Meeting Polish girlfriend family

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Jan 10, 11, 22:38 #1

Hi

Ok, posted to this board a year or so ago. Well it looks like its on.

I've been invited to Southern Poland by my Polish 'Girlfriend'. There's a big age gap between us, but we've talked it over and although we are both pretty scared the invite is on.

We knew each in the UK, sort of dated, now she wants to move onto a different level so I've been invited over for the weekend - I've no idea what is going to happen or where things are going to go from there.

I've got a feeling I'll be introduced to the parents.

We are both Catholics. . .so that's not an issue.

Any advice?

SeanBMThreads: 41 Posts: 8,727 Joined: Mar 10, 08 ♂	Jan 10, 11, 22:51 #2
Albanaich: Any advice? Learn some polite phrases in Polish.

YuostitiaThreads: 2 Posts: 6 Joined: Jan 11, 11 ♀	Jan 11, 11, 22:07 #3
Yes, Learn a few words and do not be scared!!! If her parents see she is happy with you they will not mind!

ChrisPolandThreads: 3 Posts: 143 Joined: Oct 15, 09 ♀	Jan 12, 11, 17:53 #4
I hope you like to eat ;)

irishlodzThreads: 2 Posts: 115 Joined: Oct 19, 09 ♂	Jan 12, 11, 22:52 #5
don't touch beer. you will be force fed vodka so just stick to juice (they drink them separately)! polish women LOVE flowers, so them for the mother. a bottle of pure vodka for the father from the airport or some good scotch. try all the food, no matter how bad. You may discover the joys of pickled herring, hhhmmmmm tasty.

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Jan 18, 11, 22:51 #6

I'm from Scotland - the last drinking party I had with a bunch of Poles I was pretty much last man standing :-) I know the routine (and all about Biba) .

I definitely impressed my Polish hosts. "You Scots drink like Poles"

No self respecting Scot contaminates Whisky with anything other than water.. . . .

I've kicked about with Poles and Lithuanians in the UK (even as a child) so I'm not completely unfamiliar with the culture.

I'm just not familar with the family environment.

And I know flowers impress. . . . . the whole attitude changed when I sent her flowers.

We are both quite 'high' about meeting again

warszawskiThreads: 60 Posts: 2,389 Joined: May 21, 10 ♂	Jan 19, 11, 00:19 #7
Albanaich: We are both quite 'high' about meeting again So what is the age difference?

OlafThreads: 8 Posts: 1,369 Joined: Oct 29, 09 ♂	Jan 19, 11, 11:43 #8
Don't go there without good bouquet of flowers for the mother and a good bottle of vodka for the father. It is like a traditional pay-off for the parents;). It doesn't have to be a bad thing: any mother will look at you better when given flowers and if the father opens the bottle to drink with you then you have made the best impression:)

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Jan 19, 11, 12:08 #9

About 15 - 20 years. I don't go into the details of asking a lady her age. She's in her mid 30's I'm in my mid 50's - I know for sure her younger sister is 34,

We met in a 'normal' way (not online dating or anything like that) we used to travel on business to the same small town, used the same hotel, met up, used to go walking, site seeing, the cinema, dancing to fill the evenings.. . . . we got to be friends.

We didn't think about it as a 'relationship' (the age gap) till I was posted elsewhere and she went back to Poland. .. . . . she's moved away from 'we are just friends' position we started out with - hence the invite.

AlbanaichThreads: 4 Posts: 45 Joined: Nov 6, 09 ♂	Feb 19, 11, 23:28 #10
Looks like its definitely on. . . . . .. She's borrowed an apartment (she stays with her parents) and has started calling me Kotek. . .. . .. . I'm packing Viagra :-)

rybnikThreads: 29 Posts: 1,234 Joined: Jan 16, 11 ♂	Feb 20, 11, 03:12 #11
Albanaich: and has started calling me Kotek. . .. . .. . when she's calling you "misiu" then you've sealed the deal. :)) don't forget the "polish bow" when greeting. It's not as deep as a Japanese bow. The flowers and scotch are also excellent ideas. Good luck! (I'm especially rooting for you seeing as you're my age)

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Feb 20, 11, 03:33 #12

I used to date a polish girl from southern poland also. I also remember meeting her parents for the first time.

I got her dad a bottle of vodka and her mom some flowers as a gesture for letting me stay in the house. Just be polite and confident. Offer to go to the pub with her dad and play some billiards or something. You will have to drink vodka... just get over it. Give her dad a firm handshake and look him in the eye, you can do the weird polish alternating cheek kiss thing if you want with her mom.

Also if her mom is anything like my ex's mom... she'll ask you if you are hungry every 5 minutes. Just eat, it makes them happy.

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER ♂	Feb 20, 11, 03:52 #13
My first time was a babtism of fire, family wedding, didn't know so much Polish and I was in the house with her folks and 3 brothers... Be confident in yourself, friendly and treat them as you would your own extended family (comfortable yet formal if that makes sense).

AlbanaichThreads: 4 Posts: 45 Joined: Nov 6, 09 ♂	Mar 5, 11, 22:26 #14
I've booked the flight and things are organised - but its become an order of magnistude more scary. She's an ex nun and I'm her first boyfriend. . . . . . . . Yeah. . . .It doesn't seem real to me either. . . . .but its easily believable given her behaviour.

