Polish Girls & Asian Boys ( UK )

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Nov 8, 10, 13:07 #1

I live in the west midlands and am an 18 year old 3rd generation Asian. ( So basically as typical english as you can get, barring skin colour )

I've noticed a fair few polish girls going for asian ( south asian ) boys, not all, but they do get quite a lot of attention. Rather than white english, or even polish boys.

I also started chatting to a beautiful polish girl a year back who i dated for a while, but never really got to know as it was a long distance relationship. But now i've started seeing her again i just want to understand polish girls more ( i know it's naive to stereotype a whole nationality under a few characteristics ) but surely the polish culture/society instills strong values on its men & women.

Could it be because traditionally Asians have strong relationship/marriage morals ( monogamous ) very low divorce rates etc. , and generally have a good wealth.
Or is it simply because they want to 'rebel' against the norm, or what their parents may agree with ?

Suggestions, experience and knowledge would be really appreciated here :)

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Nov 8, 10, 13:29 #2

kingofsat:

Could it be because traditionally Asians have strong relationship/marriage morals ( monogamous ) very low divorce rates etc. , and generally have a good wealth.
Or is it simply because they want to 'rebel' against the norm, or what their parents may agree with ?

I think those that are only interested in money see Asians as an easier target that and many Poles often end up in the poorer areas, these are generally inhabited by Asians in the UK so they will mix with them more so than whites.

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Nov 8, 10, 13:36 #3

Wroclaw Boy:

I think those that are only interested in money see Asians as an easier target that and many Poles often end up in the poorer areas, these are generally inhabited by Asians in the UK so they will mix with them more so than whites.

The girl i was seeing, goes to a catholic school with a huge majority of whites - and lives in an area full of whites. Also asians in our town are a tiny minority.

I understand your point for areas where it's majorly populated by asians ( such as birmingham ) but where i live, it's not.

DarrenMThreads: 2 Posts: 126 Joined: Dec 21, 07 ♂	Nov 8, 10, 14:00 #4
Asian British Indian or Asian Pakistani? (I intentionally omit the British prefix to Pakistani because they have NEVER regarded themselves as British) Makes a BIG difference, you and i both know it!!

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Edited by: kingofsat Nov 8, 10, 14:04 #5

DarrenM:

Asian British Indian or Asian Pakistani? (I intentionally omit the British prefix to Pakistani because they have NEVER regarded themselves as British)

Makes a BIG difference, you and i both know it!!

It's generally muslims ( althrough most are from india, not pakistan ).
but i think that's only because indians ( as in sikhs/hindu ) are a really really really tiny minority especially where i live. And they have stricter families that wouldn't let them date girls before marriage. My family are really liberal, have an english uncle and aunt on different sides of the family as well. We're really relaxed for an indian family.

And to be honest it doesn't really matter what you regard yourself, most people see someone with brown skin and assume they are asian.

Polonia1Threads: 6 Posts: 90 Joined: Oct 21, 10 ♂	Nov 8, 10, 15:17 #6
kingofsat: but surely the polish culture/society instills strong values on its men & women. Poland is the most homogeneous nation in europe....as a result of this, naturally, the culture and traditions place more emphasis on staying w/ ones own.......going against the grain in most cases is seen as a bit taboo.......but anyway thats my interpretation.

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Nov 8, 10, 16:11 #7

Polonia1:

going against the grain in most cases is seen as a bit taboo

I wouldn't go that far, in all cases I know or ever heard of (and there were several) the worst that happened was aunties whinnying over Sunday afternoon tea and cake that "she went on and married that guy who can't speak a word of Polish, and ohhh, how are the kids going to look like!" since mixed kids are usually cute, and most of the "exotic" husbands learn to say "dzien dobry" and "dziekuje", sooner or later the issue dies natural death.

religion may turn out to be a much much bigger problem! Polish don't know Muslims, for most of them Islam almost equals Arabic countries that in turn equal mistreating women and terrorism. that's what you should take into account, not your skin color. ;)

kingofsatThreads: 1 Posts: 17 Joined: Nov 8, 10 ♂	Nov 8, 10, 16:18 #8
The majority of people think of brown dudes / Asians as muslim and all the same. The more educated people are fine, but there is still a huge lack of understanding about religions and culture In many parts of the uk.

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Nov 8, 10, 16:53 #9

well then, the only question that remains is if your girl's family is educated ;) and if it doesn't seem to be, if you can provide the lacking knowledge...

all in all, what seems to put off most Polish in Asians is that to Polish, Asian people often appear as having double standards. While you are trying your best to show good decorum in front of her, she will take it as your true and only face, and if you turn out to be a different person in your family life, she will take it as if you have lied to her!

