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Are Turkish men and Polish girls be happy together?

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MidasThreads: 2 Posts: 788 Joined: Jul 19, 10 ♂	Apr 20, 11, 18:40 #121
No probs, I got one Turkey related question... Would You mind a Polish Christian guy wooing Your sister, then having her move over to Poland and marrying her? And what's with that honor killings thing, I asked Your compatriot, but he ignored the question. Cheers :-)

SESUA

Apr 21, 11, 10:14 #122

listen... as ı told before there are tradıtıons and beıng understandıng ıs the most important thıng... so ıf you want a gırl from turkey who has a tradıtıonal famıly.you should be respectful to the tradıtıons...after ıt theır famıly wıll trust you... because theır daughters feelıngs are ımportant for them...and you should go and gaın theır respect...there wıll not be any problem..ı have seen enough example...the questıon ıs her and your mentalıty wıll end ın happıness or not??.. firstly both of you should belıeve thıs...every famıly wants theır son or daughter be happy...and next tıme please have a polıte way to ask a questıon..."honour kıllıng" is not a tradıtıon. is she cheatıng her husband? or someone ıs usıng force to be wıth her? of course ın thıs case people wıll get angry....everyone gets angry.but ıt doesnt mean that ıt wıll end up wıth honour kıllıng.and ıt s now rare ın turkey.. and also it s not because who causes thıs sıtuatıon ıs a chrıstıan but because the way people are behavıng bad to the person who ıs precıous for them.ıf there ıs nothıng wrong , there wıll be nothıng wrong. ı mean they wıll let theır daughter to marry ıf they trust the guy...
thanks for the questıon because ı thınk now we left one more prejudıce...

SESUA	Apr 21, 11, 10:26 #123
and ı want to add.. your language ıs so symphatetic.. when ı was a guıde ıt was a pleasure to be guıdıng for polish... they are lovely and know how to have fun.. we laughed danced chatted and the best times ı experıenced ın guıdıng was wıth polısh tourısts....thats why ı m here ın thıs forum now

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Edited by: Midas Apr 21, 11, 12:12 #124

1. Not going to argue about question number 1, though I consider Your opinion as bullshit, based on what I continue seeing. Turkish families ( especially the ones living in Turkey ) have a big time problem if their daughter is dating "outside", not to mention getting married.

2. Question number 2:

nd next tıme please have a polıte way to ask a questıon

Asked the question VERY politely, don't get why You're getting so hot and bothered, old chap.

there are tradıtıons and beıng understandıng ıs the most important thıng

Not if one of these traditions is murder.

you should be respectful to the tradıtıons.

See above.

honour kıllıng.and ıt s now rare ın turkey

Experts don't agree. Quite the contrary in fact.

Government figures released in February suggest murders of women increased 14-fold in seven years, from 66 in 2002, to 953 in the first seven months of 2009. In the past seven months, one rights organization has compiled more than 264 cases – nearly one per day – reported in the press in which a woman was killed by a family member, husband, ex-husband, or partner.

Quoted from: http://www.csmonitor.com/World/2011/0414/Turkey-grapples-with-spike-in -honor-killings

but because the way people are behavıng bad to the person who ıs precıous

You're talking about honor killings?

So You mean that the obvious way to deal with a situation in which someone is hurting "a loved one" is to kill said loved one? Lol.

Basically You gave the usual BS answer to this question that all Turks give - first You got really bothered that I asked and told me I'm being impolite because I pointed out an exisiting tradition straight out of "Conan the Barbarian", then You gave the typical Turkish male "There's nothing to see there, move along please" reply. On reality this is a huge social problem amongst Turks that is simply not being addressed at all.

SESUA

Apr 21, 11, 23:25 #125

are you kıddıng me!! please read my last sentences agaın... ı thanked you there ı dıdnt get hot or angry :) and also ı dıdnt told that the honor kıllıng ıs a tradıtıon to be respectful. because ıt ıs not a tradıtıon. ı told beıng respectful to the tradıtıons wıll make you gaın the respect of the gırls famıly.....here ıs not the place for provocation.. the aim is to answer the questıons and keep lıstenıng to the press.. thats why they are the most powerful thıng ın a country. turkey has 74 mıllıon populatıon...dıd you ask yourself why that much people are not leavıng the country if there are so much trouble? and also why every year more than 30 mıllıon tourısts are comıng to turkey? and last summer one of my polısh frıend agnıezska got marrıed wıth a turkısh guy and settled to turkey and the are lıvıng ın peace :)) ı wanted to say dont burn the house just because of a small ınsect.. not all is same! just because of the past events you cant blame whole country and natıon to be the murderers.. it s really sad...just ımagıne...what do you thınk ı m stıll here and tryıng to tell somethıng to the people??* why ı m here ın your forum do you thınk? just because ı wanted to help someone who asked about us. the aim is to "HELP". NOTHING ELSE...ıf ı m sharıng my tıme for your country and people ıt means that ı love your country and your people...and imagıne ı was sıngıng your folk songs at the bus wıth your people.that one about "a small gırl ın the forest" we are not murderers.. ı m marrıed for 7 years and ı dıdnt even hıt my wife once.take care and be optımıstıc... kisses to all poland from turkey

