Love without chemistry ?

gg4	Jun 24, 10, 09:30 #1
I am Asian in love with a Polish woman. We're living in the USA. She likes me, and appreciates my care for her, but has no chemistry with me regarding physical attractiveness. For various reasons, she may consider living with me as her boyfriend. Could this turn into a long term relationship? In some cultures, this is possible. Yet I am not sure about Polish women. What should I do?

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Jun 24, 10, 10:06 #2
She will eat and chew all your money.

A JThreads: 19 Posts: 4,639 Joined: May 21, 10 ♂	Jun 24, 10, 10:14 #3
gg4: Could this turn into a long term relationship? If there's only physical attraction between the two of you, and no chemistry at all, then you should either treat her like a friend, or vieuw your relationship with here as a sexual relationship. I don't think a long-term relationship will end well, but then again you never know what might grow between the both of you. (I doubt it though!) :)

Miguel ColombiaThreads: 3 Posts: 711 Joined: Apr 20, 10 ♂	Jun 24, 10, 10:22 #4
gg4: Yet I am not sure about Polish women. Who is?

NatasaThreads: 7 Posts: 2,611 Joined: Jun 6, 10 MEMBER ♀	Jun 24, 10, 11:07 #5
southern: She will eat and chew all your money. Oversimplified image of women. Or do you see something beyond their physical advantages and greedy nature? stop the earth i want to get off

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Jun 24, 10, 12:02 #6
Natasa: Oversimplified image of women We talk about Polki here.Not about proud yugo girls. gg4: and appreciates my care for her, but has no chemistry with me regarding physical attractiveness. What more can be said?She appreciates the money you spend for her while she is getting the hot kiolbasa from somehere else(maybe even giving him the money you give her).

blooperThreads: 1 Posts: 2 Joined: Jun 24, 10 ♂	Jun 24, 10, 13:36 #7
LOL @southern... This is no relation with Polish culture right... just a woman doesn't like you, so stop wasting your time! =)

MareGaeaThreads: 45 Posts: 5,527 Joined: Feb 6, 08 ♂	Edited by: MareGaea Jun 24, 10, 13:48 #8
Natasa: Oversimplified image of women. Welcome to the wonderful and frightening world of southern, our Greek adonis who has dated every Slavic woman in the Northern Hemisphere. >^..^< M-G (found out yesterday that he has a Polish lapdancer living downstairs)

gg4

Jun 24, 10, 16:37 #9

Looks like most of you don't believe in a relationship that starts without chemistry. The care for her that I mentioned is not simply money. I am not rich at all. Yet I am very patient, and always try to be by her side when in need. I can take care of her in financial matters, but so far she is very independent on this issue. She's hard working.

In Asia, and some other cultures, marriage may start without chemistry. It may be an arrangement between parents of the couples. Of course nobody can be happy with each other all the time for lifelong, yet there're moments of happiness between them.

Other couples initially get to each other because of other needs, not chemistry. And love may develop later.

Do Polish women believe in this?

gg4	Jun 24, 10, 16:50 #10
southern: She will eat and chew all your money I don't have that much money

gg4	Jun 24, 10, 16:54 #11
southern: What more can be said?She appreciates the money you spend for her I don't have that much money. Care means patience, being by her side when in need, willing to take care of her, put her in priority.

gg4

Jun 24, 10, 16:57 #12

[quote=blooper]This is no relation with Polish culture right... just a woman doesn't like you, so stop wasting your time

In Asia, and some other cultures, marriage may start without chemistry. It may be an arrangement between parents of the couples. Of course nobody can be happy with each other all the time for lifelong, yet there're moments of happiness between them.

Other couples initially get to each other because of other needs, not chemistry. And love may develop later.

Do Polish women believe in this?

gg4

Jun 24, 10, 16:59 #13

blooper:

This is no relation with Polish culture right... just a woman doesn't like you, so stop wasting your time

In Asia, and some other cultures, marriage may start without chemistry. It may be an arrangement between parents of the couples. Of course nobody can be happy with each other all the time for lifelong, yet there're moments of happiness between them.

Other couples initially get to each other because of other needs, not chemistry. And love may develop later.

Do Polish women believe in this?

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Jun 24, 10, 18:58 #14

MareGaea:

Welcome to the wonderful and frightening world of southern, our Greek adonis who has dated every Slavic woman in the Northern Hemisphere.

Good description of feelings southern is provoking.

As a woman, I can say that he is in a way very interesting, and with his liberated and overtly expressed sexual drive a little bit unusual. Pazi da ne prelaziš onu finu liniiju, S....:)

Anyway, I like him.

gg4:

She likes me, and appreciates my care for her, but has no chemistry with me regarding physical attractiveness. For various reasons, she may consider living with me as her boyfriend.

This really sounds bad, especially because Slavic women (all I presume), as far as I know, like very much that physical aspect of a relationship is functioning. But, I wouldn't completely reject the idea that she may develop some stronger bondage with you. For many different personal reasons, she may be inhibited, dislike closeness....
But, I wouldn't count on that too much.

Did she talk to you about her previous relationships ? That can be informative.

stop the earth i want to get off

KrystalThreads: 7 Posts: 108 Joined: Sep 17, 09 ♀	Jun 24, 10, 19:16 #15
Sound like she is waiting for someone special. Maybe she is looking for chemistry with someone else. She don't find it with you. Sorry! I don't know how people have chemistry without love but they do stay together forever. When you love someone, person is gone from your life?

gg4

Jun 24, 10, 19:35 #16

Thanks for your comments. Yes, she talked to me about her previous relationships, and I know some of those guys, they're all more physically attractive than me in some ways.

