Polish girls and American boys (who don't even know where Poland is located ;)

olka11Threads: 2 Posts: 2 Joined: Aug 3, 11 ♀	Aug 19, 11, 19:48 #1
I am dating an American guy who has no idea about Poland, culture, and Polish girls... Before he met me he didnt even know where is Poland! LOL We want to be together but the cultural difference and mentality seem to be too difficult for us... Any tips how to make it work with such cultural difference that share us?

plgrl	Aug 19, 11, 19:50 #2
Maybe tell us more precisely what cultural difference do you mean?

David_18Threads: 111 Posts: 1,212 Joined: Jan 4, 07 ♂	Aug 19, 11, 19:50 #3
Any tips how to make it work with such cultural difference that share us? Be gentle...

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Aug 19, 11, 19:59 #4

Mainly in social life..... He doesnt like to hang out with my Internationals friends and for me itis hard to find a common language with his friends.... They laugh about something that it is not funny to me at all... They like to make jokes of people who do not understand English etc...
I think, Polish people are not that open up to others; for example, he did introduce me to his entire family (40 people) at once, they were all super nice but I felt intimidated and did not have much to talk about with them.... It seems like they are not interested in different cultures, people... they treat me like American but I am not ..... Hope it does make sense.... :)

plgrl	Aug 19, 11, 20:06 #5
I think these are not cultural differences, just his type of personality. Maybe just talk about it with him.

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Aug 19, 11, 20:50 #6

I am dating an American guy who has no idea about Poland, culture, and Polish girls... Before he met me he didnt even know where is Poland! LOL We want to be together but the cultural difference and mentality seem to be too difficult for us... Any tips how to make it work with such cultural difference that share us?

Maybe he should take the time to read a history book or two, and embrace some cultural values. I'd go as far as to learn Polish if my girl wanted me to. If he's too lazy or dumb to even look at a map to find Poland then maybe you dump his low IQ'ed ass.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Aug 19, 11, 20:53 #7
he did introduce me to his entire family (40 people) at once He has lots of daughters.

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,148 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER ♀	Aug 19, 11, 22:00 #8
cultural difference and mentality seem to be too difficult for us Give him a reasonable amount of time (I repeat reasonable)to adjust to the culture shock. After a while he should realize, once Polish no turning back:) A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

f stopThreads: 33 Posts: 2,861 Joined: Dec 9, 09 ♀	Aug 19, 11, 22:24 #9
We want to be together but the cultural difference and mentality seem to be too difficult What is it that you like about him?

dtaylor5632Threads: 49 Posts: 4,459 Joined: May 2, 09 ♂	Aug 19, 11, 22:41 #10
After a while he should realize, once Polish no turning back:) I agree, though the missus is Welsh!!! haha

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Aug 19, 11, 22:59 #11
Generally the slavic women entrap you in their spidernet.I don't know how they do it but once you go slavic there is no turning point.

rybnikThreads: 29 Posts: 1,234 Joined: Jan 16, 11 ♂	Aug 19, 11, 23:06 #12
I don't know how they do it but once you go slavic there is no turning point. Not in my case! lol....Once bitten twice shy, I'm afraid ;)

WulkanThreads: 1 Posts: 344 Joined: Dec 28, 07 ♂	Aug 20, 11, 02:08 #13
they treat me like American but I am not ..... Hope it does make sense.... :) Yes it does make sense, you think they should treat you like a Polish princess, you want them to keep asking you so you can tell them how great Poland and Polish people are so they can know straight away who is superior to whom...

yankishThreads: - Posts: 1 Joined: Aug 20, 11 ♂	Aug 20, 11, 05:35 #14
You sound like an anti-American complainer. Do the guy a favor and break up with him. Get an "international" boyfriend.

Pinching PeteThreads: 1 Posts: 1,111 Joined: Feb 23, 08 ♂	Aug 20, 11, 06:54 #15
Generally the slavic women entrap you in their spidernet. .. That's a fairly good analogy right there.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Edited by: southern Aug 20, 11, 07:48 #16
has no idea about Poland, culture, and Polish girls No idea about polish girls?This is serious case.

Chicago PollockThreads: 10 Posts: 638 Joined: Apr 10, 10 ♂	Aug 20, 11, 08:37 #17
they treat me like American but I am not ..... Hope it does make sense.... For better or for worse American culture is one of inclusiveness. They're including you. It's the culture. It's not a melting pot, it's a melding pot.

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Aug 22, 11, 04:34 #18

I am dating an American guy who has no idea about Poland, culture, and Polish girls... Before he met me he didnt even know where is Poland! LOL We want to be together but the cultural difference and mentality seem to be too difficult for us... Any tips how to make it work with such cultural difference that share us?

1st of all you need a smarter boyfriend and 2nd a more open minded individual to learning your customs and respecting the fact that you are from Poland and your not American. :) Good Luck!

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Aug 22, 11, 06:32 #19

He doesnt like

for me itis hard to find a common language with his friends.... They laugh about something that it is not funny to me at all...

difference and mentality seem to be too difficult for us

you know whats funny about this whole post is that you both like each other but your not accepting the things that
come with each other.

you both need to open up a little more or it wont work at all. he might not know much about your culture, but it sounds like
you dont know much about his either.. thats what Love is all about .. learning about each other and accepting. if you cant
get past all of it then you should not date outside your country.

Either way I hope for the best for both of you :)

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Aug 26, 11, 19:44 #20

I'm an American guy engaged to a woman from Wroclaw. Although I've dated woman from different ethnicities, my Polish significant other is certainly the most exotic, mainly because she hails from a different culture. Having said that, I've enjoyed learning about Polish culture & history, and love the food (she's an excellent cook). I've even learned basic greetings & formalities in Polish, which came in handy when we visited her family last year.

Olka11, why not try to expose your BF to your culture? He just might develop a new appreciation of you. Good luck.

KrystalThreads: 7 Posts: 108 Joined: Sep 17, 09 ♀	Aug 26, 11, 21:03 #21
I find this odd. Does he ever look up maps, study geography and histories of world. You didn't say where he born or came from. He sound like uneducated male. I would avoid him in first place. Sorry.

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