I need your opinion ladies - Polish girl very friendly with her ex.

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Mar 31, 09, 00:16 #1

hi, everyone. i met this cute polish girl that i do like. but she is still very much in contact with her ex. they sms eachother everyday, meet like twice a week. watch tv shows together and even cook together ( when they meet) and i find this to be really weird. they were together for 2 yrs but they broke up 1 year ago. but its like they are still together. she tells me that they don't have sex and its just being used to eachother so much cos they lived together up until when i met her. she said that there were no feelings involved, its just 2 friends hanging out. we just broke up cos of this.
Ladies is this normal? cos it just doesn't feel right to me

pgtxThreads: 48 Posts: 6,269 Joined: Feb 14, 09 ♀ [Moderator]	Mar 31, 09, 00:27 #2
bigsav: Ladies is this normal? no... bigsav: cos it just doesn't feel right to me it sure must be uncomfortable...

k98_man	Mar 31, 09, 05:05 #3
Technically it could be true, but it's hard to digest as a guy I'm sure. Sure you have to trust your partner, but that is one uncomfortable situation, I must agree.

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,105 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER ♀	Mar 31, 09, 06:02 #4
bigsav: she said that there were no feelings involved, its just 2 friends hanging out. Sounds very fishy to me... Honk if you love PF :)

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Mar 31, 09, 09:23 #5

It's hard to believe they are just friends cause if you break up with somebody, there is a good reason for that.
Maybe the ex is a control freak and he's trying to keep her close cause he still has some feelings for her. Maybe she's just too blind to see...
Some Polish guys like to be in control that way (I know from my own experience - my ex was stalking me when we broke up and I threw him out of the apartment). He's playing all nice but there could be a certain reason for that.
Or it could be her. Maybe she wants to keep him close...
Did you try to hang out with them? I think the best way would be to see how they act when they r with each other. The body language says it all!

sueswalkiesThreads: 2 Posts: 35 Joined: Jan 28, 09 ♀	Mar 31, 09, 10:13 #6
bigsav: Ladies is this normal? cos it just doesn't feel right to me Your right, thats not right. You got a lucky escape. Please don't waste any more time on this little girl she is playing games,

hfmThreads: - Posts: 30 Joined: Mar 31, 09 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 10:15 #7
Man, the most difficult thing, for star a new relationship with someone, is that she still has contact with the ex, sounds to me a sex. walk away, and try find someone, with the heart available....

steer4omdarearThreads: 2 Posts: 14 Joined: Mar 9, 09 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 11:59 #8
hey my ex the same when she in ireland and her ex in poland they writing to each other all the time and wouldent hide it!!!! really annoyin i tink she lik my ex love attention me my ex really close it dont fell we broke up cos always doing ting wit her.... she broke up wit me cos she said it wouldent work!!! it really annoyin i know hz ya fell

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Mar 31, 09, 12:09 #9

steer4omdarear:

steer4omdarear

Maybe she couldn't understand you..

steer4omdarear:

hey my ex the same when she in ireland and her ex in poland they writing to each other all the time and wouldent hide it!!!! really annoyin i tink she lik my ex love attention me my ex really close it dont fell we broke up cos always doing ting wit her.... she broke up wit me cos she said it wouldent work!!! it really annoyin i know hz ya fell

bambino7Threads: 3 Posts: 19 Joined: Mar 2, 09 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 12:25 #10
when there was fire, there are still ashes! and may be those ashes are still hot!

steer4omdarearThreads: 2 Posts: 14 Joined: Mar 9, 09 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 12:49 #11
ShelleyS: Maybe she couldn't understand you.. what you mean by that??

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07 ♀	Edited by: ShelleyS Mar 31, 09, 12:56 #12
steer4omdarear: what you mean by that?? It was just an observation from the way you write, it's pigeon English and I did say "maybe"

steer4omdarearThreads: 2 Posts: 14 Joined: Mar 9, 09 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 13:14 #13
ShelleyS: It was just an observation from the way you write, it's pigeon English and I did say "maybe" since when does person break up ya ya for da way you write english on a blog!!!

bigsavThreads: 8 Posts: 15 Joined: Sep 19, 07 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 16:22 #14
she is 24. so she isn't a little girl anymore. plus this isn't her first relationship. she is had like 6 boyfriends before this.

