Is the Polish wife the boss?

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Jul 22, 11, 11:57 #1

Bill Cosby, the well-known Afro-American comedian, once said in one of his famous one-liners: The basic thing about marriage everyone should know is that the woman's the boss!
To what extent does that apply to Polish womanhood? In your experience and/or observation, how do Polki stack up agaisnt females of other ethnciites you know? I know there will also be those who say 'all women are the same regardless of nationality', so I address my question to those who don't buy into that hypothesis.

pipThreads: 11 Posts: 1,293 Joined: Jul 4, 11 ♀	Jul 22, 11, 12:07 #2
actually, the Polish mother in law is boss.

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Jul 22, 11, 12:34 #3

It all depends on the proximity factor. If you live in Vancouver and your mum-in-law is in Skierniewice and you see each other only once a year, then that shouldn't be too big a problem. But in the case of a live-in m-i-l, that would be a different pair of shoes altogether. Prolly the daughter-in-law/mother-in-law equation is the thorniest, because of rivlary over the darling son. Men seem to hit it off better with their fathers-in-law -- they can go out together for drinks and complain about their wives.

IKrashThreads: 7 Posts: 51 Joined: Jul 21, 11 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 13:38 #4
I think its up to men that who becomes the boss if you are strong you can be the boss if not naturally the wife will take control . Personally although i think we should respect and love females men should always be incharge

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 13:39 #5
Spot on there, IKrash. It's analogous to life. Lead your life or sb else will lead it for you.

IKrashThreads: 7 Posts: 51 Joined: Jul 21, 11 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 13:41 #6
Yeah nicness is good but you should never be over nice always keep incharge .

teflcatThreads: 6 Posts: 1,076 Joined: May 29, 11 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 13:41 #7
In marriage the man should always have the last word. "Yes dear".

IKrashThreads: 7 Posts: 51 Joined: Jul 21, 11 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 13:45 #8
no thats like sighning for a slavery package it should be the wife who should say that sometimes you can do comprimise but seriously you can love her but dont make her your master

teflcatThreads: 6 Posts: 1,076 Joined: May 29, 11 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 13:48 #9
You're right! I never thought about it that way. Thanks IKrash.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 13:49 #10
It would appear that they have some remarkable insights in Pakistan ;) ;)

f stopThreads: 33 Posts: 2,861 Joined: Dec 9, 09 ♀	Jul 22, 11, 15:40 #11
Really guys, what do you want to be the boss of? House decorating? Deciding what to cook for dinner? Holiday planning with the family? Whatever the wife is the "boss" of, it's usually because the man could not be bothered. Now, if your wife decides where you'll go for vacation or what car to buy without consulting you, then you're whipped.

delphiandomineThreads: 42 Posts: 9,954 Joined: Nov 25, 08 ♂ [Suspended]	Jul 22, 11, 15:49 #12
To what extent does that apply to Polish womanhood? It doesn't. In Poland, the woman obeys or gets a slap in traditional households.

PennBoyThreads: 157 Posts: 3,443 Joined: Dec 7, 08 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 16:05 #13
Depends on the guy if he's a wussie or not.

PennBoyThreads: 157 Posts: 3,443 Joined: Dec 7, 08 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 16:14 #14
Actually - domestic violence is a very serious problem in Poland. And the weak laws don't help. During communist times if a man hit his wife the cops would have beaten him and left him bleeding by his doorstep. My aunt told me how her neighbor was beating his wife while being drunk cops came and were afraid to go in the house to help her out.

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Jul 22, 11, 16:17 #15

And the weak laws don't help. During communist times if a man hit his wife the cops would have beaten him and left him bleeding by his doorstep. My aunt told me how her neighbor was beating his wife while being drunk cops came and were afraid to go in the house to help her out.