SESUA	Apr 21, 11, 23:49 #126
turkey has more than 40 different ethnıc group living in anatolia...also people from all relıgıons are lıvıng here and getting married to each other. when it is the word "love" even the rıvers can stop flowıng...nothıng hills ;) keep the love alive and go wıth ıt;)

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Apr 29, 11, 12:06 #127

First of all, i am against multicultural marriages like polish-turkish and vice versa. In friendship stage, it would be the best, but we must think twice and more at marriage level.

As a Turkish guy, i have to say that, love should not be transformed to assimilation.

Yes, i agree that most of European girls are beautiful like most Turkish girls, but we must consider the "religional" and "traditional" side.

Sorry for my stereotypes at all. But a great percentage of Polish girls are Catholic Christian and devout. I don't say this to offend Christianity. I respect them.

After the love process, as a Muslim guy, we will see the reality of christianity.

Anybody, doesnt matter for woman and man, does not want to cut off their religional and cultural connections for their love. After marriage, it will be annoying to "teach" cultural things to their children. Which one will be teached them? It will confuse minds at all and bring many conflicts to them. Finally, one side will sacrifice his/her character and behave like others nationality. That would be the worst thing than physical torture i think.

As a summarization : Global friendships, but local marriage for non-conflict world!

z_dariusThreads: 22 Posts: 5,091 Joined: Oct 18, 07 ♂	Apr 29, 11, 18:19 #128
farouk: As a summarization : Global friendships, but local marriage for non-conflict world! While I'd say there should be a margin to allow for deviation from this proposition, in general, it sounds very reasonable. I like your post a lot but I ain't marrying you.

faroukThreads: 4 Posts: 11 Joined: Mar 27, 11 ♂	Apr 30, 11, 14:52 #129
z_darius: I like your post a lot but I ain't marrying you. thank you for your interest :-D But "C'est la vie!" (In French "That is the life!") I see so many people in Turkey that prefers to marry with non-Turkish women because of sexual desire. I hate it, because we are not animals, we are people. I have tried to explain this in my general view. That is the reality that we must consider it.

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Feb 9, 12, 19:50 #130

Midas:

No probs, I got one Turkey related question...

Would You mind a Polish Christian guy wooing Your sister, then having her move over to Poland and marrying her?

And what's with that honor killings thing, I asked Your compatriot, but he ignored the question.

Cheers :-)

Yes please! I have 5 sisters and I have no problem any of them marrying a Christian or any other religion, and yes I am Turkish.

Honor killings are perpetrated by the most ignorant of all in Turkey. They do not set the standard. That kind of outrageous things happen all over the world, in some developed countries too (well may be USA is not that developed!). So let's us not use honor killings to paint all of Turkish nation.

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Edited by: Midas Feb 9, 12, 20:35 #131

Honor killings are perpetrated by the most ignorant of all in Turkey. They do not set the standard. That kind of outrageous things happen all over the world, in some developed countries too (well may be USA is not that developed!). So let's us not use honor killings to paint all of Turkish nation.

And the families doing the honor killings in the States are of course white, corn-fed, anglo-saxon Americans?

In Sweden I take it is all these evil blonde Scandinavian modern vikings slaughtering their daughters?

Because you see, I was labouring under the impression that it is Muslims, Kurds and sometimes Indians who moved to another country but kept a barbarian tradition.

And a Turk calling USA a non-developed country --> good joke.

Glupek	Feb 9, 12, 21:24 #132
Midas: Because you see, I was labouring under the impression that it is Muslims, Kurds and sometimes Indians who moved to another country but kept a barbarian tradition. Give it a rest, my self pitying Jewish friend. Cutting of a bit of your tinkle is a barbaric tradition too. Are jewish men still marrying their niece's in Israel? Sick.

CrowThreads: 367 Posts: 7,316 Joined: Feb 14, 07 ♂ [Suspended]	Feb 9, 12, 21:42 #133
Are Turkish men and Polish girls be happy together? ask her father.

UshatekThreads: 1 Posts: 17 Joined: Feb 15, 12 ♂	Feb 16, 12, 13:21 #134
I have a question. Do Armenian people in Turkey make these "honour killing" or "honour suicides"?