"How many sexual partners I had" - what does this question imply?

time	Mar 4, 08, 01:13 #1
So my vacation fling who was from poland asked me how many sexual partners I have had since him? What does this mean? What is he trying to find out? Does it mean he somewhat cared or trying to find out if I am a *****.

KowalskiThreads: 12 Posts: 619 Joined: Sep 13, 06 ♂	Mar 4, 08, 01:30 #2
Staying on positive attitude makes me say that he likely wants to know if you still care about him. Suggested answer: since I met you I can't even imagine doing it with someone else.

DzhaklinThreads: 3 Posts: 190 Joined: Dec 3, 07 ♀	Mar 8, 08, 01:36 #3
Maybe he's just curious. I mean my boyfriend asked me that when we first started dating and I don't think he was trying to figure out if I was a slut he was just curious.

Phils_333Threads: - Posts: 7 Joined: Sep 30, 07 ♀	Mar 8, 08, 03:45 #4
i think...its all about hygiene..the possibilities of contacting sexual transmitted diseases?

FrankThreads: 27 Posts: 1,342 Joined: Aug 14, 06 ♂	Mar 8, 08, 05:10 #5
Yup...he wants to pigeon hole u....... Just him = marriage material, deffo take home to mum Him and less than 3 others = ok, but might take you home to mum Him and 30 others = confirmed slut Him and 100+ = retired ******** still might consider marrying you. PS To all the male sluts boasters and bed post notchers.....you're only a satyr....:)

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Mar 8, 08, 05:15 #6

salah wrote:

am black sexual sudanes boy seeking married from uorop

come again i didn't quite understand that as you lack the communicative skills needed as well as the vocabulary to express your feelings and needs :)

Dzhaklin wrote:

Maybe he's just curious. I mean my boyfriend asked me that when we first started dating and I don't think he was trying to figure out if I was a slut he was just curious.

any girl that i have been with in some sort of serious relationship has always asked the question 'how many sexual partners have you had' i don't mind the questino at all and just answer honestly. I don't even need to know how many they have had its not important to me.

time

Mar 8, 08, 23:18 #7

Kowalski wrote:

Staying on positive attitude makes me say that he likely wants to know if you still care about him. Suggested answer: since I met you I can't even imagine doing it with someone else.

WOW, I wish I had thought of this at the time. LOL

Dzhaklin wrote:

Maybe he's just curious. I mean my boyfriend asked me that when we first started dating and I don't think he was trying to figure out if I was a slut he was just curious.

I was indicating the question after the fact that we have already slept together and live across the world from eachother. Like why would someone want to know that after?

Phils_333 wrote:

i think...its all about hygiene..the possibilities of contacting sexual transmitted diseases?

very possible.. but unlikely cause i dont think i will be seeing him again

Frank wrote:

Yup...he wants to pigeon hole u......

what does pigeon hole mean? not familiar with that lingo

tornado2007 wrote:

any girl that i have been with in some sort of serious relationship has always asked the question 'how many sexual partners have you had' i don't mind the questino at all and just answer honestly. I don't even need to know how many they have had its not important to me.

yea in the beginning, i think this question pertains to see if someone get around. but after who cares, its already happened.

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Apr 8, 08, 11:16 #8

/\ Wow, you have some serious natural charm huh? /\

Anyway, in my experience this is a no-win question if you give any kind of answer that has a figure in it.

Instead i would turn it around and play on his natural stupid male machismo, tell him:

"I'm not a slut if thats what you think! (wait for him to grovel a little, then...) Tell you what, i wont tell you if you dont tell me, i'd only be hurt by the number of girls a handsome guy like you must have seen in my absence...

You'll have stumped him at his own game and to reply would mean he would have to admit to probably being a virgin before he met you. And having spent every night since re-living the situation in his head (and his hand).

I have to go now, I feel like i'm betraying the Brotherhood of Man...

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,412 Joined: Aug 29, 07 ♂	Apr 8, 08, 11:48 #9
what do you think that means?

F15guyThreads: 1 Posts: 230 Joined: Jan 14, 08 ♂	Apr 8, 08, 12:00 #10
Kemaleon: I feel like i'm betraying the Brotherhood of Man... You have betrayed the brotherhood. You are a snake. Better stay away from the next 100 meetings, or ............

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Edited by: Kemaleon Apr 8, 08, 22:16 #11

Forgive me!!!!

incidently Time, what was the answer?...

(he he.... what?)

Frank:

Yup...he wants to pigeon hole u......

Time:

what does pigeon hole mean? not familiar with that lingo

Ha ha!, i wish i'd noticed that before! a million joke opportunities wasted...

(Basically means 'to be judged' i suppose, to be labelled a slut in this instance. I tried to find a better definition for you, but Urban Dictionary wasnt quite accurate today)

polishgirltx	Apr 8, 08, 23:36 #12
Kemaleon: Forgive me!!!! Kemaleon, why do you feel so bad about that?? :) we all would like to turn back time and change out answers... ;)

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Apr 9, 08, 01:34 #13

time:

I was indicating the question after the fact that we have already slept together and live across the world from eachother. Like why would someone want to know that after?

I'm curious, too. How many have you had since him? just kidding.

It doesn't sound like he's trying to find out if you're a *****. He probably has feelings for you. If he didn't care he wouldn't bother asking. It's hard for us to say since we don't know how he said it.