Yeah, there's a real problem in rural Poland with violence in the home :(

Things are changing though - more and more campaigns against it, more and more foundations support beaten wives/children - so it's not all doom and gloom :)

PennBoyThreads: 157 Posts: 3,443 Joined: Dec 7, 08 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 16:22 #16
Yeah, there's a real problem in rural Poland with violence in the home :( That was in a city, Stalowa Wola In rural areas the police is from the gmina and often from the same or neighboring village knowing everyone around. No officer/friend is gonna charge a friend with domestic violence. That's why at least here a cop can't work in the district he lives in.

zosiaczek	Jul 22, 11, 16:23 #17
In Poland, the woman obeys or gets a slap in traditional households. Do you have any first hand experience to prove such prejudicial statement? I'm Polish woman and no female in my family was an object of violence. Moreover I agree that the woman is the boss in marriage - my grandamas always were saying that.

zosiaczek	Jul 22, 11, 16:28 #18
Actually - domestic violence is a very serious problem in Poland Everywhere it the world it happens. I'd say it's very bold to say it's a Polish trait...

PennBoyThreads: 157 Posts: 3,443 Joined: Dec 7, 08 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 16:28 #19
Moreover I agree that the woman is the boss in marriage - my grandamas always were saying that. Cause your grandfathers were pansies LOL

zosiaczek	Jul 22, 11, 16:29 #20
Cause your grandfathers were pansies LOL So you approve beating women?

PennBoyThreads: 157 Posts: 3,443 Joined: Dec 7, 08 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 16:37 #21
So you approve beating women? No I never hit a woman in my life. It's usually people from broken alcoholic families. The point is in relationship, among friends or in society in life altogether you never let anyone have the upper hand because they'll walk all over you. Jak to sie mowi Jak sobie pozwolisz to ci nasrają na głowe

f stopThreads: 33 Posts: 2,861 Joined: Dec 9, 09 ♀	Edited by: f stop Jul 22, 11, 17:14 #22
The point is in relationship, among friends or in society in life altogether you never let anyone have the upper hand that's pretty bad... at least in the relationship you should be able to have some trust. If you think by giving your partner an upper hand you'll end up with **** on your head, your relationships will be umm.. strained, to say the least.

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Edited by: Midas Jul 22, 11, 20:56 #23

men should always be incharge

It is so great to see all the sages from Pakistan come over here and share their wisdom with us.

Just keep in mind boys that if you show a woman "who is in charge" a tad too drastically ( like with your hand or boot ) in Eastern Europe you will likely end up in jail where a burly and hairy lad named Wanya or Josif will continue to stick his baguette up your asses until your colons rupture :-)

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,148 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER ♀	Jul 22, 11, 21:14 #24
With my older family members, it seems like the wife usually wears the pants in the household. The trend with my younger relatives is more a mutual thing. Also, the husband and wife team are both breadwinners nowadays. A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

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Jul 22, 11, 21:42 #25

Really guys, what do you want to be the boss of? House decorating? Deciding what to cook for dinner? Holiday planning with the family? Whatever the wife is the "boss" of, it's usually because the man could not be bothered.
Now, if your wife decides where you'll go for vacation or what car to buy without consulting you, then you're whipped.

This is very true. There is plenty of small stuff men don't like to be bothered with, so women automatically assume it's their duty. Some men gave it the prestigious name of running the household, while actually the woman run herself into exhaustion.

PlasticPoleThreads: 10 Posts: 5,433 Joined: May 28, 09 ♀	Jul 22, 11, 22:58 #26
If a guy won't let the woman be the boss it's time to move on.

PennBoyThreads: 157 Posts: 3,443 Joined: Dec 7, 08 ♂	Jul 22, 11, 23:01 #27
If a guy won't let the woman be the boss it's time to move on. That's a bit unfair.

BBmanThreads: - Posts: 459 Joined: Jan 4, 11 ♂	Jul 23, 11, 01:07 #28
Is the Polish wife the boss? In my experience and observations while living in Poland, I wouldn't say that Polish women are the "boss." They are however a little more troublesome for a man than american/canadian women.

chichimeraThreads: 3 Posts: 356 Joined: Feb 4, 11 ♀	Jul 23, 11, 01:49 #29
A man should be a king in his home.. Subject only to his queen ;)

LlamaticThreads: 4 Posts: 605 Joined: May 26, 11 ♂ [Suspended]	Jul 23, 11, 02:56 #30
If a guy won't let the woman be the boss it's time to move on. I agree. But just so long as everyone is clear on who grants that power to whom. ;)

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