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,188 Joined: Jun 7, 07 ♂	Mar 6, 11, 01:44 #15
If it feels right , then it probably is... Do not worry about it , it will be fine...Scots seem to fit in quite well in Poland , her folks will love you... My ex girlfriend was from cape wrath , a real highlander , my Polish friends thought she was great , and spoke better English than English people they had met...

AlbanaichThreads: 4 Posts: 45 Joined: Nov 6, 09 ♂	Mar 6, 11, 16:34 #16
Cape Wrath????? Durness? Kinlochbervie? It's in my work patch :-) I cover from Gairloch to Tonque

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Mar 6, 11, 20:44 #17
Albanaich: Looks like its definitely on. . . . . .. She's borrowed an apartment (she stays with her parents) and has started calling me Kotek. . .. . .. . I'm packing Viagra :-) Keep us posted and I hope you get what your looking for

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,188 Joined: Jun 7, 07 ♂	Mar 6, 11, 23:29 #18
Albanaich: Kinlochbervie? She went to school there...

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Edited by: Midas Mar 9, 11, 01:54 #19

She's an ex nun and I'm her first boyfriend. . . . . . . . - have you mayhaps considered the possibility that your Polish hottie is feeding You a bunch of bollocks?

A number of catholic Polish women I've encountered always fed their UK boyo's the same line ( you are my second, third, blah, blah, blah ), despite having more mileage than the Orient Express. That bit about being a nun is new, but I suppose falls well within described behaviour.

warszawskiThreads: 60 Posts: 2,389 Joined: May 21, 10 ♂	Mar 9, 11, 12:18 #20
Albanaich: Yeah. . . .It doesn't seem real to me either. . . . .but its easily believable given her behaviour. Put the viagra back in the draw, until the wedding night.

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Mar 13, 11, 01:05 #21

Hi

I wasn't fed that line, but it was clear from dating her that she didn't understand any of the formalities, which was nice at the time because I wasn't planning on anything emotional or sexual.

In the real world 35 year old women (of whatever nationality) have learned that even 55 year old men will have certain hopes and expectations :-)

This one didn't. It just didn't occur to her, interest only seemed to come when we were apart.

I haven't been to confession in 10 years, and I'm pretty sure I've way more to confess than she has, but she has mentioned the church and confession on numerous occasions. She also tries to avoid talking about her past life. There are all sorts of other clues, like having absolutely no dress sense or feminine affectations and an interest in meditation.

If she was the kind to feed me bollocks - she'd feed me it, instead she just completely avoids any discussion of her past history.

She doesn't behave as if she knows much about men, she doesn't dress to impress, she's got a big gap in her life, and she's only started studying medicine in her 30's.

Anyway - all will be clear in about 10 days time :-)

Albanaich

AlbanaichThreads: 4 Posts: 45 Joined: Nov 6, 09 ♂	Mar 22, 11, 22:20 #22
2 days before flying out the goal posts have suddenly been moved. . . . . .instead of meeting up in Krakow, she's asked to come to her home town, Mielec. . . . . It's not entirely unexpected. I had a feeling that I wasn't going to avoid the family thing. Where do we go from here?

warszawskiThreads: 60 Posts: 2,389 Joined: May 21, 10 ♂	Mar 23, 11, 15:39 #23
Albanaich: I had a feeling that I wasn't going to avoid the family thing. Normally you would want to meet the family to see what she comes from.

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Mar 23, 11, 16:01 #24

I wasn't avoiding anything, I'm just amused that she did what I sort of expected her to do :-)

She waited till I was committed to coming to Poland and knew I wasn't going to back out and then came up with the 'if you want to see me you'll have to meet my parents thing'.

It didn't bother me either way, I expected something of the sort, and I do like the delicious female maneourving. It makes me feel wanted (even if I saw the game play way ahead).

Women are the same the world over.

AlbanaichThreads: 4 Posts: 45 Joined: Nov 6, 09 ♂	Mar 29, 11, 10:11 #25
Wierd, but relatively succesful weekend. I've never tried to make love to a nun before - its different, makes you feel like a child molester. She simply had no idea what to do. . . . . . .

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,188 Joined: Jun 7, 07 ♂	Mar 29, 11, 10:58 #26
Albanaich: its different, makes you feel like a child molester. Hopefully not..! she may be a bit innocent , but she is a consenting adult , nothing you should feel guilty about....

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,404 Joined: Apr 1, 06 ♂ [Moderator]	Mar 29, 11, 20:34 #27
Albanaich: Wierd, but relatively succesful weekend. I've never tried to make love to a nun before - its different, makes you feel like a child molester. She simply had no idea what to do. . . . . . . I'm sure that she'll be pleased to know that you've announced this on a worldwide forum.

delphiandomineThreads: 42 Posts: 9,954 Joined: Nov 25, 08 ♂ [Suspended]	Mar 29, 11, 21:08 #28
Wroclaw: I'm sure that she'll be pleased to know that you've announced this on a worldwide forum. Very romantic, I'd say.

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,188 Joined: Jun 7, 07 ♂	Mar 29, 11, 23:48 #29
The video is on you tube....

rybnikThreads: 29 Posts: 1,234 Joined: Jan 16, 11 ♂	Mar 30, 11, 03:51 #30
wildrover: Do not worry about it , it will be fine...Scots seem to fit in quite well in Poland , her folks will love you you're so right! I went to school with a Scot; the Poles loved him(so did we Yanks) :)

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