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nomaderolThreads: 7
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Joined: Oct 18, 09 ♂ 		Edited by: nomaderol  Dec 14, 09, 22:55    #121
we will turn the internet to the love, but, we are shy to make love among kids like you.
SeanBMThreads: 41
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Joined: Mar 10, 08 ♂ 		 Dec 14, 09, 22:55    #122
BrutalButcher:
defeat me in a debate

What debate?
You have no arguments just silly remarks.

anton888:
You Two love each other:-)

Very much, I want him to have my children.
BrutalButcherThreads: 1
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anton888

Yes.
espanaThreads: 40
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BrutalButcher:
Of course you can't love someone you haven't seen.

so it is true what i heard about you and southern ? :) :)
BrutalButcherThreads: 1
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Joined: Nov 10, 09 ♂ 		Edited by: BrutalButcher  Dec 14, 09, 23:13    #125
espana

As true as what I heard about you and the other Greek guy ;) Remember Spain is full of gays LOL


SeanBM

Go back to watch your TV.
SeanBMThreads: 41
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Joined: Mar 10, 08 ♂ 		 Dec 14, 09, 23:21    #126
BrutalButcher:
Go back to watch your TV.

I don't have a T.V.

You are exceptionally stupid.
AmathystThreads: 30
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In answer to the title of this thread, no, I think people become infatuated with something that isnt really real.

The End.
noreenbThreads: 4
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Amathyst
In answer to the title of this thread, no, I think people become infatuated with something that isnt really real.

Truth.
Reality can be painful. Real people are different to virtual people. I will never forget a meeting with I guy with whom I was chattting for a few days. We were also on the phone and he seemed to be soooo cool.
Our "date" was just a disaster.
Mind creates false images. And they are I think always deceitful.
But, on the other hand, you can fell for a real person. But he won't be the same, virtual character.
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TheOther

yeah, I'm sorry for doing the same with you :/ :D
nomaderolThreads: 7
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noreenb:
Our "date" was just a disaster.

how long was your "date"?
noreenbThreads: 4
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Normaderol
how long was your "date"?

About 2 hours in a cafe. Two hours long monologue about everything and nothing. I brought off to ask him few questions, but I hadn't hear a question for me and about me. Two hours were enough to see that he was just interested mostly in himself...
Besides, it was so strange: a real one seemed to be a different person than a virtual one. I felt, that I met 2 people, where in fact it was the same person. I wasn't able to merge "him" and "the second him" in one person.
And there was something else: virtual lies were just nothing significant for him: the real one was 5 years older and had a different name...
ArienThreads: 6
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Joined: Oct 20, 08 ♂ 		 Dec 15, 09, 19:28    #132
noreenb:
Real people are different to virtual people.

I don't think so, because you'll find those very same real people on the internet. (Or am I a non-existant person who talks to your non-existant self here?)

I'm sure you've met a few people you didn't like in a bar yourself, and I'm sure you've experienced atleast a few people in your life who turned out to be a totally different person than you thought them to be, or imagined them to be..

It doesn't matter where you meet people, unless you have a tendency of expecting too much of people. (I know I've learned to shrug it off!) We all do stupid things sometimes, we all imagine things which simply aren't there sometimes, and we all get disappointed sometimes, I guess there are no exceptions?

I've learned that if you adjust your expectations, and lessen your demands, and forgive everything that you know you've done yourself in the past, that you'll be much happier for it the next time someone disappoints you real bad.

I'm like, I'll see if you're for real or not, and if you're not, well, no harm done. (I'm sure I'll forget about it rather sooner than later!)

Oh, and to all the people who say you can't fall in love with someone you haven't seen, how about arranged marriages that actually have worked out? What about blind people and their feelings? (Andrea Boccelli?) Oh, and about someone you don't know? Well, have you ever heard of love at first sight? How well did you know your partner when you first met him or her I wonder?

My point? We're all real people on the internet, with real opinions, real feelings, real frustrations, real problems, real faces, real hobbies, real interests.. Just keep in mind that no one is a saint, and you'll probably be better off if you learn to appreciate someone else's flaws just like you'd appreciate your own flaws.

So virtual contact or not, it certainly does make you put things in a fresh perspective sometimes, doesn't it? I know I have a lady from the internet to thank for changing me, although I have to admit it wasn't pleasant. (But I'm grateful to have known her.)

;)
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Joined: Nov 10, 09 ♂ 		 Dec 15, 09, 19:30    #133
It doesn't matter where you meet people, but how you meet that people. I actually found my soulmate online... (L)

By the way, online love doesn't work. Get over it.
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Joined: Oct 20, 08 ♂ 		 Dec 15, 09, 19:38    #134
BrutalButcher:
By the way, online love doesn't work. Get over it.

Oh, I've gotten over the whole concept of 'love'. I simply call it having a good time with someone you think you like now.

:)

BrutalButcher:
I actually found my soulmate online... (L)

So if you found your soulmate online, but online love doesn't work, then..

