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Plz help.I want my Polish gf to live with me but she says life here is too hard



Dave76Threads: 2
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Joined: Jan 8, 10 ♂ 		 Jan 9, 10, 00:18    #1
I'm madly in love with an amazing polish lady but in the two years we've been together things haven't always gone smoothly,she is now saying life here is too hard for her and she wants to return to Poland next month but I cant bear the thought of losing her,she is struggling for work can anyone give me any ideas how I can help her and convince her to stay.Please.
EnglishpoznanThreads: 14
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What work has she been doing?
Dave76Threads: 2
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Joined: Jan 8, 10 ♂ 		 Jan 9, 10, 00:33    #3
We met when she started in the electronics factory where I worked,but it closed down,since then she's been with an agency and they cant get her and permemant work,it's mostly factory stuff she's been doing.
EnglishpoznanThreads: 14
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Joined: Apr 21, 09 ♂ 		 Jan 9, 10, 00:37    #4
You know it's a crap time back home at the moment for work, and to be honest factory work is not going to make many people happy. have you considered moving to Poland with her?

What do you do for a living in the UK?
Dave76Threads: 2
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Joined: Jan 8, 10 ♂ 		 Jan 9, 10, 00:47    #5
I'm a baker and I cant move,i have two children and i'd rather die than leave them,she knew when we first met that I had kids.i dont really know what to say,and I dont really know what anyone can do to help me,i guess at the end of the day it has to be her decision,but the thought of not being with her again tears me apart inside.She's the only woman I've ever actually fallen in love with.
EnglishpoznanThreads: 14
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Sounds like you're in a tough situation mate, I met my misses in UK and she wanted to go back to Poland to finish her degree so I agreed to move with her and honestly it's been the best choice I ever made. Having kids though makes it hard i appreciate that.

All I can suggest is trying to find a decent job for her but like I said it's hard in the UK at the mo

Wish you the best of luck though
Dave76Threads: 2
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Joined: Jan 8, 10 ♂ 		 Jan 9, 10, 01:04    #7
Thanx,i appreciate that.What is your wife studying?
EnglishpoznanThreads: 14
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she has finished now, she was studying psychology we now have a business together. I have been here four years now and everything is pretty good.
delphiandomineThreads: 40
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Hey, does she practice psychology at all?

I could do with a good English speaking psychologist for my file :)
AmathystThreads: 30
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Englishpoznan:
All I can suggest is trying to find a decent job for her but like I said it's hard in the UK at the mo

Rocking horse and shite springs to mind!

Whilst I feel for the OP, this girl, if she loved you, would stay the distance...two years is quite a long time, just make her feel secure is all I can say, not a lot else you can do...or let her go home and see how the reality is and she'll be back in a week or so.
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Amathyst:
let her go home and see how the reality is and she'll be back in a week or so.

Excellent Advice. If you love someone, let them go. If they come back, they were always yours, if they don't, hunt them down and...

Can't remember the rest.
RonWestThreads: 3
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Englishpoznan:
she has finished now, she was studying psychology we now have a business together. I have been here four years now and everything is pretty good

Just curious,
What type of business?
bolekThreads: 10
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Joined: Sep 13, 08 ♂ 		 Jan 9, 10, 09:46    #13
[quote=Amathyst]or let her go home and see how the reality is and she'll be back in a week or so.

You have never been in love..hmmm true ...Poland is the place to be... you will find true love there.
OgienThreads: 15
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Joined: Jul 22, 09 ♂ 		 Jan 19, 10, 05:35    #14
Dave76:
I'm madly in love with an amazing polish lady but in the two years we've been together things haven't always gone smoothly,she is now saying life here is too hard for her and she wants to return to Poland next month but I cant bear the thought of losing her,she is struggling for work can anyone give me any ideas how I can help her and convince her to stay.Please.

If she wants to go back to Poland then let her. Don't force her to stay. If you really want to be with her then move to Poland with her.
bullfrogThreads: 4
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Joined: Apr 23, 09 ♂ 		 Jan 19, 10, 08:13    #15
Dave76:
I'm a baker and I cant move,i have two children and i'd rather die than leave them,she knew when we first met that I had kids.

If you're a good baker, move with the whole family to Poland, bakers are in demand.. I know one of them (albeit french) who started his business a few months ago in Warsaw (Nowy swiat) and he is already doing a roaring trade..
jonniThreads: 26
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bullfrog:
know one of them (albeit french) who started his business a few months ago in Warsaw (Nowy swiat)

I know the shop you mean - it is excellent. There is a real market for artisan bakeries here and the startup costs don't have to be high.
bullfrogThreads: 4
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Went there this morning, as most weekends, to buy a couple of 'bagietka wiejska' and 4 croissant supreme.. A treat for breakfast!
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Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂ 		 Jan 24, 10, 14:41    #18
Everything associate with economy is cyclic. Soon the economies will rise again, after that they will fall again... and so on.


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