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Are Polish Women cold and aloof?

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looleeThreads: - Posts: 11 Joined: Apr 19, 09 ♀	Apr 19, 09, 16:28 #91
cold and distant, whom did U meat then;)...

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 ♂ [Suspended]	Apr 19, 09, 16:36 #92
Yes, Polish women are cold and aloof, today i went up to Magda "wash my socks woman" and all i got was "**** off", evil selfish creatures.

looleeThreads: - Posts: 11 Joined: Apr 19, 09 ♀	Apr 19, 09, 16:40 #93
hmmm, maybe U should start washing YOUR socks by yourself?! ;)

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Apr 19, 09, 17:02 #94

joland:

Polish girls are cold and distant, but maybe if you have enough patience... maybe about 3-5 years patience, they can open up... but they usually don't

how do you know that? i heard all you get joland is a day or two of their time and then they move on to someone else. i doubt you have 3-5 years experience of dating a woman. any woman.

loolee:

hmmm, maybe U should start washing YOUR socks by yourself?! ;)

or just stop making them filthy ;)

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 ♂ [Suspended]	Apr 19, 09, 19:33 #95
loolee: hmmm, maybe U should start washing YOUR socks by yourself?! ;) If men start washing their socks women are going to die out through lack of purpose:( Now excuse me while i go cook dinner.

looleeThreads: - Posts: 11 Joined: Apr 19, 09 ♀	Apr 19, 09, 19:46 #96
I will ask again, what women have U met, probably the wrong ones;)

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,160 Joined: Dec 25, 07 ♂	Apr 19, 09, 19:51 #97
I say again, some are and some aren't :) Let's keep it simple.

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Apr 20, 09, 21:42 #98

joland:

southern you are misleading the guys here. looks like you are paid and on a roll to promote polish girls as some pure angels with beautiful wings. which is

Are you in order?I have started threads under titles like ''polish girls sucking money'' and ''polish girls obsession with marriage''.One can understand polish girls only by comparing them to other slavic women because the comparison with the west is flawed a priori.

kksunilThreads: 2 Posts: 43 Joined: May 4, 09 ♂	May 8, 09, 07:18 #99
southern: In my opinion polish women are hot and wet. the conclusion which I am making after this 98th post is that indeed Polish girls are cold and dry... how did you make them hot and wet?

tomekcatkinsThreads: 13 Posts: 173 Joined: Oct 9, 07 ♂	May 8, 09, 07:25 #100
Cold until you set them afire (Now that was a joke)

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,899 Joined: May 17, 07 ♂	May 8, 09, 10:24 #101
kksunil: how did you make them hot and wet? I blew them up.

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07 ♀	May 8, 09, 11:50 #102
southern: I blew them up. Was that after they blew you out!

markcooperThreads: 6 Posts: 113 Joined: Apr 27, 09 ♂	May 8, 09, 13:43 #103
mala: well, we are not cold we are just afraid and keep a distance for a long time. good luck, wish you to be more patience I think youre right with this.

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 ♂ [Suspended]	May 8, 09, 16:15 #104
polishgirltx: Kev A: Sorry, Question is really directed at the Guys, Can't expect an unbiased reply from le femme! well, that's racist... No its not, its scientifically proven that women cannot communicate and dont have a soul therefore you cannot have an opinion, also yes Kev Polish women are evil cold hearted lot. Its the Polish bit that makes them so nasty you see.

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Edited by: Cardno85 May 8, 09, 16:22 #105

I have found Polish girls to be very warm and friendly. I found that lots of girls, eager to practice their english, were more than happy to talk away. It depends the approach right enough. If you are very forward then most girls round the world are likely to be cold and aloof. If you are laid back, friendly and down to earth then most people (male and female) are likely to respond well.

Oh, sorry, I forgot this was PF...all Polish women are cold, heartless ******* and you are best to stay miles away from them. They all have husbands and only want to bleed your wallet dry, if you don't drive a ferarri then they won't give you the time of day. ;)

Oh yeah, and it's a terrible country, the food is all fatty and unhealthy and it smells...

aphrodisiacThreads: 19 Posts: 3,907 Joined: Apr 15, 09 ♀	May 8, 09, 17:42 #106
Cardno85: If you are laid back, friendly and down to earth then most people (male and female) are likely to respond well. well said.

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 12 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂	May 8, 09, 19:48 #107
Cardno85: If you are very forward then most girls round the world are likely to be cold and aloof. If you are laid back, friendly and down to earth then most people (male and female) are likely to respond well. Exactly.

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May 27, 09, 17:25 #108

mala:

well, we are not cold we are just afraid and keep a distance for a long time.
good luck, wish you to be more patience

these may be the words that save my sanity.

i came here because i met a Warsaw girl, and stayed 2 weeks, and fell in love with her and the city in equal measures. now after 7 months apart and trying to hold things together, i'm here to study Polish and teach English, and... she is keeping as much distance as she can.

she tells me she does not know how she feels, but knows for sure she cannot lose me, and then wraps herself up so much in school and work and family she has no time for me.

and... i think i'm beginning to understand. in the States, these would all be signs of a girl playing you out so she can sneak around with another man, but i get the sense from what I've learned of Poles and the loyalty you have that this isn't the case here... but rather...

she is afraid. she will keep her distance for a long time. i must be patient if i want this, and let go of my impulsive American habits of i need everything right now!

:)

anyone else care to share their experience with this? i don't think it's aloofness. i think it's caution, and an acute awareness that us men tend to be fools in love and the women end up taking the pain. the polish woman may just be smarter by holding her heart back until she knows for sure a man can love her... because he does not need her.