RandalThreads: 1 Posts: 758 Joined: Feb 14, 09 ♂	Edited by: Randal Mar 31, 09, 17:14 #15
bigsav: Polish girl very friendly with her ex I suppose it is possible the whole thing could be innocent, but not very likely. Sounds like you’re getting played, my man.

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07 ♀	Mar 31, 09, 17:20 #16
bigsav: she is 24. so she isn't a little girl anymore. plus this isn't her first relationship. she is had like 6 boyfriends before this. It could be that she likes the familiarity, it might not be as sinister as you think.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,900 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 19:11 #17
bigsav: I need your opinion ladies - Polish girl very friendly with her ex. If you kiss her and has a sweet taste,you should maybe kiss her nose instead.

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,410 Joined: Aug 29, 07 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 20:45 #18
don't waste your time and heart. plenty of fish in the sea.

WroclawThreads: 74 Posts: 7,276 Joined: Apr 1, 06 ♂ [Moderator]	Mar 31, 09, 21:31 #19
bigsav: we just broke up cos of this. And how did she react ? If she wasn't bothered, you have your answer.

RandalThreads: 1 Posts: 758 Joined: Feb 14, 09 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 21:35 #20
Wroclaw: And how did she react ? If she wasn't bothered Somehow I don't think this chick will threaten suicide like the chick from that other thread.

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 12 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂	Mar 31, 09, 23:14 #21
I would say that the probability that this will result in a lot of pain is big.

aliciaThreads: - Posts: 13 Joined: Feb 23, 09 ♀	Apr 1, 09, 11:28 #22
bigsav: its just 2 friends hanging out. we just broke up cos of this. Well, that says for itself. She didn't mind breaking up with you? That means she's not really in love with you. Being friends with ex is normal for some, but if I had a boyfriend who had a problem with this I would limit meetings with my ex for sure, cause that shows real priorities..

RandalThreads: 1 Posts: 758 Joined: Feb 14, 09 ♂	Apr 1, 09, 16:35 #23
alicia: Being friends with ex is normal for some Being friends is one thing but what has been described here is not normal.

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Apr 2, 09, 03:27 #24

well, frankly saying there is nothing bad with staying in friendly relation with your ex... but obviously there are some borders.. what i mean is that the expanation which you gf gave you that this is all about being get used to each other is at least strange one.
She an stay in friendlt touch with her ex but god she does not hae to give him s much time,,, it looks like she is still inlove with him. I know hat its not the ansear you wish to hear but it definitely looks like that ... so open your eyes look around ause there is still many nice girls left who are wort of your interests.

good luck

RandalThreads: 1 Posts: 758 Joined: Feb 14, 09 ♂	Apr 2, 09, 03:36 #25
“Riiiiing!” “Oh, hi honey. I’m gonna be staying at my ex boyfriend’s place tonight. We’ll be sleeping in the same bed together too. No worries though, we’re just friends. What? Don’t your trust me? What is wrong with you? B-bye.” Click.

PomorzankaThreads: 1 Posts: 39 Joined: Feb 18, 09 ♀	Apr 4, 09, 01:45 #26
Exactly, I agree with others. She has still feelings for him. Even she don't agree with this but he is still worthy person for her. This in not good sittuation. Is like he is always bewteen you and her. Don't be wonder if she will offer you something in 3 person. LOL

LAGirlThreads: 13 Posts: 598 Joined: Apr 11, 08 ♀	Apr 8, 09, 03:28 #27
No ts not normal. she is cheating on you buddy once with the ex always she goes back. find yourself someone better good luck.

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Apr 9, 09, 03:27 #28

She could be like me. I don't have any girlfriends. I still talk to my ex's. my Husband does not mind. He talks to them too. I have always been that way. I was brought up a tom boy and I find hanging out with girls hard, I'm not like them and I always feel "like I need to run from them". So I became a truck Driver and now have hundreds of male friends. My poor husband found this very hard to deal with in the beging, but now understands that is who i am.

hfmThreads: - Posts: 30 Joined: Mar 31, 09 ♂	Apr 9, 09, 10:43 #29
Man i tell you what to do, have fun with her for a week o couple weeks, go party, have a lot sex, and than walk away, like this you got at least something, because is clear she trick you....

bluebirdThreads: - Posts: 41 Joined: Oct 19, 08 ♂	Apr 10, 09, 11:37 #30
Dude, She is not relationship material if she is doing this. hfm is right.

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