I made a mistake and now she won't forgive me, help!

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Edited by: Moderator Aug 31, 10, 21:58 #1

What should i do? she won't forgive me

my name is Jude, 22, Polish citizen schooling in the UK

my girlfriend took naked pictures of herself with my fone but i didn't know
not until my course mate saw them n my fone and he made a pic slideshow
and now it's all over school. She's thinking i did it myself, pls help me
this is the girl i intend to marry after my final exams 2months from now
and she doesn't even want to talk to me. What should i do?

Thanks
Jude.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,160 Joined: Dec 25, 07 ♂	Aug 31, 10, 21:59 #2
Eh, ask her to admit that she did it and that you didn't circulate it. Simple!

pgtxThreads: 48 Posts: 6,269 Joined: Feb 14, 09 ♀ [Moderator]	Aug 31, 10, 22:01 #3
flowman47: HELPPPPPP who's help do you need? a magician to take everything away? flowman47: What should i do? first of all - grow up then - talk to her...

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,868 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER ♀	Aug 31, 10, 22:07 #4
Whoa that's embarassing! A kinky surprise gone wrong, oh dear. Maybe you should get that ass*hole mate of yours to go and tell her what he did, and say you had nothing to do with it? Beat him up if this is the only way you can get him to understand what he's gotta do, but if this is the woman you love you need to do something and you need to do it NOW.

flowman47Threads: 1 Posts: 1 Joined: Aug 31, 10 ♂	Aug 31, 10, 22:16 #5
yo pgtx like i said i didnt know, why would i allow my girl's naked pics to be published like so his-girlfriend.tk not me, never, i am just confused now

delphiandomineThreads: 40 Posts: 9,585 Joined: Nov 25, 08 ♂	Aug 31, 10, 22:16 #6
I think you need to man up and accept that your girlfriend is now the star of the school :)

smurfThreads: 40 Posts: 580 Joined: Sep 8, 09 ♂	Aug 31, 10, 22:26 #7
pics or gtfo :-P

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,160 Joined: Dec 25, 07 ♂	Aug 31, 10, 22:30 #8
you don't need just anybody. She just needs to listen and it'll be ok.

valpomikeThreads: 18 Posts: 230 Joined: Apr 20, 09 ♂	Aug 31, 10, 22:30 #9
True love takes faith, on both parts, not just one. If she does not trust you, she could not be the one for you. But give her a chance to cool down, and send her, via regular mail, a nice long letter, saying that you are sorry, and never knew the photo's would get out. Ask for another chance. If she says no, move on. There are many more, who would trust you, I am sure. Mike

CopenhagenThreads: - Posts: 4 Joined: Sep 1, 10 ♂	Sep 1, 10, 16:50 #10
Bad for you, good luck!

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,410 Joined: Aug 29, 07 ♂	Sep 1, 10, 17:04 #11
flowman47: my course mate saw them n my fone and he made a pic slideshow and now it's all over school. lock your phone, dummy.. sheesh

manlymanThreads: 1 Posts: 6 Joined: Sep 2, 10 ♂	Sep 2, 10, 02:30 #12
its not your fault. She caused the whole show. She should have informed you then u keep it a secret. You just relax, keep telling her you are not the one and i know she will come back when she gets the truth. Tell her who did it

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,143 Joined: Jun 7, 07 ♂	Sep 2, 10, 02:47 #13
The silly sow should not have put naked pics of herself on your phone....and your mate should not have broadcast them all over the school.... Seems to me , that you have not done anything wrong , and if she can,t accept that then there is not much you can do.... Your best bet is to post the pictures here on the forum , and we can advise you better...

dtaylor5632Threads: 48 Posts: 4,348 Joined: May 2, 09 ♂	Sep 2, 10, 02:48 #14
wildrover: The silly sow should not have put naked pics of herself on your phone....and your mate should not have broadcast them all over the school.... Ah but we all know what its like when in love and trying new things;) We dont think about future at the time ;)

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Edited by: Patrycja19 Sep 2, 10, 03:09 #15

flowman47:

until my course mate saw them n my fone and he made a pic slideshow
and now it's all over school.

you need to kick your friends arse for that one, with a friend like that who needs enemys?
he knew the consequences and you of course should have deleted them if you know your
friends use your phone.

she shouldnt have taken those pictures, but your equally as guilty if you dont do something
about it , especially since you allowed your friend to take them and make a slide show.
WHO DOES THAT??

are you that weak you cant kick your friends arse and tell him not to touch your shyt
or you will knock him into next week? WTF be a man dude, especially if you want to keep
your girlfriend, that piece of crap friend you have doesnt deserve to have friends if hes
making slide shows of his friends naked girlfriends.. what a sad case of stupidity.

on all parts!!

wildrover:

Your best bet is to post the pictures here on the forum , and we can advise you better...

what if that was your daughter wildrover??

keep your eyeballs in your head, you are supposed to be in love and moving to russia
and you need not look at some other young mans girlfriend.

