How long should I make him wait for the goodies?

globetrotterThreads: 4 Posts: 129 Joined: Jan 8, 07 ♂	Oct 27, 10, 23:22 #61
Thats vodkaphilia - banned in the seventeeth century

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Oct 27, 10, 23:29 #62
pgtx: if he's Polish, he'll drink vodka until passing out and then you can just drag him to your bedroom and problem solved... Yes he is polish, but he is also a body builder so I dont think I could drag him to my bedroom, nor do I want him to squash me if I try to get in the bed with him. I will have to wait till he is sober.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Oct 27, 10, 23:31 #63
pgtx: if he's Polish, he'll drink vodka until passing out and then you can just drag him to your bedroom and problem solved... I see here a case of alcohol rape.

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Oct 27, 10, 23:34 #64

Maybe I might be permitted to add an anecdote:

This summer a female co-worker was telling me how her friend had been wooed and wowed by this chisel jawed hunk of a guy. He treated her as if reading from "The gentlemen's guide to wooing a princess" 1922 edition. He sent her flowers, be opened doors, he always paid for her, encouraged at work, cuddled her when she was sad. All this for three months whilst remaining chaste and telling her that love and trust and friendship were the cornerstones of any true relationship. This lucky girl could believe her stars, she had finally found the ONE. Her friends were equally astounded at this charming Prince. The months sped on as only lovers months do, yet still he refrained from serious petting, citing romance and time.
Finally after six months the poor girl, flushed with resisting couldn't do it any longer and hurled herself at her chaste Prince.
The next day she packed her bags and left.
Her friends were fabaglasted, "why, why did you leave him?"
She replied, " he was hiding something from me."
"What" the pressed.
"the tiniest micro cock I have ever seen!"

Lets hope this isn't the case. ;)

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Oct 27, 10, 23:38 #65

Maybe:

an anecdote:

This summer a female co-worker was telling me how her friend had been wooed and wowed by this chisel jawed hunk of a guy. He treated her as if reading from "The gentlemen's guide to wooing a princess" 1922 edition. He sent her flowers, be opened doors, he always paid for her, encouraged at work, cuddled her when she was sad. All this for three months whilst remaining chaste and telling her that love and trust and friendship were the cornerstones of any true relationship. This lucky girl could believe her stars, she had finally found the ONE. Her friends were equally astounded at this charming Prince. The months sped on as only lovers months do, yet still he refrained from serious petting, citing romance and time.
Finally after six months the poor girl, flushed with resisting couldn't do it any longer and hurled herself at her chaste Prince.
The next day she packed her bags and left.
Her friends were fabaglasted, "why, why did you leave him?"
She replied, " he was hiding something from me."
"What" the pressed.
"the tiniest micro cock I have ever seen!"

LOL! Sweet/ terrible story! :D

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Oct 27, 10, 23:52 #66
Maybe: "the tiniest micro cock I have ever seen!" To be honest I am not a greedy person so it this is the case so be it, but he better be talented with his fingers, tee hee.

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Oct 27, 10, 23:57 #67

Atosha:

I am not going to ask him for anything, I am going to just chill and see what happens when he comes over this Friday.

I didn't mean literally asking him, but as the context of expecting him to be 100% with you when you're probably not being 100% with him either. (Seeing you seem to have a few reservations about the whole thing, which you're obviously not discussing with him.) I don't mean that as criticism either, since it's your right to keep 1% for yourself aswell, and that's probably what I meant. (Jeez, do I confuse people??)

Atosha:

I will cook him a nice meal, watch a dvd and ask him if he wants to sleep in the spare room if it gets late or he drinks some vodka, if not he can drive the 30 minutes back home.

Just go with the flow, and whatever you decide, your decision can't be wrong if it feels right for you.

Maybe:

"the tiniest micro cock I have ever seen!"

Just imagine what would've happened if she believed in no sex before marriage!

xD

dtaylor5632Threads: 49 Posts: 4,459 Joined: May 2, 09 ♂	Oct 28, 10, 00:01 #68
A J: Just imagine what would've happened if she believed in no sex before marriage! PIMP! stop it ;)

MaybeThreads: 7 Posts: 335 Joined: Dec 16, 08 ♂	Oct 28, 10, 00:02 #69
Atosha: he is also a body builder Holy Cow, I have just read this part of your post....... Oh boy, oh boy. Um, is he like REALLY big, I mean proper ripped with muscle. Because Girl, if he is, then my old anecdote is gonna be ringing in your ears.... Well good luck. You sound sincere and if this does turn out to be the case, well hey ho.

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Oct 28, 10, 00:04 #70
Maybe: is he like REALLY big, I mean proper ripped with muscle. Yes, his body is ripped and he has an 8 pack.

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Edited by: Maybe Oct 28, 10, 00:10 #71

uh oh.
I don't mean to pry but do you think he may have taken steriods at anytime.

1)Does he have acne on his back?
2) Is his hair receding at all?

I'm just asking because one of the side effects of taking steriods and hormones(many body builders do) can have a detrimental effect on the male genitalia.