:S

I don't get it?
nomaderolThreads: 7
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Joined: Oct 18, 09 ♂ 		Edited by: nomaderol  Dec 15, 09, 19:56    #135
Arien

Agree on most points, not much difference between the net and off the net. internet is a very huge bar, or a cafe if you thinking about social things. and for some, internet is easier to say somethings behind the curtains. actually, i like suchs as we hear deep voices when speaking easier. i consider internet is sometimes like a free mental hospital in which people vomit their problems in their minds without paying any money to doctors. just think this. BB could say all these words to Albanians, Turks, etc etc off the net? No. He is relaxing here on the net for free. If he doesnt relax here, he could be beaten off-the net. I think Mods should think about this mission of internet also.

noreenb

if his lie (telling first 5 years younger) was not real reason you didn't like him, i think you missed an oppurtunity. on the net, he was probably not thinking serious things and this was making him seen cool to you. when he met you in real he probably liked you and he probably tried to have you like him when he thought somethings serious. See he even honestly told his real age. If he wasn't serious, he would not have done that. So, his liking you affected him and desired you and this desire caused him to miss the atmosphere. he wasn't selfish, cause he told himself. what if he tried to listen to you at first meet and if you gave some serious information about yourself that you could be regretful later? you know what? i could do the same as he did. until she feels safe i would not let her talk anything about herself at first meet. anyway, if he was a bad intention person, he would listen to you more and could use the info against you later. there are many guys planning different things on the net and off the net and they will listen to you first more and you will like them.. but, later, you may feel the pain.. anyway, sorry, but, it seems your approach was a disaster.
noreenbThreads: 4
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Arien

Ok, to specify:

Of course we are the same people, but impression, when you meet in reality somebody who you met only on line is weird. It was weird for me.

To see or to hear or to touch; it doesn't matter. For me "real" is more credible. Especially when we say about relationships and for sure marriage. It doesn't mean that I don't find unreal interesting, exciting, informative, etc.

Normaderol
i think you missed an oppurtunity.

Opportunity. For what?
I wanted to meet a cool person who seemed to be great and nice... And I didn't like him very much. Although he was talking about many compelling topics. Do I have to like everybody who I meet?

You are very complicated... Very theoretical... What do you know about him and, about it how did he feel and what did he think?

normaderol
your approach was a disaster

No, his approach was a disaster.
I meet someone for the first time and just know that this person doesn't match to me. Even as a friend. I give some people second chance, but some I don't give it. Do I have to be in contact with all people I meet on my way? Is it strange? Besides, I treated him as a collegue only; he knew about it. Some relations end after first meeting. I don't have any regrets and I know he doesn't have as well.
JustysiaSThreads: 15
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Joined: Oct 14, 07  Pictures: 2  Gold Member MEMBER ♀ 		 Dec 15, 09, 20:39    #137
Is it possible to love someone who you haven't seen?

yes it is, but it's kinda sad
noreenbThreads: 4
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Justysia
Is it possible to love someone who you haven't seen?

yes it is, but it's kinda sad

LOL. I like it. Strict to the point.
ArienThreads: 6
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Joined: Oct 20, 08 ♂ 		 Dec 15, 09, 20:59    #139
noreenb:
Of course we are the same people, but impression, when you meet in reality somebody who you met only on line is weird. It was weird for me.

It wasn't weird for me. (But maybe that's because I was a bit weird?) I'd do it again any given day, whatever the intentions of the other party.

noreenb:
To see or to hear or to touch; it doesn't matter.

It does. (I think you meant to say this anyway!)

noreenb:
For me "real" is more credible.

Consider this, personality is prevalent on the internet, where in real life, looks are. So either way, you never know what the whole package will be like once you start to open it up..

noreenb:
Especially when we say about relationships and for sure marriage.

Ofcourse, but neither have I ever met a girl in a club who wanted to discuss marriage with me on the dancefloor.. Just saying that first impressions can be awesome. (Wether you've seen someone or heard something from someone on the net or anywhere else!)

noreenb:
It doesn't mean that I don't find unreal interesting, exciting, informative, etc.

Yup, a bit of mental stimulation doesn't hurt from time to time.

:)
nomaderolThreads: 7
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Joined: Oct 18, 09 ♂ 		 Dec 15, 09, 21:11    #140
noreenb:
I don't have any regrets and I know he doesn't have as well.

if so, i am completely wrong then. sorry about my previous post, but, another sorry, i can't delete an old post (can i?)
shortride  Jul 29, 10, 22:12    #141
One test of true love that I know is time. When at first you felt sure that you are really for each other, let time be the judge. Some fall in love for selfish reasons. A lot of couples cannot stand each other more and more as time progresses. They discover a thing they don’t like about their partner and that’s the end of it. I guess, its not true love at all. But when the both of you can barely breathe due to tears when you got separated, I guess it is true love, but you forgot to take care of it. Growing old together is kind of romantic and only true love survives that long. These are my thoughts about true love. It’s quite uncomfortable to write about it really since I’m not sure if I got it right; but what the heck?
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shortride:
These are my thoughts about true love.


Those were my thoughts. See you in a few years! (Although I do hope you'll find it with someone!)

;)
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JustysiaS:
i met a guy online when i was 18, we spoke for a few months and got real close, exchanged pics and everything. i invited him over and when i saw him in the flesh i knew instantly i am not attracted to him, he is a creep and like a totally different person. i was very harsh actually cos of my disappointment and shame and i probably upset him very much but it just shows how misleading this internet dating business can be.


Wow Justysia, and there was no kinder way of breaking it off??

"Creep, disappointment, shame ..."
Did you meet someone on FBI's most wanted list? Child molester? ...or were your expectations not met and you chose to humiliate him because of it? Wasn't there but you're using some strong words describing the guy...


Every now and then I get the idea of trying internet dating. After all, my best friend met his Brazilian wife that way. They now have two little girls and are crazy about each other.

...and then I read posts like yours and it's like this ice-cold shower ...on a very windy day ...somewhere in Siberia...
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Joined: Jun 7, 07 ♂ 		 Jul 30, 10, 15:00    #144
skysoulmate:
Every now and then I get the idea of trying internet dating.


The site where i met my Russian lady seems to be very good at filtering out the supermodel looking scammers that infest some sites , saying that , there is some super looking women on there , and unlike a lot of sites its completely free to put your profile on there... http://freepersonals.ru/

Try it...what have you got to lose....????

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