Ps I have two girls, I would be devastated if this happened, so lets use common sense and
stop thinking with the head between your legs.

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,143 Joined: Jun 7, 07 ♂	Sep 2, 10, 03:39 #16
Patrycja19: what if that was your daughter wildrover?? No daughter of mine would grow up unaware of the possible results of putting naked pics of herself on somebodies phone... I am sure its very embarrasing for the girl . but its not the end of the world , she will get over it , and perhaps will be a little wiser in future....

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Edited by: A J Sep 2, 10, 09:13 #17

flowman47:

What should i do?

Defend her honour, aswell as your own, and rough him up really bad. What you've done was pretty stupid. You should never, ever let anyone go through your phone, especially not when you know it may contain intimate details about the ones you communicate with. Okay, maybe you didn't know about the pictures, but what about messages? Phone numbers? Private details? Personal information! What he did is unforgivable. Rough him up, and make him apologize to your girlfriend somehow. (Drag him if you have to!) I'm not saying it'll fix anything, and it may get you into even more trouble, but if you're serious about her then that's the least you can do.

:S

AmathystThreads: 30 Posts: 3,898 Joined: Nov 10, 06 ♀	Sep 2, 10, 14:28 #18
Oh well boys will be boys..Im sure once she gets over the embarrassment she'll be fine...No need to kick his a$$, just ask him to tell your girlfriend, may I suggest he takes some flowers by way of an apology...This might go someway to rescuing your relationship.

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Edited by: southern Sep 2, 10, 14:32 #19

flowman47:

my girlfriend took naked pictures of herself with my fone

So you leave your phone unattended?

flowman47:

until my course mate saw them n my fone

This phone seems to have public use.
Maybe your friend took the photos as well while you were talking on your phone?
I suffer the same case unaware of the hot photos relying in my phone.What dirty tricks can happen to me.I think sb who hated me planted them.

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Sep 2, 10, 17:40 #20

Amathyst:

No need to kick his a$$,

if hes taking libertys like this, he needs his arse kicked, friends dont do these things
if he was just looking at them for himself that would be different, because maybe he
had some sort of feelings for her, but he made a slide show and published them.

and this guys asking us what he should do? sad, my brothers would have been on
a hunting expedtion.. thats just what someone who really cares does. he doesnt
***** out and go online to a website asking for help. its a no brainer what should be
done.

And flowers dont repair the damage, there have been girls who have hung themselfs
over embarassing things like this, she did them for her boyfriend and she shouldnt have
but when you think you can trust someone and you care and love them , hey we all do
stupid shyt, but its not her fault, he should be making every effort to protect her if he
loves her that much... no excuses PERIOD...

if I had a son, i would be teaching him all of this, you never let something like this happen
to someone you love and excuse your friends actions.

she didnt consent to this, I am sure there are laws, I would legally take action against
the friend, since hes the one who did such a stupid act, lessons should be taught!!!

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Sep 2, 10, 17:53 #21

Didn't this guy already post this somewhere else? I seem to recall already answering this...

When will kids these days realise that nudie pics are never safe and that they will come back to haunt them at some point? They are never safe as people fight and break up... phones get stolen...

Not to mention the mindset which takes such pics in the first place... Kids have no shame or sense of morals anymore. Rather than being known as nice or smart they all want to be seen as 'hot' and 'sexy'. They see shedding their clothes and promiscuous sexuality as a route to popularity. It's like they all want to live in a music video world. I blame the trashy Hip-hop 'culture' which they've had so aggressively marketed at them...

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Sep 2, 10, 17:57 #22

trener zolwia:

Kids have no shame or sense of morals anymore. Rather than being known as nice or smart they all want to be seen as 'hot' and 'sexy'.

parents should step in more, but they seemt to be too busy so kids raise themselves... sad...
tv promotes the sexy/hot style...

trener zolwia:

When will kids these days realise that nudie pics are never safe and that they will come back to haunt them at some point?

sexting is just in...