You're specialized in psychology, aren't you? I think there're two types of relationships. The Heart type: chemistry, emotion and feelings. The Brain type: reasonings, will that relationship bring about what you need, make you feel secure, less worry, helpful to your kids. Most relationships are mixed.

I am thinking whether she, or Polish women, would fall for a pure Brain type.

gg4

Jun 24, 10, 19:36 #17

Natasa:

Did she talk to you about her previous relationships ? That can be informative

Thanks for your comments. Yes, she talked to me about her previous relationships, and I know some of those guys, they're all more physically attractive than me in some ways.

You're specialized in psychology, aren't you? I think there're two types of relationships. The Heart type: chemistry, emotion and feelings. The Brain type: reasonings, will that relationship bring about what you need, make you feel secure, less worry, helpful to your kids. Most relationships are mixed.

I am thinking whether she, or Polish women, would fall for a pure Brain type.

David_18Threads: 111 Posts: 1,212 Joined: Jan 4, 07 ♂	Jun 24, 10, 19:38 #18
gg4: Thanks for your comments. Yes, she talked to me about her previous relationships, and I know some of those guys, they're all more physically attractive than me in some ways. Stop be so emotional!!! be a man and show some character!!!

gg4	Jun 24, 10, 19:45 #19
Krystal: When you love someone, person is gone from your life I am guessing what it means ? Could you clarify. I appreciate your comments. I want to " fight" for my love. I may lose, yet love is worth fighting for, isn't it?

gg4	Jun 24, 10, 19:48 #20
David_18: be a man and show some character What characters of a man you're talking about? Be proud, confident, goal oriented, less emotional? How about getting into the kitchen, wiping the kids butts? So, are you successful in your life? Do you have a girlfriend/wife who is loyal to you, care for you?

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Jun 24, 10, 19:49 #21

gg4:

I think there're two types of relationships. The Heart type: chemistry, emotion and feelings. The Brain type: reasonings, will that relationship bring about what you need, make you feel secure, less worry, helpful to your kids.

Have you never heard of sexual relationships? Some people are together purely to have sex.

Miguel Colombia:

So how is your muslim arab boyfriend treating you?

Sad trolling attempt. You didn't even try to be subtle.

king polkakamonThreads: 1 Posts: 1,018 Joined: Dec 30, 09 ♂	Jun 24, 10, 19:50 #22
gg4: I am thinking whether she, or Polish women, would fall for a pure Brain type. Yes,some women use brains as vibrators.Get real man.You need a minimum of physical attractiveness.I know Asians usually lack that but you could work out Bruce Lee type.

gg4	Jun 24, 10, 19:53 #23
Matowy: Have you never heard of sexual relationships Yeah. Any relationship needs sex. Without sex, it's not relationship - It's friendship, colleageship, whatevership without sex.

gg4	Jun 24, 10, 19:56 #24
king polkakamon: but you could work out Bruce Lee type. good suggestion. Thanks. I have some Taekwondo, but it's 20 years ago ! I was able to kick over my head.

NatasaThreads: 7 Posts: 2,611 Joined: Jun 6, 10 MEMBER ♀	Jun 24, 10, 19:56 #25
gg4: I am thinking whether she, or Polish women, would fall for a pure Brain type. Some might. Maybe yours also. But why would YOU agree not to be appreciated as a man, completely? Sounds a little bit self defeating. stop the earth i want to get off

king polkakamonThreads: 1 Posts: 1,018 Joined: Dec 30, 09 ♂	Jun 24, 10, 19:59 #26
You may evolve to a cuckold and considering affection of Polki to Blacks you don't know what may happen to you.

gg4

Jun 24, 10, 20:02 #27

Natasa:

But why would YOU agree not to be appreciated as a man, completely? Sounds a little bit self defeating

You're right. Actually everyone has his/her own strength and weakness. We have a saying " Knowing you, knowing your enemy/partner is the key". I know my strength and I am not mentioning it here. I am just mentioning my weakness, see if you guys have ideas about it. I am working on my weakness.

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Jun 24, 10, 20:04 #28

A good topic to discuss I guess.

I think that if there is no chemistry the matter looks difficult.

The only advice I can give you is that getting or giving any advices is not the best option.

But if I really wanted to say sth smart I would say: follow your hart + stomach + nose +eyes and maybe you will feel sth in common with the Polish girl.
And definately try to eat sth traditionally Polish.
;0

gg4	Jun 24, 10, 20:07 #29
king polkakamon: You may evolve to a cuckold and considering affection of Polki to Blacks you don't know what may happen to you there're too many jokes about cuckolds. Is there any man who is brave enough to say his wife is 100% loyal to him ? Look at the kids, some of them do not look like you, or her, at all.

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Jun 24, 10, 20:08 #30

gg4:

Knowing you, knowing your enemy/partner is the key

The ''art of war?''

gg4:

I am just mentioning my weakness,

It is obvious what your weakness is.Just joking.Anyway what matters is how you perceive yourself.If you perceive him as the low equiped Asian,you will be full of complex and even a polish girl will walk all over you and laugh at you.(although they are ridden with complexes too).But if you perceive it as karate kid,asian fighter whatever you might have a chance.Might have because you lack the hard core developing from the batllefield.

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