I think, that jealosity is very typical for Spanish man and probably is more intence than for Polish people. I noticed, that relation between one person Spanish speaking and me Polish from other culture has also different meaning. I think especially Spanish speaking men has very special treatment for "own" woman in many aspects of life looks, like "his woman" can not meet or talk to other man and my friend is young and well educated person. I know, that avarage Spanish speaking men like social life, go to the pubs, drink with friends, spend time with own friends and girlfriends. I also know, that with girlfriends Spanish men is not only talking but is very practical.
Dear Mr. Victor, if You would like to ask me more questions about our cultural differences and receive my obiective honest answers I will be very happy to do it. My email is vamori@wp.pl
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