:/

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Sep 2, 10, 18:00 #23

trener zolwia

Not to mention the mindset which takes such pics in the first place... Kids have no shame or sense of morals anymore. Rather than being known as nice or smart they all want to be seen as 'hot' and 'sexy'. They see shedding their clothes and promiscuous sexuality as a route to popularity. It's like they all want to live in a music video world. I blame the trashy Hip-hop 'culture' which they've had so aggressively marketed at them...

Kids in previous times were morally superior? It's no different now that it was before. The generations are always blaming each other. Nothings changed.

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Edited by: A J Sep 2, 10, 18:10 #24

Amathyst:

No need to kick his a$$, just ask him to tell your girlfriend,

I understand your way of thinking, but I wouldn't be surprised if his girlfriend will get the impression that he and his friend are still the best buddies ever after what he did, which will probably make things worse. (She could think he showed everyone her pictures, and uses his friend as an excuse.) I'm sorry, but friends don't pull these kind of tricks, and friends don't ruin your relationships like that. If they do, they should know there's going to be trouble. Boys will be boys indeed. There are a few things in a man's life that even a boy shouldn't accept, and this is definitely one of those things.

;)

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Sep 2, 10, 18:35 #25

Meathead:

Kids in previous times were morally superior? It's no different now that it was before. The generations are always blaming each other. Nothings changed.

No. Times have indeed changed. Very much so. At one time parents were concerned with Rock&Roll and Elvis wiggling his hips. Today kids see full-blown soft porn and violence in nearly every Hip-hop video. There used to be the rare song lyric alluding to drug use or sex, now they openly rap about killing white cops and bangin' hoes. It seems those concerns of the prior generation have fully materialized. And this change is being reflected in society by the kids behaviors... Not to personally insult anyone here but a person would have to be blind to say things haven't changed. And for the worse.

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Sep 2, 10, 18:42 #26

Meathead:

Kids in previous times were morally superior?

Example : woodstock.

A J:

I understand your way of thinking

I do as well, but red lights come on for me, I think there is alot more to this
and I agree with you AJ, a man would take care of business, friends just dont
take phones and make slideshows, how long was he playing with his phone?

I think he was involved, now hes losing his girl and he cant kick his friends butt
cause hes bigger then him , so whats the next best thing?

go to a POLISH forum and ask/beg for help.. what a crock.

man up or lay in your bed.

Marek11111Threads: 49 Posts: 1,859 Joined: Aug 6, 09 MEMBER ♂	Sep 2, 10, 18:47 #27
Find someone else to take pic’s and post it again then you can do blame game “ it was not me “

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Edited by: A J Sep 2, 10, 18:52 #28

trener zolwia:

Not to personally insult anyone here but a person would have to be blind to say things haven't changed. And for the worse.

Oh, I see. The second world war so great. No, a lot of things have changed for the better, and the younger generation is actually less violent then all the previous generations. Soft porn? Where? Could you show me? Bangin' hoes? What's the difference between an old-school Catholic who does all of that behind closed doors (With children even!) and your average youth-of-today who isn't ashamed to say he or she has an healthy interest in the opposite gender? Right! I forgot, some of the fossiles here on PF still seem to think sex is disgusting! My bad! Serious, it's not as bad as you make it out to be. The media focuses on negative news, which makes it look like everything is so much worse, but in reality, things got less violent than they were when you were young. And about the music and the media? Well, of course there's a world of difference between talking about something and actually doing something.

;)

pgtxThreads: 48 Posts: 6,269 Joined: Feb 14, 09 ♀ [Moderator]	Edited by: pgtx Sep 2, 10, 18:53 #29
Patrycja19: what a crock. got annoyed too?! lol

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Sep 2, 10, 19:01 #30

trener zolwia:

alone.

yup!

pgtx:

parents should step in more

I would agree, but this guy is 22 years old, so his friend is same age, which says they
are old enough to know better.

same as the girl, she might be 18 or older, old enough to know better,. but legally
I would think some type of action could be done .

trener zolwia:

phones get stolen...

true, and with that I would have prob had different response if he said , well he stole it
but I beat the shyt out of him , and she still wont come back.

then I would have said, well, give it time, this was a big deal, its hard to face
people with that kind of embarassment , especially if your in college , even high school
cause kids are extremely cruel.

BUT: she is prob very embarassed, hurt and who knows what. yes, it wasnt smart to
send those to him, he is equally stupid ( as we all observed) for not doing what he should have.

A J:

Defend her honour, aswell as your own,

well said, thats what a man does!!

if this was the other way around, same applies..

private photos should stay private.

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