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Edited by: Arise_St_George Apr 9, 08, 05:04 #14

I hope you lied to him. I hope you didn't say 16! I personally wouldn't want to know how many people my girlfriend had slept with or WHO she slept with. It would personally **** me off. Whenever my ex asked me how many people I slept with I laughed and told her to mind her own business. Inside of them I don't think they WANT to know. You tell them the truth then you'll have a sulking and moody partner for the rest of the night or maybe even the next day too.

PolsonThreads: 15 Posts: 2,812 Joined: May 9, 07 ♂	Apr 9, 08, 05:56 #15
time: asked me how many sexual partners I have had since him? What if you had answered "Sexual partners ?? Yuk, what's that ?! I'll never have ones ! I had you, and that's way too much" ? ^^

Arise_St_GeorgeThreads: 15 Posts: 572 Joined: Mar 8, 08 ♂	Apr 9, 08, 06:00 #16
Polson: What if you had answered "Sexual partners ?? Yuk, what's that ?! I'll never have ones ! I had you, and that's way too much" ? ^^ Who knows? I personally would think you'd be out the door and a slap to go with it..

KemaleonThreads: 4 Posts: 137 Joined: Mar 23, 08 ♂	Apr 9, 08, 06:07 #17
how bout this?: "Nah, ever since YOU i been into girls!"

SvenskiThreads: 3 Posts: 212 Joined: Mar 20, 08 ♂	Edited by: Svenski Apr 9, 08, 17:09 #18
Kemaleon: Urban Dictionary wasnt quite accurate today lol i saw that too

F15guyThreads: 1 Posts: 230 Joined: Jan 14, 08 ♂	Edited by: F15guy Apr 9, 08, 18:03 #19
"I've lost count." would have been the best answer, in my opinion. It was really none of his business at that stage in your relationship.

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Apr 9, 08, 18:53 #20

F15guy:

"I've lost count." would have been the best answer, in my opinion. It was really none of his business at that stage in your relationship.

Nah the best answer would be "none of your business" for both genders in a joking manner, yet serious. Yes the bottom lip would come out but she/he wouldn't go silent on you as long as he/she would if you had told the truth. Who really wants to know how many people your partner has actually had sex with? Think about it.

MaliThreads: - Posts: 333 Joined: Mar 3, 08 ♀	Apr 9, 08, 19:01 #21
Polson: "Sexual partners ?? Yuk, what's that ?! I'll never have ones ! I had you, and that's way too much" LOL! Guys are all about having their egos stroked :)

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,604 Joined: Aug 10, 06 ♀	Edited by: krysia Apr 9, 08, 21:19 #22
It is an important question to some people because that's how they put value on you, are you an easy slut who can't keep her legs together or do you keep yourself respectful.

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Edited by: Goonie Apr 9, 08, 21:24 #23

Unfortunately, I used to ask my exs the same question. I believe it was all because I was insecure. I've been cheated on in the past and just wanted to know for some reason or another. But as of recently I don't care, if I like the girl it doesn't matter whos shes been with, all that matters is that she's with me :) It took me a while to figure it out but that question is a sign of bad news. Move on :)

Plenty of fish in the sea :D

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Apr 10, 08, 00:30 #24

Maybe he wanted to compare competitively.

Maybe if it was he who split with you, he was looking to justify his decision by wishing you to admit to partners.

Or maybe it is a much nicer reason as previously suggested - he wants to gage if you still care for him as he cares for you?

I'd only answer at all if I was still in love with him, in which case my answer would most likely be 'none, I haven't quite moved on yet :('

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07 ♀	Apr 10, 08, 02:54 #25
I say never ask a question if there is a possibility you are not going to like the anwer to it...personally I would never ask a guy, simply because like Goonie pointed out it doesnt really matter, you are with them for a reason, reason being you like them so what does it matter if they slept with 1 or 10 people before you...

bajkaThreads: 1 Posts: 105 Joined: Mar 7, 08 ♂	Apr 10, 08, 03:02 #26
ShelleyS: so what does it matter if they slept with 1 or 10 people before you As long as you call out the correct name in the moment of hot passion, you'd be ok, right ? Can you remember all their names ?

miranda

Apr 10, 08, 05:40 #27

Goonie:

Unfortunately, I used to ask my exs the same question. I believe it was all because I was insecure. I've been cheated on in the past and just wanted to know for some reason or another. But as of recently I don't care, if I like the girl it doesn't matter whos shes been with, all that matters is that she's with me :) It took me a while to figure it out but that question is a sign of bad news. Move on :)Plenty of fish in the sea :D

good post

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07 ♀	Apr 10, 08, 06:37 #28
bajka: As long as you call out the correct name in the moment of hot passion, you'd be ok, right ? Even with a limited number of partners, there is always a chance to use the wrong name.

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Edited by: bajka Apr 10, 08, 07:53 #29

ShelleyS:

Even with a limited number of partners, there is always a chance to use the wrong name

Heh, i was at a charity dinner / ball / bash event and remember someone on our table who brought a partner, long story short, he obviously forgor to mention that he was no longer seeing miss x , instead miss y was with him....... the name place still showed miss x

you can only cringe thinking how much sh*t he got from everyone else when the penny dropped..... well when somebody asked so miss x what do you do ?

"i'm sorry, are you talking to me.......?" it got better from then on....

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,604 Joined: Aug 10, 06 ♀	Apr 10, 08, 08:26 #30
ShelleyS: so what does it matter if they slept with 1 or 10 people before you... To some people it does.

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