Of course Polish do differentiate between official and private behavior too, but it's to much lesser extent. The more serious your relationship gets, the more "private" self you are expected to reveal, REGARDLESS of the fact if you're already married or not even planning. I think being 3rd generation living in UK you probably won't have problems of this sort, but still it is a known issue, and the reason for most breakups and divorces, so you might as well remember ;)

kingofsatThreads: 1 Posts: 17 Joined: Nov 8, 10 ♂	Nov 8, 10, 19:26 #10
Hmm maybe. but these girls seem to go out with the "badboys" rather than intellectual schoolkids. (like most girls i supose )

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Nov 8, 10, 19:39 #11
Polish girls have low standards,date very average looking men and are very easy to be fooled.

kingofsatThreads: 1 Posts: 17 Joined: Nov 8, 10 ♂	Nov 8, 10, 19:40 #12
southern: Polish girls have low standards,date very average looking men and are very easy to be fooled. Well that's quite some generalisation ! Many are very good looking and therefore can get about any guy they wish, so why is it that they chose asians ?! Mind you, there are plenty of good looking asian dudes, what are you trying to say ?! lol..

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Nov 8, 10, 19:49 #13
Because they are stupid.They believe the fairy tales.Of course I as superior Balkan do not have a problem despite the distrust coming from my superiority.

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Nov 8, 10, 19:58 #14

If I am in the UK I don't expect the British to aknowledge the cultural enrichment I bring.Contrary to that I expect to be viewed as second rank.Of course I will fight to impose my superiority but I may lose.
Anyway polish girls have peculiar opinions about various nationalities and do not follow the usual rank system based on appearance wealth which is 1.Germanic,2.Mediteranean,3.Slavic,4.third worldler.The above rank system is used all over western Europe and southern Europe.

Barr_2009Threads: 1 Posts: 280 Joined: Oct 11, 09 ♂	Nov 8, 10, 20:08 #15
so where is Celtic in that ranking? I'm part Germanic part Celtic ;)

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Edited by: WhyMedSchool Nov 8, 10, 20:22 #16

My parents are from India but I was born and raised in Canada. In university I met my future Polish wife (who came to Canada when she was 8). I'm writing this to basically say that there are an infinite number of ways for two people to find each other. To generalize that Polish girls get with Indian guys for whatever reason is just ignorant. Ultimately it's between those two people and everybody else can suck it. I don't really understand why these threads keep popping up - does it really matter who a Polish girl (or any girl for that matter) chooses to date???

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Edited by: kingofsat Nov 8, 10, 20:30 #17

DarrenM:

You sound like an arrogant little prick to be quite blunt with you.

I'm arrogent? You're the one who just insulted me for absolutely no reason and called me a prick. talk about hypocrisy. Real mature mate, nice one - i'm sure English people have a great name for themselves with loonies like you on this board.

DarrenM:

they have NEVER regarded themselves as British)

Ignorance at it's finest, I know plenty of pakistanis who are proud to be British. Like it or not, anybody with a British citizenship is considered British. Doesn't matter if you are 1st, 3rd, 4th generation - we are ALL the same, but just have different backgrounds. This whole "Them" and "Us" culture is what's fueling the social unrest between different minority groups, stop believing everything the tabloid papers tell you my friend.

WhyMedSchool:

does it really matter who a Polish girl (or any girl for that matter) chooses to date???

Good post and fair point

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Edited by: DarrenM Nov 8, 10, 22:57 #18

kingofsat:

we are ALL the same,

Then why did you refer to the English as if you weren't on of them.

kingofsat:

This whole "Them" and "Us" culture is what's fueling the social unrest between different minority groups

Again I reiterate my point. Why did you refer to the English as if you weren't one of them.

One second you are 'typically English' apart from the skin colour the next minute you refer to the English as drunken thugs lacking class, culture and an openess or understanding of other religions.

I am accutely aware of the many great aspects of being British, like racial and religious tolerance, the very tolerance and acceptance of other religions that affords other races and religions to build minarets that adorn the skylines of British cities. Likewise, I'm accutely aware of my countrymen's failings but I don't come on this board making derisory comments about the country of my birth.

You are a jumped up little 18 year old with zero life experience and you have the audacity, yes arrogance to puport to know the British as a whole and make disparaging comments in an attempt to distance yourself and try to curry favour.

So whats it to be. British? Warts and all.....Or British in passport only??

Oh and I don't read the tabloids, I can't turn the pages because of my injured knuckles that drag on the floor.

kingofsat:

18 year old 3rd generation Asian.