Let me qualify this a little more. Steroids do not actually shrink one's manhood. Rather is can lead to erectile dysfunction. This could we be an issue. Especially because he mentions how mixed up he is about his ex. He might be laying the mental ground work, so that when it comes to the subject, you will not reject him and hurt him like his ex.

Hey please remember I am just putting forward a possible scenario for you to ponder, since the issue is clearly an obstacle for both of you.

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Oct 28, 10, 00:18 #72
Maybe: I don't mean to pry but do you think he may have taken steriods at anytime. No sweetness have has never done them things. He first came to England 6 years ago and started to go to the gym and build up his body. He is 100% natural.

MaybeThreads: 7 Posts: 335 Joined: Dec 16, 08 ♂	Oct 28, 10, 00:23 #73
100% natural. Remember performance enhancing drugs an not all injectables, pills are available too and they aren't overly expensive. Most people who train seriously in gyms have access to such things. Again pure conjecture on my part.

trener zolwiaThreads: 5 Posts: 2,786 Joined: Jun 8, 10 ♂	Oct 28, 10, 00:27 #74
Maybe: Again pure conjecture on my part. Let's wait and see how big his package is before we start scaring the poor girl off. :D

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Oct 28, 10, 00:29 #75

Maybe:

100% natural. Remember performance enhancing drugs an not all injectables, pills are available too and they aren't overly expensive. Most people who train seriously in gyms have access to such things. Again pure conjecture on my part

I hear what your saying hun but I can honestly vouch for him, that he has never done them things. If he did it wouldn't have taken him 6 years to get it.

My brother goes to the same gym as he is a kick boxing trainer and if something like that is going on he would tell me.

MaybeThreads: 7 Posts: 335 Joined: Dec 16, 08 ♂	Oct 28, 10, 00:30 #76
Absolutely. She does seem to be into him. And in my experience once your married, you might as well have erectile dysfunction....

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Oct 28, 10, 00:33 #77
Maybe: And in my experience once your married, you might as well have erectile dysfunction.... Tell me more about your experience, what happened?

A JThreads: 19 Posts: 4,639 Joined: May 21, 10 ♂	Edited by: A J Oct 28, 10, 00:35 #78
dtaylor5632: stop it ;) Stop what? The train? The girl who just picked your pockets? For f*ck's sake man, learn to be more specific! xD

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07 ♂	Oct 28, 10, 00:36 #79
The steroids sterilized him ;(((

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Oct 28, 10, 00:43 #80

Atosha:

Tell me more about your experience, what happened?

With what? Body building... er okay

so one day I went to the gym this was about ten years ago. And well as I walked up the stairs I saw all these big, manly tough looking guys and they were boasting about how much they could press and what they could curl. Y'know real macho stuff. in the changing rooms it was steamy, the guys were flexing their muscles, seeing who had the taughest stomach. And I looked around at the equipment, the mirrors, the tight tops these guys wore. And I thought to myself, JESUS H CHRIST these guys are the biggest bunch of poofs I have ever seen in my life and promptly turned around and got the f8ck out of dodge. ;)

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Oct 28, 10, 00:43 #81
Filios1: The steroids sterilized him ;((( Oh crumbs, tee hee

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Oct 28, 10, 01:30 #82

Atosha:

Ok so last night he rang me before I went to bed and asked me if he can stay this weekend so I said yes. Then just as he was going he said I am going to love you, I asked him what he meant and he said his ex broke his heart and he is going to need sometime to heal.

wtf, they split up over a year ago, so I am being punished cause his ex hurt him, but he says i'm his gf and I cook him his dinner and take it to work for him and I washed his clothes weekend just gone. Well if he thinks he is going to get into my knickers this weekend he can forget it or in this case if I was thinking I was going to get into his shorts. My body is a gift from god and no man is going to ruin it or my mind or in other words I am not going to sleep with a man if they don't love me.

So now it's me thats being punished cause he will be sleeping in the spare room with that damb sexy body driving me mad on the other side of the door. I will have to say a prayer to god to keep my hands and thoughts to myself and now I have to wear vest and shorts to bed when he stays and I can't take a shower with the door open.

When will he forget the past and move on? do I have to resort to watching a porno?

Well, the guy was trying to be honest with you yet instead of you appreciating his honesty you get pretty aggressive. I understand you being desperate, trust me, I do. I got divorced year and a half ago and even though seemingly each and every friend of mine, and their spouses, and their friends keep trying to set me up with "this awesome girl you just have to meet, etc" I haven't been on a single date since my divorce because ...I'm not ready. So yes, I get it.

In my view being with someone you really, really care about is so much better than "plain" sex, and yes I do love sex but am willing to wait if I meet that someone special. I'll take 1 exhilarating sex encounter over 100 "pretty good ones" - and I need that special connection to be truly attracted to someone. Old fashioned? Maybe, but I know there are others like that out there.