Rafal_1981	Edited by: Rafal_1981 May 27, 09, 17:39 #109
JustysiaS: Doesn't seem to be cold at all ;-D

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 12 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂	Edited by: SzwedwPolsce May 27, 09, 17:54 #110
smessenger: she tells me she does not know how she feels, but knows for sure she cannot lose me, and then wraps herself up so much in school and work and family she has no time for me. This sounds much like the Polish version of I don't love you, but I don't want to loose you as a friend.

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May 27, 09, 18:00 #111

SzwedwPolsce:

This sounds much like the Polish version of I don't love you, but I don't want to loose you as a friend.

yes, and i feel the same way. no joke, the worst part for me would be if the romance failed and the friendship disappeared as well. i'd rather break off the romance and still be friends.

but then there's this... her entire quote went more like this:

"i don't know what i feel, but one thing i'm sure of is i can't lose you, and i want to make love to you so ****ing much."

so... i'm guessing she feels a little conflicted. :P

as am i. the heat is there, but it's also very dangerous for both of us. i guess it is a good time to be patient as Job, and trust if we found each other once, then if it's meant to be we'll come back around again.

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May 27, 09, 18:00 #112

smessenger:

anyone else care to share their experience with this? i don't think it's aloofness. i think it's caution, and an acute awareness that us men tend to be fools in love and the women end up taking the pain

Funny, smessenger, you could almost be talking about a man in Chicago who did the same to me (though at least I didn't MOVE out there for him).

However, there are plenty more riby in the sea ... and lots more really lovely warm women in Warsaw waiting with ... oh ok I ran out of alliteration :)

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 12 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09 ♂	May 27, 09, 18:25 #113
smessenger: "i don't know what i feel, but one thing i'm sure of is i can't lose you, and i want to make love to you so ***ing much." Maybe "I want* to love you - but I do not, and I don't want to loose you as a friend". Time will show. Good Luck!

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Edited by: smessenger May 27, 09, 21:04 #114

BevK:

However, there are plenty more riby in the sea ... and lots more really lovely warm women in Warsaw waiting with ... oh ok I ran out of alliteration :)

for some reason the next "w" that comes to mind is "wet"...

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SzwedwPolsce:

Maybe "I want to love you - but I do not, and I don't want to loose you as a friend".

You're just flat-out mean!

:p

Yeah, I hear you. And the messed-up wonderful thing about it all is she's more astute about this than I am. She's one of my favorite people in the world, and when I'm with her my blood runs pretty frickin' hot, but for some reason else... that love isn't there.

Maybe it will be. I dunno. But whatever happens, I do feel for maybe the first time in my emotionally-stunted male life that I will get a great friend out of a relationship, and have no regrets about the amazing time we had during the romance.

It's never any fun watching a love fade, but there's comfort in knowing that when it's done burning white-hot, you can still have warm embers for a long, long time... and new fires to start all over the place!

/endTorturedMetaphor.

:)

BevKThreads: 18 Posts: 281 Joined: Mar 20, 09 ♀	May 27, 09, 22:43 #115
That's one very good way of looking at it :)

Arlene

Edited by: Arlene May 28, 09, 00:51 #116

I noticed this forum and you reminding me of my Polish females cousins who was born in Poland. I was born in Chicago, IL. I met all of females cousins and they are totally different from me and my America cousins. I am Polish America also.

Polish cousins are aloof because they are surprised to see us behaving difference and we America cousins are quick-thinking, move quick and get around all over and we behave like women not wild like my Polish Cousins. Polish females always try to fall in love so quickly and wanted to get married without getting divorcees from their spouses. If Polish cousins don't get marry, they run off to find someone else. Then they get troubles with laws for overstaying too long. Immigrations agents will find you no matter how long it take them to find you.

Sure my Polish cousins are pretty, sexy and very slow in thinking. They are confused with our English and the ways things going in America. In here, we have choice to thinks we wanted without permissions from husbands or wives or boyfriends and girlfriends. We make choices and make plans. It is not cheating on your loved one.

My Polish cousins didn't get their dreams and they failed in America and went back home. They didn't like lifes in America. So that is it.

I think that is my opinions and I don't know if you agree with me.

pgtxThreads: 48 Posts: 6,269 Joined: Feb 14, 09 ♀ [Moderator]	May 28, 09, 00:56 #117
Arlene: very slow in thinking. maybe they think slowly to avoid many grammatical mistakes...

Arlene	Edited by: Arlene May 28, 09, 00:59 #118
Maybe it could be reasons and they are shames too. It is nothing to laugh about. Be honest with who you are. Some people are born with speeches defectives or other kinds of illnesses. It is no big deal about not being perfect body. It is how we treats people.

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May 28, 09, 06:47 #119

Arlene, I am English/Polish and brought up in England. In my time I have been the "voice" of many companies and have a very clear speaking voice. When talking to Americans I very often have to speak slowly and carefully because otherwise they simply can't understand what I am saying. As slow, in fact, as I often have to speak to Polish people who are learning English at a more Basic or Intermediate level - and far far slower and more carefully than I generally have to speak to Advanced level students who are Polish.

Just a thought, there, my dear.

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May 28, 09, 06:51 #120

BevK:

When talking to Americans I very often have to speak slowly and carefully because otherwise they simply can't understand what I am saying. As slow, in fact, as I often have to speak to Polish people who are learning English at a more Basic or Intermediate level - and far far slower and more carefully than I generally have to speak to Advanced level students who are Polish.

just try to speak fast British English and American English.... it's English but...
think about it a bit and then...