FilAm: Hello guys :-) I need serious answers to this, please. So we're in love, about to be engaged (As he says) after a month of knowing each other, 24/7 talking, spending time together, etc.. However, I chose not to sleep with him (He is Polish but has been in the U.S. more than 1/2 his life), not until after the marriage - This has always been by principle. He told me he's "going to wait forever" but I'm afraid, with how super nice he's been treating me, I might just give in, omg!!! It's so difficult because he is really so romantic and the kindest man I have ever met! Are most Polish men so 'spiritually' romantic? He made me fall for him ... I feel I can tell him anything under the sun and he will still have undying admiration for me just as well. He seems to really want a productive future for both of us as he shares plans and ideas a lot on how we will live our lives together. How will my Polish Misiu react or what would he think if I start to keep a distance first so I can 'hold up' until well, marriage. Likewise, he could also just be 'leading me on' to marriage to get me to bed ... I thank you in advance for entertaining my Qs.
So what's the latest? Hope thing are going well. I wouldn't make any assumptions on what Polish men are like but rather on how the particular person is. We're all so different...
A friend of mine has an "artistic"profession, he's a musician. He is a base player and drummer in a band, yet he hates "art" and when he doesn't play music he plays computer games or works on his house. I have a very technical job - fly airplanes for a living yet a love poetry and enjoy art galeries. (mom paints).
Had an outsider looked into our presumed interests, personalities, etc. he/she would've been dead wrong. So as clichè as it sounds just listen to your own heart.
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