Long-distance relationships - do they work?

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Edited by: Steveramsfan Apr 2, 10, 08:50 #31

voice of reason:Actually, the UK, US and most Western forces provide married quarters and have done for many years, even some Northern Ireland tours provided accomodation for families, the only time families are seperated are when someone is sent on active service when let's face it, if someones on the front line they've got enough on their minds without a lot of trivial domestic nonsense. (this was in response to someone but I screwed up the quote bit!)

Only if you are married. When you are based in Germany and are not married it is a long distance relationship.

Long distance relationships work but it depends upon the 2 people involved.

Mobile phone and internet has made them a lot easier.

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Nov 25, 11, 15:29 #32

Merged: Long distance relationships – Can they work?

Hi I have been with my polish b/f for 8mths im British and we met at work at the end of last year, but only got together this year in April after he had been home for Christmas and new year.

We both liked each other but as it was nearly time for him to leave we never took our friendship to the next step, but as soon as he was back we never looked back! We both have very strong feelings for each other and see a future of us being together but both of us have never done this kind of thing before.

I just would like to ask if anyone else has had a long distance relationship and how it worked out for you.

Thanks!

ma101nxThreads: 5 Posts: 30 Joined: Apr 20, 10 ♂	Nov 25, 11, 16:43 #33
drew123: I just would like to ask if anyone else has had a long distance relationship and how it worked out for you. Yes is the answer, if you want to make it work it can do however it can't be long distance forever, theee has to be a goal of one side moving to be with the other

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Edited by: Wedle Nov 25, 11, 17:29 #34

ma101nx:

theee has to be a goal of one side moving to be with the other

Yes you have got to decide which country you will live in and move towards it, the ideal situation is to have a home in both Poland and UK. Also if you are looking at a business, do something that will offer you the chance to spend time in both Poland and UK. Religion can also be another issue. There are plenty out there that have made it work, there are also many who have failed. So it is very much down to one thing, are you both equally committed to the relationship to make it work.
Poles will always want to return home as their parents get on, there is a built in moral commitment to the parents, that you must admire, there is no real social welfare here like the UK, so it is down to the children to look after the parents. If you are together with a Pole some stage in your life this will affect you and your future decisions.

POLENGGGsThreads: 5 Posts: 211 Joined: Apr 26, 10 ♂	Nov 25, 11, 23:11 #35
Yes, and it will always work if you want it to. A better question to ask yourself: how could a LDR fail ? I did not email my partner for over a year went to the partners city and did not visit them because I had other engagements, but yet... I am with them again now but I am in Australia and theyre in Warsaw

HavokThreads: 14 Posts: 1,508 Joined: Mar 12, 10 MEMBER ♂	Nov 25, 11, 23:21 #36
Paul: Long-distance relationships - do they work? Generally these kinds of relationships don't work, but don’t give up, life is long and maybe one day you’ll meet again and get to shag her senseless once more.

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Nov 26, 11, 11:49 #37

I just met this guy and gone out with him about three times. I think I'm falling hard for him and I barely knew the guy. I don't fall easily but apparently its happening. I'm screwed because he is leaving to Poland this month. I don't even know why he keeps wanting to see me and email/text me everyday when he knows he is leaving. I never wanted a LDR, but I think I'm willing to give it a shot with this guy, but we are not even together. He's such a sweet caring polite shy guy, but again I don't really know him that we'll so i could be wrong. All I know is that he makes me smile and I felt the connection the moment we first kiss. I never knew that kind of intense feeling exist until I met him. Should I give LDR a shot if he asks? Or should I just avoid him and prepare for his departure and not say anything about my feelings?

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Nov 29, 11, 16:19 #38

Thanks for the encouragement! not sure if it is going to work out for us.. it's been awhile already and no hint of me going to visit at Christmas.. not even for a couple of days, i would really like to see him because we have 3mths to go..

please correct me if i am wrong but can polish men be a little bit difficult?

I say this because he is being a little difficult at the moment, and im having trouble trying to understand him..

or am i just being a typical women and not understanding men!

PushbikeThreads: 3 Posts: 65 Joined: Feb 15, 12 ♂	Feb 15, 12, 18:26 #39
I was in a long distance relationship with a Polish girl for 2 years...then I did a CELTA and now live with her in Warsaw and I teach English. It works as long as you know it's not forever.

SamPaul	Feb 15, 12, 21:56 #40
Hey I noticed your reply today, I am moving to Warsaw from Liverpool at the beginning of March to live with my Polish girlfriend and to rent a flat, I am also looking to teach English. How are you finding it ?

HarryThreads: 62 Posts: 8,508 Joined: May 2, 07 ♂ [Suspended]	Feb 15, 12, 22:03 #41
Sam, March is a pretty bad time to be looking for teaching work, you'd be much much better off waiting until August if you possibly can.

PennBoyThreads: 157 Posts: 3,443 Joined: Dec 7, 08 ♂	Feb 15, 12, 22:16 #42
Paul: Long-distance relationships - do they work? No they do not. Maybe if the person lives like an hour drive away. If you don't see each other like twice a week, what's the point. And if someone says they're ok with seeing you less, they got somebody else LOL

PushbikeThreads: 3 Posts: 65 Joined: Feb 15, 12 ♂	Edited by: Pushbike Feb 16, 12, 07:12 #43
It's very different, but OK. The most important thing for me was to be with my gf but I definitely prefer living in England. Harry is right Sam. the times when schools recruit is august and Jan. I flew over for a week in August and interviewed all week. i was offered a few position but they didn't start till Oct.

jasondmzkThreads: 31 Posts: 503 Joined: Jun 1, 11 ♂	Feb 16, 12, 07:16 #44
Relationships that are based on raw emotions instead of respect and shared experiences aren't going to last.

noreenbThreads: 4 Posts: 1,082 Joined: Apr 22, 09 ♀	Feb 16, 12, 09:35 #45
They do. Example: He worked in Warsow, she in Gdynia, for several years they experienced just journeys and ocasional weekends. Now, they are both on a green island. It was hard. Simple, and of course true: if people want to be together, they are, the problem is when they don't see if they shouldn't be together. Try and see if it works.

jasondmzkThreads: 31 Posts: 503 Joined: Jun 1, 11 ♂	Feb 16, 12, 09:44 #46
noreenb: Try and see if it works. Probably the best advice of all.

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