Your initial post made me believe you found that soulmate but now I'm wondering if you're simply horny? Please don't take my comments as disparaging toward you, that's not my intention, I'm simply trying to figure out your reasoning.
Also, the title of your thread: "How long should I make him wait for the goodies?" - really?? Shouldn't it be "How long should WE be waiting for the goodies?" You make it sound like he's a dog (and yes many of us are ;) who's about to be rewarded for good behavior, a reward you personally take no pleasure in? Based on your other statements I know that's not true. My point is that sex is a gift to men AND women, but I didn't get that message from the title of your thread.

Either way, so it takes him a long time to get over his ex. Ok, so what? We are all different. It takes me for ever too, always has but I'm the hopeless romantic type and maybe so is he? If it was you he was trying to get over wouldn't you want him to take for ever?

To answer your initial question - it should take as long as both of you want it to take. Some people will wait until the wedding night (yes those people still do exist), some will wait a year, others a month and some a day, if that. Doesn't matter as long as both of you want it and no one feels "obligated" to please the other.

Don't listen to others giving you advice (myself included) but rather do what feels right.
Better yet do what you women so often crave from us men, communicate. Ask him if waiting a year and a half is the norm for him, ask him why he told you that story, if there was some kind of message in there? I know that discussing issues like that early on in a relationship might feel awkward but I don't think I would mind a similar conversation; keep it simple and keep it honest.

Maybe this will be a real connection or maybe the two of you will embrace in fun sexscapades, who knows? Either way, what the two of you decide TOGETHER is probably more important than what you'll hear from us here at PolishEroticaForums.ToeCurlingOrgasms.now

You mentioned earlier that you thought he was your soulmate and if so congrats as it's not easy to find a soulmate. However, close your eyes and imagine him without his 8-pack, without his killer body as you described it and ask yourself if he's still your soulmate? Because eventually he'll grow old and eventually his work out routine might change and he'll become just a regular man. If he's still your soulmate then you've struck gold and the two of you can create some amazing jewelry together. Congrats!

Marek11111Threads: 49 Posts: 1,955 Joined: Aug 6, 09 ♂	Oct 28, 10, 01:33 #83
Just go and have your way with him

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Edited by: trener zolwia Oct 28, 10, 02:52 #84

skysoulmate:

Ask him if waiting a year and a half is the norm for him, ask him why he told you that story, if there was some kind of message in there? I know that discussing issues like that early on in a relationship might feel awkward but I don't think I would mind a similar conversation; keep it simple and keep it honest.

Best advice yet. Communication.

skysoulmate:

In my view being with someone you really, really care about is so much better than "plain" sex, and yes I do love sex but am willing to wait if I meet that someone special. I'll take 1 exhilarating sex encounter over 100 "pretty good ones" - and I need that special connection to be truly attracted to someone. Old fashioned? Maybe, but I know there are others like that out there.

I'm the same way anymore. As I've gotten older I find it's just not worth the bother. I'm all about quality over quantity now and if I don't feel a real attraction to a girl I won't give it any effort.

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Oct 28, 10, 07:51 #85

skysoulmate:

You mentioned earlier that you thought he was your soulmate and if so congrats as it's not easy to find a soulmate. However, close your eyes and imagine him without his 8-pack, without his killer body as you described it and ask yourself if he's still your soulmate? Because eventually he'll grow old and eventually his work out routine might change and he'll become just a regular man. If he's still your soulmate then you've struck gold and the two of you can create some amazing jewelry together. Congrats!

I know that he is my soul mate, I was just getting scared and feeling selfish because I have not been with a man in 4 years. Even if he never had the sexy body I wouldn't care cause I love what is in his heart and it's that what I saw first.
I have only ever slept with one man and he cheated so i'm not as experience with being with a man as most may think.

He rang me last night before I went to bed and I love him so much and value him as a man with feelings too, so I am going to let our relationship develop slowly on the foundation stones of friendship that way I am giving us both time to get serious and I will blind my eyes to any other man.

FlaglessPoleThreads: 7 Posts: 1,394 Joined: Aug 19, 10 ♂	Oct 28, 10, 08:00 #86
Atosha: I was just getting scared and feeling selfish because I have not been with a man in 4 years I see, hence the aforementioned porn. But no more sticky fingers, now go get him girl! ;D

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Edited by: skysoulmate Oct 28, 10, 08:07 #87

Atosha:

I know that he is my soul mate, I was just getting scared and feeling selfish because I have not been with a man in 4 years. Even if he never had the sexy body I wouldn't care cause I love what is in his heart and it's that what I saw first.
I have only ever slept with one man and he cheated so i'm not as experience with being with a man as most may think.

He rang me last night before I went to bed and I love him so much and value him as a man with feelings too, so I am going to let our relationship develop slowly on the foundation stones of friendship that way I am giving us both time to get serious and I will blind my eyes to any other man.

There are no guarantees in life and you are smart enough to know that. However, if I was your guy I'd appreciate your attitude because no, not all of us are cheaters and players. Some of us really do have feelings and really do have other goals in life than to shag as many women as we can. I hope that's exactly how the man in your life is and I hope he sees your true potential. Good luck to you both.

I know your guy has an 8-pack, here's a guy with a 6-pack. Sexy, eh? ;)

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