Should I still go to my ex boyfriends parents house for Christmas?

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Dec 15, 10, 20:29 #1

I dumped my boyfriend today because of his immature ways.

For the first few weeks everything was great and he could do no wrong, then one day when we were eating dinner at the kitchen table he started repeating everything what I was saying and I told him to stop and he just carried on until I walked away. He said sorry and that he wouldn't do it again and the next day without fail he did it again so this time I took my food into the living room and eat my food there. From then I don't eat with him anymore. After that he has done other stupid immature things that just get on my nerves and we argue about they way he acts and it just falls on deaf ears.

Today we were at work and he filled his 2 litre water bottle and walked up to me and pretended to throw the water in my face and he stood there laughing. I was so shocked and people in work saw what he done and asked me if I wanted to report him as it is deemed as a form of bullying. I said no but I sent him a text telling him its over and he's not to expect me to go to his mum's for Christmas dinner.
Anyway he sent me a text back asking me to still go to his mum's for Christmas dinner as his mum will get mad if she finds out he has not been treating good as she really likes me.

Why should I go to his mum's and pretend everything is going good when he is immature and not ready for an adult relationship?

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,404 Joined: Apr 1, 06 ♂ [Moderator]	Dec 15, 10, 20:32 #2
Atosha: Why should I go to his mum's and pretend everything is going good when he is immature and not ready for an adult relationship? move on

RichfilthThreads: 8 Posts: 327 Joined: Mar 8, 09 ♂	Edited by: Richfilth Dec 15, 10, 20:33 #3
Are you both 18 years old or something? Just walk away, if he treats you the same way he treated girls in the playground at school, then he's not worth another second of your time. There are plenty of men out there, you don't have to waste your time with boys. Then eat your carp with a smile, knowing that his mother is destroying his ears in the way only a Polish mother can.

AtoshaThreads: 5 Posts: 63 Joined: Oct 19, 10 ♀	Dec 15, 10, 20:41 #4
Richfilth: Are you both 18 years old or something? He is 26, perhaps if he was 18 I could understand why he is being this way. But like you said I should just eat carp with a smile, knowing that his ears are being destroyed by his mother.

smurfThreads: 46 Posts: 660 Joined: Sep 8, 09 ♂	Dec 15, 10, 23:30 #5
why would you care if his mother give him an ear-bashing? naw, f*ck him, ruin his Christmas, he deserves it

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Dec 16, 10, 00:55 #6

I would still go and in fact, I would try again with the relationship...

I'm 27-years-old and my wife and I have been married for 10 years. I'm still immature, but only with my wife. I like putting a smile on her face with a little childish play. At first, she hated the way I acted and would remind me everyday of how annoying I was. However, she got used to my personality over the years and even-though I'm much older now and want to act more maturely, she can't live without my silly sense of humor. We have a 4-year-old daughter together who has my sense of humor, and my wife is perfectly fine with it. As a result of an ongoing "immature" relationship, we are happy, worry and stress free. We understand and respect each other for who we are. We are well mannered and appropriate in public, but at home, we are ourselves and enjoy every moment.

Give your partner a chance (6 months- 1 year at least), so you can really get to know each other. It's not easy going from partner to partner in search of that "perfect one", because in reality, that's really hard to accomplish. If my wife hadn't given me the chance "way back when", we wouldn't have been so happy and full of life today. Give it a try and good luck! :)

Note: If immaturity is the only problem, then give it a chance, you might be thankful for it in the future. If it's a drug, alcohol, gambling, violent or cheating problem, then that would be a different story and you would have no choice but to move on.

"Your choices. Your decisions. Your life."

Good Luck!

Jay

f stopThreads: 33 Posts: 2,861 Joined: Dec 9, 09 ♀	Dec 16, 10, 01:18 #7
If you're done with him, leave him and his family alone. If you want to spend a lot of time and effort trying to change him, joining forces with his mother might be a good idea. Or not

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Dec 16, 10, 06:49 #8

He's annoying you. A person can only take so much. Who cares what his mother thinks, what he thinks, you are in charge of your own life, you make the decissions that make you happy. Be strong otherwise people will run all over you if you don't stand up for yourself and for what makes you happy. Don't worry about what he says, you will never be happy with him if he annoys you. He doesn't respect you, doesn't respect your feelings then why should you respect his? He will continue to act stupid and you will say nothing just to please him and this will kill you from the inside.
Just shut that door and don't look back. Make a new path towards your own happiness.

enderThreads: 13 Posts: 528 Joined: Nov 7, 09 ♂	Dec 20, 10, 00:05 #9
tygrys: Who cares what his mother thinks Do you care what your mum thinks? Stop listening teenager who lives wit mum.

warszawskiThreads: 60 Posts: 2,389 Joined: May 21, 10 ♂	Dec 20, 10, 00:39 #10
Atosha: I was so shocked and people in work saw what he done and asked me if I wanted to report him as it is deemed as a form of bullying. I said no but I sent him a text telling him its over and he's not to expect me to go to his mum's for Christmas dinner. I am sorry, but I think you both have a bit of growing up to do.

tygrysThreads: 2 Posts: 404 Joined: Dec 28, 07 ♂	Dec 20, 10, 05:43 #11
ender: mum You must be a limey, lol. A mum is a flower and a mummy is a dead guy in Egypt.

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enderThreads: 13 Posts: 528 Joined: Nov 7, 09 ♂	Dec 20, 10, 22:35 #13
tygrys: You must be a limey, lol. limey is still better then rotten grass

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