If we are all the same then why did you refer to yourself as a West Midlands Asian and not a British Englishman of Asian descent????

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Edited by: kingofsat Nov 8, 10, 23:34 #19

Wow what rattled your cage ? I was just giving a few opinions from my own personal experience and what i see every day in the place of which i live.

DarrenM:

West Midlands Asian and not a British Englishman of Asian descent????

Well I do apologise Mr Darren M for not using correct terminology of which you can acknowledge my background.

Generally i have English values and beliefs because me and my parents were born and raised here , however that's not to say I agree with everything my English (anglo saxon) friends would do ( understand yet ?!?!?! ), likewise my Asian & African friends ( or british asian british african friends, as if it actually makes any difference to what kind of ******* human they are, just get a grip mate you must seriously spend too long on these forums )

I came on here today to try and learn a little more about polish women for the benefit of my own relationships, now can you please stop being so pedantic about every single thing i say. If you wish to continue this argument, then find somebody else to have it out with - that's NOT what i'm here to do.

Polonia1Threads: 6 Posts: 90 Joined: Oct 21, 10 ♂	Nov 9, 10, 01:47 #20
kingofsat: but surely the polish culture/society instills strong values on its men & women. Are you dating her at the moment or trying to ask her out?.....anyway remember Polish men are considered very gallant and chivalrous, so add that to ur flirtations (but dnt over do it)

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Nov 9, 10, 07:39 #21
What values?Some polish women believe they don't deserve a white man who will leave them and never really respect them.This happens because they regard themselves inferior to the white man.I usually have problems to convince them that I take them seriously but when balkan power speaks it overwhelms this defect.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Edited by: southern Nov 9, 10, 11:30 #22
What do you want?We don't like curry smell on our topics.I wrote polish women are rather naive and that's all.Western women don't give a crap since they are used to and know what all these minorities represent.Of course I as superior Balkan can never be passed for a Turk or Arab so I blow my own trumpet.

kingofsatThreads: 1 Posts: 17 Joined: Nov 8, 10 ♂	Edited by: kingofsat Nov 9, 10, 11:32 #23
southern: Of course I as superior Balkan can never be passed for a Turk or Arab so I blow my own trumpet. Dude you sound like a seriously insecure person who looks for gratification and superiority over an internet forum. get a grip mate. No one is " Superior " because of where they are from, you sound like a fking nazi.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Nov 9, 10, 11:41 #24
To irritate our Anglo friends.Anyway I present the common Balkan frame.We think this way.Either you fck or you get fcked.There is really no middle ground.Why should an English girl prefer me and not the English?Or a polish girl me and not a Pole?I 've got to have sth they don't posess.As a lazy mediteranean I rely on appearance.

Wroclaw BoyThreads: 57 Posts: 5,478 Joined: Jul 3, 09 MEMBER ♂	Nov 9, 10, 12:07 #25
kingofsat: Dude you sound like a seriously insecure person who looks for gratification and superiority over an internet forum. Thats exactly what he is, you've nailed him in two days.

DarrenMThreads: 2 Posts: 126 Joined: Dec 21, 07 ♂	Nov 9, 10, 12:21 #26
Wroclaw Boy: Thats exactly what he is, you've nailed him in two days. He is funny though

POLENGGGsThreads: 5 Posts: 211 Joined: Apr 26, 10 ♂	Nov 9, 10, 14:33 #27
He thinks what he writes is funny too, but it is sad - but you are completely absolutely right, he is funny.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,959 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	Nov 9, 10, 14:46 #28
Lots of polish girls have told me I have a great sense of english humor.Anyway polish seem to be the first girls who noticed this army of immigrants and found sth worthy in them.(I still cannot understand what).

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Edited by: kingofsat Nov 9, 10, 19:24 #29

southern:

Anyway polish seem to be the first girls who noticed this army of immigrants

Well i'm sure people would much rather an army of "immigrants" who come here to work their asses off to make a living for themselves and their families, than an army of people as narrow minded as you.

You are on the wrong forum mate, go join stormfront or the EDL site. You offer absolutely no help whatsoever to any topic here and are quite frankly just spamming and people are going to soon start ignoring you and your sad little comments.

DarrenMThreads: 2 Posts: 126 Joined: Dec 21, 07 ♂	Nov 9, 10, 19:40 #30
kingofsat: You are on the wrong forum mate, go join stormfront or the EDL site. You offer absolutely no help whatsoever to any topic here and are quite frankly just spamming and people are going to soon start ignoring you and your sad little comments. More arrogance.....17 posts and you presume to speak for the Forum as whole. Do yourself a favour lad, wind your neck in.

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